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Topic: Womens, how hard is it NOT to have kids?!?!
Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Subject: Womens, how hard is it NOT to have kids?!?!
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:20pm
Finding out a woman you interested in got kids <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

Some of you sisters need to get it together, because this Brotha over here is 'bout fed up. Geek

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I'm fed up! *flips table*



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Posted By: beautiful-stranger
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:21pm
-_____- <-- I don't have kids, but this face is for the women who do have kids that you just offended. 

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Ain't no body got time fo dat.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:22pm
Why is it offensive? I don't want a man with kids either.


Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:23pm
Why don't you ask men with 12 baby mamas these kinds of questions?

And you should talk to her anyways. If a man put one in a chick then he basically signing off saying her snapper was A1.

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: texasmami0117
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:23pm
W D F???
 
Yes women...stop getting pregnant by yourselves...brothas is getting mad


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:24pm
Maybe you're looking in the wrong places?

100% of the women I'm close with are on birth control, actually use their birth control properly (along with condoms), and have no problem going to get an abortion if for some reason they get pregnant and don't want to be.



Posted By: SimplyPut
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:24pm
When I meet some womens I'll ask themSleepy


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:24pm
Finding out a dude has kids is just as disappointing. So I aint even mad

Its nothing against them personally but




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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:24pm
I'm not interested in a man or woman with kids.

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yo


Posted By: *Belle*Femme*
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:25pm
bitch, tell these Brothas stop knocking these women up. Im almost 30 with no kids, so what you talking bout Brotha. SMH

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Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:25pm
You niccas need to stop nuttin in everything walking and start using condoms. It's more men with a bunch of kids than women.



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Make love, not war.


Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:26pm
Everyone who falls for this, I wish upon you triplets right now.

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Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:26pm
Well damn, belle.   


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:27pm
Originally posted by *Belle*Femme* *Belle*Femme* wrote:

bitch, tell these Brothas stop knocking these women up. Im almost 30 with no kids, so what you talking bout Brotha. SMH


^^^
*waves at the unicorn*


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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:28pm
It takes two ppl to get prego.... he aint dating men so his concern isnt with them.

You owe it to yaself to protect yo body.... dont leave that responsibility in the hands of no one else.  Its part of being sexually responsible.Thumbs Up


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Posted By: laceyfront
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:28pm
I have a child and I would never in my life date a man with children.

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Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:29pm
Ladies, raise your hands if you are childless. 0/

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:31pm
Originally posted by laceyfront laceyfront wrote:

I have a child and I would never in my life date a man with children.


You should start.

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:32pm
Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

Originally posted by *Belle*Femme* *Belle*Femme* wrote:

bitch, tell these Brothas stop knocking these women up. Im almost 30 with no kids, so what you talking bout Brotha. SMH


^^^
*waves at the unicorn*


Boy please...there are lots of us.

I'm 27, no kids. My 3 closest friends are 26, 27, and 28 with no kids. My sisters are 25, 27, and 34 with no kids. Don't let me get started naming all my sorors who are 25-35 with no kids.




Posted By: Limalady
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:32pm
I do wonder why some people have more children than others. I wish I had kids though.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:36pm
I always found it interesting when ppl with kids refuse to date ppl with kids. One chick on another forum with 3 kids refused to date a guy with 1 kid because she wanted someone who made her their top priority but they would never be hers and they would need to accept that.


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Posted By: newin2009
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:36pm
I was married for 7 years, then got pregnant, stayed married another 2 years, and now I am divorced. My husband is the reason for the divorce. Now, I'm 31 with a 3 year old. Am I in your category too? I think any man would deem me a good woman(smart, successful, good mom) to be with, with my child. Children are not the worst thing to happen to a woman. You may not know the circumstance as to why she is a single mother. And you may miss out on a good woman b/c she has a child/ren. Where are you finding your women? What are you bringing to the table too?
But since you did this thread for sh*ts and giggles, here you goLOL (and you do realize when a woman has a child, there is a man involved, rightBig smile)


Posted By: chrissypoo
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:37pm
Maybe you should go for women who have real life goals. They are less likely to have bastard babies because they know it would get in the way of their goals. Illegitimate kids are more common among those who don't have much to lose so they don't make the effort to prevent it.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:38pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Bout the time I'm ready to settle down and have children (+28), I ain't even gonna be looking at women my age cause I already know they gonna have bout 1-2 kids already. I've accepted that people want to have kids early. Getting pregnant ain't an accident, I don't buy that ish. If u fuccin raw, u know it could end in a baby. EVERYTIME I go raw in a chick I leave her a couple dollars for a Plan B pill and the number to her nearest clinic so she can handle that if she needs to.


