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Topic: Dating vs Come Over and Chill
Posted By: sexyandfamous
Subject: Dating vs Come Over and Chill
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 5:45pm
Does he think youre worth taking out of the house

While watching the first season of Game of Thrones something struck me about the medieval world they live in. Every woman has value. From the whores to the princesses to the Queen, none sold themselves short of what they were worth. We have this violent world where powerful men do battle, but not once do we see a woman throw herself at a man because of his status. If you want easy coochie you pay for it, if you want the prettiest girl in the land, you make her your wife before you even get to taste it. Isn’t it ironic that in a much more civilized world, the value of women has degenerated and the value of so-called “Hoes” has risen? There was something on twitter about a $200 date, and it was hilarious how some dudes went off with the broke Brotha anthem of, “If I pay that much I better be “. The outrage not only speaks to the lack of value modern day men place on females, but it also speaks on the fact that a lot of women are out here spoiling men with cheap coochie. I’m not talking about placing a monetary value on your vagina, but there should be an investment on his part to prove that he is serious about you.  Time and energy are the biggest investment a man can make to show that it’s real. If he spends time getting to know you, then puts in the energy to see you and put a smile on your face, he’s committed to something. It could be getting the coochie or it could be getting a girlfriend, it doesn’t really matter initially, as long as he’s showing that you have value. If a man values a woman, he respects her, and only from that respect can a real relationship grow. One of the biggest complaints I hear is that there is no more courting; men don’t put in work. Everything would be perfect if the guy you really liked made an effort to do all of the romantic things guys are suppose to do when trying to court a woman. I laugh at that sh*t, because men figured out a long time ago that a woman who’s thirsty for love is worse than a guy who’s thirsty for coochie. No matter how loud you complain about not going out, never spending real time, or feeling unappreciated, if you like him enough you will continue to talk to this kind of man. Let me break it down with a Hoe example, because they stay winning. Remember I’m talking about Hoes who for things, not sluts who because of things. Hoe is such a cool word to say, many people confuse the two.  Unlike a slut, a Hoe isn’t going to a guy because she think he’s cute or is driving something nice, she’s going to him because she’s getting broken off with something of value.

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/toast-to-paying-that-bill.jpg" rel="nofollow">toast to paying that bill So we have a Savvy Hoe in this corner she’s cute, knows how to accentuate her positives, and bait men. In the other corner, we have a Classy Lady. She thinks she’s classy because she has morals and doesn’t care what a man has, only if he’s nice to her. Our Classy Lady meets a guy, starts to talk to him daily on the phone, and after a week this feels real because the Brotha has game. Classy Lady wants to see her new boo, and keeps asking when they’re going to go on a date. The guy is too busy to go out to dinner and a movie, but she can come over anytime after work. Maybe she shouldn’t go over his house this early in a relationship, she’s classy, but they talk everyday and it feels like she’s known him forever. She promises herself she’s going to stay classy and not do anything sexual with him. HA! So the classy lady goes over the guy’s house to chill. Maybe she *&%^$#@Es him, maybe she doesn’t, but 9 out of 10 times, it’s already a wrap because once a guy knows you’re a “Come Over And Chill” girl he’s going to have you coming over all the time until he smashes. You’ll meet his family, spend time in-between sex talking about life, dropping hints about a relationship you want to be in, and you’ll think it’s going somewhere. Once he smashes and gets his fill of your cheap coochie that he didn’t have to work for, he’ll get busy again. Watch him make an excuse as to why you can’t come over this week, and a few weeks after that the only communication comes in the form of half ass text messages. The Classy Lady just got GOT.