I'd spend the money on a mani pedi and we'd be parents in 9 mths.


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:38pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Bout the time I'm ready to settle down and have children (+28), I ain't even gonna be looking at women my age cause I already know they gonna have bout 1-2 kids already. I've accepted that people want to have kids early. Getting pregnant ain't an accident, I don't buy that ish. If u fuccin raw, u know it could end in a baby. EVERYTIME I go raw in a chick I leave her a couple dollars for a Plan B pill and the number to her nearest clinic so she can handle that if she needs to.


Ew.

You gon' have 4 babies and at least 2 std's (and one will be incurable) by the time you're "ready to settle down".


Posted By: *Belle*Femme*
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:39pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Well damn, belle.   
LOLLOL. I took the bait from this Midge Beatz. 

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Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:41pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

If a man put one in a chick then he basically signing off saying her snapper was A1.


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:42pm
Originally posted by chrissypoo chrissypoo wrote:

Maybe you should go for women who have real life goals. They are less likely to have bastard babies because they know it would get in the way of their goals. Illegitimate kids are more common among those who don't have much to lose so they don't make the effort to prevent it.
Well damn.


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"You're telling us your beefing with your bf's mother over $1 ice cream like it was blood diamonds." RickyR



Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:43pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Bout the time I'm ready to settle down and have children (+28), I ain't even gonna be looking at women my age cause I already know they gonna have bout 1-2 kids already. I've accepted that people want to have kids early. Getting pregnant ain't an accident, I don't buy that ish. If u fuccin raw, u know it could end in a baby. EVERYTIME I go raw in a chick I leave her a couple dollars for a Plan B pill and the number to her nearest clinic so she can handle that if she needs to.

LMFAOOO Brotha you a scumbag DeadDead

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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:45pm
I hate when single fathers tell me that their kids dont live with them as if that makes it better....its even more of a turn off.

Id smang a single father tho


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Posted By: nekamarie83
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:45pm
People didn't seriously answer this shït did they?

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Posted By: sache1991
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:45pm
In the animal kingdom, I always found the lion and the act of infanticide riveting. Shocked

I'm not about that step-dad life....maybe if the women was a widow. Geek




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Posted By: laceyfront
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:45pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Originally posted by laceyfront laceyfront wrote:

I have a child and I would never in my life date a man with children.


You should start.
lol Im married, but if I was a single mom I wouldnt do it bump that LOL

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Posted By: Limalady
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:48pm
What is so bad about kids? I'd date a man with kids, if he was stable.


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:48pm
Originally posted by chrissypoo chrissypoo wrote:

Maybe you should go for women who have real life goals. They are less likely to have bastard babies because they know it would get in the way of their goals. Illegitimate kids are more common among those who don't have much to lose so they don't make the effort to prevent it.

Smh that's what I thought I was doing!

She in school and everything!


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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:50pm
Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

People didn't seriously answer this shït did they?
Yes they did. BHM don't neva learn.LOL 


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Posted By: laceyfront
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:51pm
Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

Originally posted by chrissypoo chrissypoo wrote:

Maybe you should go for women who have real life goals. They are less likely to have bastard babies because they know it would get in the way of their goals. Illegitimate kids are more common among those who don't have much to lose so they don't make the effort to prevent it.

Smh that's what I thought I was doing!

She in school and everything!
I have to agree with Chrissypoo must young women about something kill them babies in the womb, aint nobody got time for that Cry

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Posted By: *Belle*Femme*
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:51pm
Originally posted by *Belle*Femme* *Belle*Femme* wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Well damn, belle.   
LOLLOL. I took the bait from Midge Beatz. 


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Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:51pm
Originally posted by bunzaveli bunzaveli wrote:

Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

If a man put one in a chick then he basically signing off saying her snapper was A1.

sadly, i understand what she's saying


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Posted By: Limalady
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:52pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by Limalady Limalady wrote:

What is so bad about kids? I'd date a man with kids, if he was stable.


they aren't their's

just answering your question
 
True. I wouldn't care though. I mean, my SO doesn't have kids, but I wouldn't care. Luckily, I have never had that concern. I don't think I could pay someone to knock me up without being married. Maybe it is the kind of men I date though.


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:53pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

Originally posted by chrissypoo chrissypoo wrote:

Maybe you should go for women who have real life goals. They are less likely to have bastard babies because they know it would get in the way of their goals. Illegitimate kids are more common among those who don't have much to lose so they don't make the effort to prevent it.