The Hoe on the other hand isn’t thirsty for love; she’s more concerned with getting in his pocket than getting a boyfriend. The Hoe meets the same guy, but she’s not going to come over and chill with him, she’s going to tell him (Hoes always tell, never ask) to meet her at some swanky restaurant, she’s going to eat and drink, play with his dick in the car, then leave while he’s hard. The guy’s turned on, she touched his dick on the first date, so in his “I’m a pimp” mind he’s confident he can shorty the next time. That entire first date was a bait to get this Brotha open, in the words of Andre 3 Stacks, “These Hoes Are Smart…”  Homie tries to get her to chill at the crib, but again the Hoe avoids the basic bitch house date, and continues to get him out in public where she can spend his money and do her Trick research to see if homeboy is cashing out or in the struggle. If he has a few dollars then she’ll keep seeing him, his brains out after she gets a pair of shoes or a bag, and see what else she can get with her coochie MasterCard. The catch is she’s secretly doing the same sh*t with one or two other potential sponsors, auditioning these Brothas until she hits the jackpot. If he’s a broke dude, she’ll keep the coochie, stop answering his calls and move on to the next dude who’s holding, hurting his ego and breaking his heart because this trick thought he had her open. Hoes are the reason men fear $200 dates and run the opposite direction when a girl asks, “can you get my hair done” because they probably got took or knows a few dudes who got took by Hoes. Don’t think because some Hoes are winning that you should follow that lifestyle, little ghetto boys shouldn’t drop out of school and try to become Tony Montana, and frustrated girls shouldn’t close their heart and start hoeing—few are built for that life. However keep one thing in the back of your mind when thinking about Hoes—Value. A Hoe knows her value, it may be a ratchet ass Juicy Couture bag or it may be a condo on South Beach, either way she got something. A real lady of class has to know her worth too, not the worth of her coochie, but the worth of her heart. It all starts with courting and how a man treats you on that first date…




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Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 5:46pm

The Come Over And Chill Girl:

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/Lets-Chill-baby.jpg" rel="nofollow">Lets Chill baby If you see a commercial for Olive Garden and tweet, “I wish someone would take me out to eat” yet you have a “friend”, you’re losing. The “friend” you’ve been on and off for months should be taking you out to eat, not the strangers on your timeline. If a Brotha hasn’t treated you to the movies since Taken came out, you’re losing. Liam Nesson’s found time to do ten movies since Taken; you couldn’t find one guy who liked you enough to pay 3D non-matinee prices? Why the are you settling for date night at a bum Brotha’s crib that consists of hard dick, reheated chipotle, and a bootleg Kevin Hart DVD? It blows my mind how women get caught up with a user, let him put all kinds of mileage on her coochie, and never see the inside of his car during the daytime. Time and Energy! He’s investing time to talk a good game and get you open enough to come over, but where’s the energy? The hardest part of relationships for lazy men isn’t talking on the phone and playing the “I really like you” game, it’s leaving his comfort zone to go out. Finding something to wear, gassing the car up, thinking of somewhere to take her, missing his NBA2K online league—is that really work? Brothas do not want to be bothered with taking a girl out, its energy they would rather spend doing sh*t they actually want to do. Some Trailblazer had a genius idea years ago, he came up with the concept of “come over and chill” which is Latin for “You’re not worth the effort so come over, sit on the edge of my bed, watch Netflix, and drink this Peach Ciroc until you’re tipsy enough to let me finger you“. Delivery coochie– brilliant!

Women actually fell for this come over and chill bullsh*t because for those ladies thirsty for love it’s better to sit on the edge of a new guy’s bed and get molested than to sit on the edge of your own bed and Facebook stalk your Ex. Just because going over to chill is something to do, doesn’t mean it’s something you should do. Ask to go on date, better yet, steal a little bit of confidence from the Hoes and TELL him you want to go on a date. Stop being happy just to have a man like you! Not only is he supposed to like you he is supposed to worship you. Your charisma should be so electrifying that any guy who is privileged enough to go out on a date with you should be going out to buy new clothes, getting his car waxed, and scouring Yelp for the most romantic places he could take you on a first date. Getting a bad chick to say “yes” to a date should be like winning the lottery, don’t let him take you for granted as if you’re just another bitch. You are the Queen of Sparta, owner of a 24-karat coochie that these peasants aren’t even worthy to smell. Show confidence, and you will always be treated like quality! Remember you’re a lady not a Hoe, so it’s not about getting sh*t out of him except time and energy. He doesn’t have to drop a lot of money on the date to show you he values you, it’s the effort he’s putting in, not the star rating on the restaurant that’s most important. Furthermore, don’t accept his excuses; if he wants a woman of your stature then he’ll sacrifice time to make it happen. Stop letting these ordinary ass Brothas tell you how busy they are. Mark Zuckerberg is busy, Barack Obama is busy, but they found time to take the women that would later become their wives out on real dates. He had time to come pick you up, take you back to his crib, and spend two hours trying to , then he had time to take you out on a real date. Demand respect, know your value, and going over to chill.



Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 5:48pm

The Only Option Is The Best Option?

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/chilldate.png" rel="nofollow">It wont get better This one girl shot me an email trying to figure out a way to tell her “friend” that she wanted to go out and do things, and said they hadn’t gone on an official date since the first week they started talking. At the heart of the problem was her fear that if she were too pushy he would cut her off. Welcome to the wonderful world of “A sh*tty option is better than no option“. If a woman hasn’t had a guy holla at her in months, she begins to think something is wrong with her, so when a guy who’s her type finally does come around, she falls in deep. He may not take you anywhere, and you may be bored and frustrated 80% of the time, but it’s better to be talking to this lame Brotha then to be out in the club hoping for someone to come over and ask your name. Wrong! Women always have options. You like him, he’s witty, and he’s handsome—three stars. On the other hand, all he wants to do is smoke and chill, he doesn’t really want a relationship yet you’re always over his crib giving up that coochie like it’s his, and he only makes time to do things he wants to do—three strikes. Do the pros outweigh the cons? Do you like this man because he treats you good, or do you like him because he’s the only guy around to treat you at all? I talk to women all the time and I do understand that it can be hard for some to find an attractive guy who even has the nerve to ask for your number, but that’s no excuse for handcuffing yourself to the first one that asks you out.

Don’t sell yourself cheap because you like his complexion and think he’s funny. Don’t take up for his laziness and claim that you’re a homebody, you know damn well you’d jump at a chance to do something exciting. Even homebodies like to get out to six flags once in a while. Call these men out on their bullsh*t from jump street, if the Dog from Lady and the Tramp had his bitch eating Italian, a grown ass man can afford to take you out of the neighborhood. If you start a relationship by making it easy for him he’ll always treat you like a cheap date, why should he change when being lazy and not doing sh*t for you has gotten him this far? Don’t wait until you’re at your breaking point to leave him alone, the moment you feel like he’s not putting time and energy into making your friendship grow into something more, rectify it or move on. Being by yourself is always a better option than being devalued.

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/date-night.jpg" rel="nofollow">Balling I remember being cursed out by a girl I was seeing and it really opened my eyes to how females wait until the very end to voice their concerns. She had been distant the last time she came over to “chill with me” and we ended up not having sex, which really pissed me off because she lived pretty far for me to be transporting her ass for company. She called when I got home and asked why I didn’t take her out anymore, complained that I don’t make her feel pretty, and said she was sick of crying every time I dropped her off. It blew my mind at first, but I had to be honest with myself and let the truth in. I didn’t want to take her anywhere, all I wanted was to hit it when I was bored, and in the words of Onika, “If she ain’t trying to get it then she get dropped off“. We had fun, she was pretty as all hell, but something was missing, so it was dick and DirecTV for her. As much as I liked her, I didn’t value her at all. Instead of being a man and telling her after the first few weeks it wasn’t going anywhere, I continued to gas her head up and use her for what I wanted. Not once did I think about what she wanted until I was confronted on the phone that night. Here was a girl that looked like the chicks Brothas rap about, sweet and polite as she can be, and I was being a jerk, holding her back from being with a man who would have worshipped the ground she walked on. I’m glad she stood up for herself and put her foot down because she helped me become a better person, after her I never treated a woman like that again. The point is ladies; we men will take advantage of you for as long as you let us because it doesn’t feel like we’re doing anything wrong by keeping you as our Come Over And Chill Girl. In order to have a legitimate relationship we have to value her first. When beginning any new relationship no matter how serious it is or not, know your worth. Demand to be more than a Come Over And Chill Girl and regardless if he works out or not, he’ll always respect you for having the standards of a Khalessi.



Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 5:49pm
I just loved everything I read because, although I am no basic b!tch, I have made the mistake of falling for the old "come over and chill" instead of being treated to a real date.


Oh, and I got all that from
http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2012/06/dating-vs-come-over-and-chill.html" rel="nofollow - http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2012/06/dating-vs-come-over-and-chill.html


Posted By: jimmy_rustle
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 6:35pm
dating is the same thing as coming over and chill.  If a guy wants you to come over, chill and fuck maybe he is just into making a big deal out of "dating", it is not necessarily and insult to the woman.  

The idea that a guy whining and dining you means he likes you more and is more respective is also flawed, too many guys try to buy affection, which women should find more insulting.  


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 7:02pm
Word. Only by watching if his actions and his words match that one can be sure that the guy likes her or just wants some sex.


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 10:50pm
No man makes excuses not to see a woman he likes, but he will create a laundry list to avoid the women he doesn’t like. Open your f*cking eyes, if he was down for you, he would be around you. Where’s that man you’re refusing to talk to other guys for? Where’s that man you’ve been bragging about online? Where’s the man that you’re thinking about right now? He’s where he wants to be, and clearly that isn’t with you.

http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2013/01/unavailableoruninterested.html" rel="nofollow - http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2013/01/unavailableoruninterested.html


Posted By: missdeeluxe
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 11:16pm
This is the TRUTH.
Clap

I feel like everything is so black and white with men and us women try and add all these gray areas to justify certain actions.
(See, "He's Just Not That Into You" or that episode of SATC where Carrie introduces Berger to her friends)

If he wants to take you out, he will.
He has no reason to if you're still gonna come over, watch Netflix, and let him smash.




Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 11:30pm
@missdeeluxe OMG I know what you're talking about, I read the book and I watched that episode of SATC! It was hilarious in the end when Miranda tried to spread the info to a girl who was finding excuses for this guy who wasn't calling and the girl called her a b*tch! That's exactly how many girls take the truth nowadays: it's right on their face - the guy just wants to hit it - but they insist that he is having a "hard time" at work.....


Posted By: missdeeluxe
Date Posted: Apr 02 2013 at 11:46pm
Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

@missdeeluxe OMG I know what you're talking about, I read the book and I watched that episode of SATC! It was hilarious in the end when Miranda tried to spread the info to a girl who was finding excuses for this guy who wasn't calling and the girl called her a b*tch! That's exactly how many girls take the truth nowadays: it's right on their face - the guy just wants to hit it - but they insist that he is having a "hard time" at work.....

Exactly!

I feel like relationships and dating in general is so much less stressful and confusing if you just take the guy approach and be straight forward with everything.

I just gave the guy I've been casually seeing an ultimatum and he stepped up, surprise surprise.
LOL



Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Apr 04 2013 at 9:43am
Geesg that was wayy to much info to read and no paragraphs to break it up.
 
Basicsally,
 
Courtship: if the guy is into the girl he will take her out. He has to COURT HER in order to gain her favor - this will go on for several months WITHOUT SEX
Relationship: After an extended courtship THAT IS EXCLUSIVE they can agree on a relationship and not date anyone else.
Marriage: When you bring it all to the level of COMMITTMENT (hopfully) for life.
 
The problem is women are so will to tolerate any old thing and call it a 'relationship'. They the man skip all the steps ... and hit the sheet by the 3 rd date so that by the time she figures out he's a rat .. she's already kindof emotional bound to him. So then... she feels she's gotta STAY with that loser.
 
If she had waited .. she would have still figured out what he was .. but she could have easily stop aswering his texts .. and dumped him.
 
 
 


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 04 2013 at 5:59pm
So true, Printer.
And BHM isn't letting me fix the first page, so the paragraphs will remain that way.Confused



Posted By: goodm3
Date Posted: Apr 12 2013 at 3:21pm
Its so sad that women don't know their worth. I was having a conversation with a friend about this guy she likes. She basically told me her first "date" with him was him coming over to her house to chill and watch a movie. She tried to justify it by saying it during the week. I told her most single guys go out to eat all the time after work so him meeting you for dinner shouldn't have been a problem. Especially were she lives he passes 50-11MILLION restaurants.  

But its also up to the women too. Guys know who will fall for the "lets chill" and who won't. Carry yourself with the upmost respect and dignity and see how men handle you. 