Smh that's what I thought I was doing!

She in school and everything!


elaborate

She say she going to school in social work, or some sh*t.


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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:54pm
Originally posted by laceyfront laceyfront wrote:

Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

Originally posted by chrissypoo chrissypoo wrote:

Maybe you should go for women who have real life goals. They are less likely to have bastard babies because they know it would get in the way of their goals. Illegitimate kids are more common among those who don't have much to lose so they don't make the effort to prevent it.

Smh that's what I thought I was doing!

She in school and everything!
I have to agree with Chrissypoo must young women about something kill them babies in the womb, aint nobody got time for that Cry


This is probably true...I want to LOL but that's probably not appropriate.


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:58pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

man just cause a chick in school don't mean a damn thing!!! hoodrats graduated high school in your hood right??!! these hoodrats going to college too!!




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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 1:59pm
Sleepy

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you say i need some time to meditate...naaaaah b*tch i'm fly! i need time to levitate... ~yeezy


dacoldesteva


Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:01pm
Originally posted by bunzaveli bunzaveli wrote:


Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

If a man put one in a chick then he basically signing off saying her snapper was A1.


Men not riskin a child for trash coochie. If he came in her then that cutty musta been amazing.

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:02pm
Originally posted by Limalady Limalady wrote:

What is so bad about kids? I'd date a man with kids, if he was stable.



Im not ready to deal with that as another aspect of a relationship. There is no way to enter into a relationship with a person who has kid and keep that relationship separate. If u date them ur dating their kids as well.  Im not ready for that... Im admittedly selfish that if want to do something at the last minute with my SO i dont want to know if he has a sitter on call or if its his week with his kids and they have to come with.... Nah


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Posted By: sache1991
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:07pm
There is a whole lot more that comes with dating someone with a child and what if the kid is ugly? Confused

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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:07pm
I don't like men with kids for a number of reasons.
I need a lot of attention.
Kids have a lot of needs and they will be the fathers number one duty hopefully.
Then there is the baby mother dynamic

Also I want to give birth to our first child



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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
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Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: hauteshellbi
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:08pm
That avi is sooooo unsexy I cringe everytime he winks *pukes*




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Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:08pm
Originally posted by sache1991 sache1991 wrote:

There is a whole lot more that comes with dating someone with a child and what if the kid is ugly? Confused
Ermm


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you say i need some time to meditate...naaaaah b*tch i'm fly! i need time to levitate... ~yeezy


dacoldesteva


Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:10pm
Men with children hate they baby mamas and will talk about them every chance they get. If you'll sh*t on the mother of your child you'll sh*t on me too.

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:11pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Originally posted by bunzaveli bunzaveli wrote:


Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

If a man put one in a chick then he basically signing off saying her snapper was A1.


Men not riskin a child for trash coochie. If he came in her then that cutty musta been amazing.
i doubt that is true. 
most men who are frequently going without protection, don't care whether it is "trash" or "amazing"
they care that they can, and that its there. 


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Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:12pm
LMAO you would think Nancy got 5 kids the way she's posting in here.

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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: sache1991
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:12pm
Going raw makes any normal cooch feel better.

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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:12pm
Some men aren't deterred by it though and some women aren't either

A classmate of mine is 22 with 4 kids each one year apart with three different fathers.
These negros care not

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:13pm
Originally posted by sache1991 sache1991 wrote:

There is a whole lot more that comes with dating someone with a child and what if the kid is ugly? Confused


If a nga dates Tiny after he lays eyes on King and Major then it must be love.


Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:14pm
Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

LMAO you would think Nancy got 5 kids the way she's posting in here.



Somebody gotta defend the single mothers. Would it be better if I trashed talked them?

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:17pm
i wouldn't trust anyone going without protection. 
especially those in HIV hot zones. 

you stupid and nasty. 


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And Jean Paul Gaultier and a Hermes bag and four inch tips made of ostrich ;Sharp enough to slit your wrists her lips spread gossip ;Won't say sorry when she offends


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:17pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

LMAO you would think Nancy got 5 kids the way she's posting in here.



Somebody gotta defend the single mothers. Would it be better if I trashed talked them?

Smh in the Black community, single mothers get defended enough as it is.

Your defense isn't necessary.


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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: sache1991
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:19pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by sache1991 sache1991 wrote:

There is a whole lot more that comes with dating someone with a child and what if the kid is ugly? Confused


If a nga dates Tiny after he lays eyes on King and Major then it must be love.