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 14 2013 at 4:25pm
Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Its so sad that women don't know their worth. I was having a conversation with a friend about this guy she likes. She basically told me her first "date" with him was him coming over to her house to chill and watch a movie. She tried to justify it by saying it during the week. I told her most single guys go out to eat all the time after work so him meeting you for dinner shouldn't have been a problem. Especially were she lives he passes 50-11MILLION restaurants.  

But its also up to the women too. Guys know who will fall for the "lets chill" and who won't. Carry yourself with the upmost respect and dignity and see how men handle you. 


Clap
so true! men have a different attitude (just like we have a different outfit everyday) for every woman they date/hook up with. if you let him treat you like a quick meal, he will do it so.
if you impose that you are worth more than a simple quickie, then he will treat you the way you want.



Posted By: SweetNovember*
Date Posted: Apr 14 2013 at 5:34pm
Yeah don't fall for that shyt. Set expectations from the very beginning. If he don't meet them he's gone.


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 15 2013 at 12:13pm
Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

Set expectations from the very beginning. If he don't meet them he's gone.


This.
It resumes the whole thing!


Posted By: loveandpeace1984
Date Posted: Apr 15 2013 at 6:02pm
It works every time. I love that come over and chill.



Posted By: ScorpioLuv
Date Posted: Apr 16 2013 at 3:09am
"Come over and chillll" sounds like a guy wanting to f*ck. Um, no nicca. I dont come over for that, massages or to watch a movie. Im not 17, that sh*t dont work. LOL


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Apr 16 2013 at 5:02am
LOL Yea come over and chill means something going down....I usually don't mind Embarrassed


Posted By: jimmy_rustle
Date Posted: Apr 16 2013 at 8:59pm
Dating is an antiquated racket.  Why do women still want men to buy their affection in 2013?  Why not reward a guy that you actually want regardless of how much $ he is willing to waste on you?







Posted By: loveandpeace1984
Date Posted: Apr 19 2013 at 2:10pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

LOL Yea come over and chill means something going down....I usually don't mind Embarrassed
 
This is why we are pals Clap
It don't even have to go down, we could have a great discussion. I rather know the person first than start wasting money on someone. If I like them as for my track record, I have no problem doing dates and all of that. I just want to make sure it's real we don't have to be at my place, just somewhere we can talk and get to know each other and not wait 6 months when feelings are starting to be caught when we realize they aren't the one.


Posted By: KhadiNiaomi
Date Posted: Apr 20 2013 at 8:38am
I invited a guy over my house that I liked to chill, we were just "friends", there was obvious attraction between us two but we never spoke about it. Even though I took a risk, we ended up having a really good conversation and alot of laughter. I honestly dont like the whole lets go to a restaurant or movies just to "chill", thats wasting money, to talk. I prefer to go to the park, or somewhere to just chill and talk.


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 20 2013 at 3:36pm
Originally posted by KhadiNiaomi KhadiNiaomi wrote:

I invited a guy over my house that I liked to chill, we were just "friends", there was obvious attraction between us two but we never spoke about it. Even though I took a risk, we ended up having a really good conversation and alot of laughter. I honestly dont like the whole lets go to a restaurant or movies just to "chill", thats wasting money, to talk. I prefer to go to the park, or somewhere to just chill and talk.


I think as long as you keep control of you and what you want - which is to get to know him better without giving the prize away without a relationship or at least some dating - is what matters.



Posted By: MaPetite
Date Posted: Apr 22 2013 at 2:58am
When I was single, guys always tended to ask me to "hang out"; seeing as I don't know what this "hanging out" meant my answer was always no without asking for clarification. I figured if they didn't know to ask me on a date they weren't my type. All guys focus on is the cost of the dates... it's like nicca please, nobody needs your money to eat, however I'll be damned if I'm gonna come over and sit on the edge of your bed so you can "get to know me". A date doesn't have to mean a 5 star restaurant, most of you guys are just making excuses, if you wanted to talk and get to know someone without wasting money ask them to grab a cup of coffee. 


Posted By: Majesty02
Date Posted: Apr 29 2013 at 9:43am

 I think it depends on several factors. Usually if a guy justs "wanna come over, chill & get a Redbox movie" within the first couple dates, it means one of the following:

 

A.     He’s young

B.     He’s cheap as h*ll

C.     He’s not that into you, and places low value on you.

D.     He’s just wants sex

E.     He’s use to most of his females falling for this nonsense. So he wants to see if you’ll let him get away with it.

 

I also think it depends on how you carry yourself and the caliber of men you attract/date. Most sensible mature men know that if they have a woman of substance it will require some work to obtain her, and to keep her interested.  Majority of the men I date know not to try me with that “lemme come ova eh chill gyal”.  Lol. I usually don’t allow a man to chill at my house, or go to his until after at least 2 mths of consistent dating.   



Posted By: demilee27
Date Posted: Apr 30 2013 at 1:36am
exactly, I have to tell men all the time that I dont go over a mans house until I feel comfortable. When they ask for my number and we first talk and he askes me what I wanna do, I say we can meet at a coffee house and talk.


Posted By: Allure.
Date Posted: May 05 2013 at 7:10am
Clap Good read!


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: May 05 2013 at 10:01am
That website has much more stuff, I read everything already haha


Posted By: Allure.
Date Posted: May 05 2013 at 10:58pm
Im torn on some parts of these scenarios. 

Putting $$ value on ur vagina, is not going to get u a quality man. If a man wants u just for sex, he'll spend money on u, make u feel special, put game on u...have sex with u...and leave u. Then, that woman ends up getting played, right? OR was she playing herself the whole time? Those standards meant nothing to the man, he played his part in your life and met all of your requirements for the moment, only because he wanted sex.

How a man feels about u determines if he will stay with u. He's not staying around just because he spent money on u, took u on a few expensive fancy dates...none of that. How he genuinely feels about u determines if he will leave or stay. Having sex on the first date won't necessarily put u in the hoe zone in a man's mind. Chilling at home and watching Netflix with a guy doesn't automatically mean he won't ever take u seriously. 

My relationship with my husband started out chilling together, watching movies and anime, and ordering take out. We just wanted to be around each other, and spent as much of it together as possible.  We both had busy schedules, so our time together were our escapes and we loved it. Call it cheap dates if u want to. It was what was good for us. We eventually started going out more when he stopped working so much and moved closer to me. There were fancy expensive dates, and what u would call "cheap dates". But every moment was special to us. Even a picnic at the botanical gardens were special, because of the creativity and effort he put into it.


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: May 06 2013 at 9:08am
I haven't read the article I posted in this thread in a while but in another post on that website, it says that the guy doesn't have to spend top money to show he likes you, especially because some men spend money just to take the girl to bed.

So, it's not about how much money the guy spends on you but how much time he spends with you and the quality of that time. If all he wants is for you to come over so he can try to get into your pants, most likely he just wants you for sex.


Posted By: Allure.
Date Posted: May 07 2013 at 2:39am

Exactly! Some women just need to realize that just because he's courting you, and spending money on u, does not automatically mean he's taking u seriously. He could be using u for sex just like the guy who decided not to court u, and take u anywhere. Once he gets u open sexually, the dates will stop, and the girl gets played in the end. That's not how it always goes, but it's a possibility.

 Overall, this article was really good. I like reading these topics from the guy's perspective.


Posted By: Blac1Chyna
Date Posted: May 09 2013 at 7:28am
Chilling with a man is worthless.if that's the best he can do it's only going downhill from there, and what's lower than the bottom?

Only men who complain about dates are men who just want sex and expect sex for free and men who can't afford to take you out.why would you want either of them

I'm actually mad at girls who go for this because y'all messing up the game


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: May 09 2013 at 8:53am
I didn't read the article either but a girl has got to have standards otherwise she's just lonely and deparate so a guy take advantage.
I don't do the chill thing either. He's gotta take me out - it doesn't have to be dinner etc. It could just be for a cup of coffee or a long walk in the park - but we are not sitting around my house or his watching tv ... so that he can talk me into the bedroom. Nooo stay far away from the bedroom - period.
 
And hey, you can't get used for sex unless you actually give him sex .. so a lot of women have just gotta stop giving it up .. if they want a relationship.
 
He has to wait a good 3 - 4 months until you find out who he is and if you are both not seeing anyone else.
 
Don't bed so anxious give it up.



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