Just Google'd them kids. Ouch

I'm being real though. I'm 6'2'' 200lbs. pretty brown skin, firm ass and a handsome face...I want my kids to look like me not like some random Brotha from a prior relationship. That's one of the reason I can't get a white chick pregnant...what I look like walking around town with a little oreo with green eyes looking nothing like me? 


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Posted By: Qualified
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:19pm
I do not date men with kids- so I wont judge you OP. Though the pickings for both men and women are getting really slim, considering, those of us without kids are in the minority. We may have to fucc around and concede.

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I Would rather eat crumbs with bums than share steak with snakes-

The token "instigatory thanks" on nonsenical posts always kill me.


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:21pm
Don't do it Qualy.
Fight the good fight

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:21pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Men with children hate they baby mamas and will talk about them every chance they get. If you'll sh*t on the mother of your child you'll sh*t on me too.


I don't know if they all hate them per se, but I've met few who speak positively about the baby mama.

I dated a guy who was planning on ruining his ex-wife's career because he was mad at her. That let me know everything I needed to know about him.


Posted By: Qualified
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:23pm
I dont believe I've ever heard a straight man describe his skin as "pretty," or his posterior in such great detail. You, Sache, are blowing my mind, each time you click "post reply!"

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I Would rather eat crumbs with bums than share steak with snakes-

The token "instigatory thanks" on nonsenical posts always kill me.


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:24pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Don't do it Qauly.
Fight the good fight


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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:24pm
Originally posted by Qualified Qualified wrote:

I do not date men with kids- so I wont judge you OP. Though the pickings for both men and women are getting really slim, considering, those of us without kids are in the minority. We may have to fucc around and concede.


NEVERRRRRRR!!!

Might have to look a little harder. But I'll concede on some other things before children. It's a complete deal breaker.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:28pm
Ive already been with a man with a child. It was horrible. I loved his daughter but the mother was a lunatic. The girl started trying to call me mommy and I kept telling her not to. Then her mom started telling her to say, "I don't have to listen to you, you're not my mommy.", "daddy is my mommys boyfriend."...it was a mess. I was young and naive. Never ever ever ever again.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:31pm
i avoid men who speak badly of their exes...baby or not...

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you say i need some time to meditate...naaaaah b*tch i'm fly! i need time to levitate... ~yeezy


dacoldesteva


Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:32pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

i avoid men who speak badly of their exes...baby or not...

Why?


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I'm fed up! *flips table*


Posted By: babyk94
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:33pm
I would never date a guy with a kid or kids, specially not at my age!


Posted By: sache1991
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:35pm
Originally posted by Qualified Qualified wrote:

I dont believe I've ever heard a straight man describe his skin as "pretty," or his posterior in such great detail. You, Sache, are blowing my mind, each time you click "post reply!"


Speaking badly about their ex just out the blue is weird, but if asked about their previous relationships and they give their honest opinion...I don't see a problem.


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Posted By: YoursTruly
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:36pm
Originally posted by laceyfront laceyfront wrote:

I have a child and I would never in my life date a man with children.
 
Hmmm and how does that work out?ConfusedEmbarrassed


Posted By: goodm3
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:36pm
I don't date men with kids.....

Its tough out here but it ain't that damn tough. 

Not to mention, i know A LOT of men who have kids who don't want MARRY a woman who has kids. Think about that ladies before you start calling lil man-man and your bf "a family".




Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:37pm
Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

i avoid men who speak badly of their exes...baby or not...

Why?
 
i find that it's generally just not necesary...
 
and most every man who has done this, i've found to be to catty, dramatical, a liar or all three...
 
i said most...not all...


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you say i need some time to meditate...naaaaah b*tch i'm fly! i need time to levitate... ~yeezy


dacoldesteva


Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:37pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Some men aren't deterred by it though and some women aren't either

A classmate of mine is 22 with 4 kids each one year apart with three different fathers.
These negros care not


IA
I know plenty of people who date with kids. Plenty of fish in the sea.

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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:38pm
i don't know very many single mothers.  must be your environs.

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Posted By: Finesseful
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:42pm
I met a guy who was 21 with 5 kids. He wanted me to give him $25 dollars so he could get a section 8 apt. Talmbout "I want us to have privacy." Nicca please. I actually think he was a gigolo.

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Make love, not war.


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:43pm
my 21 year old brother is going to move in with a 25 year old woman with an 8 year old kid.he already is burning thru money like water, someone who used to always have cash on hand.

i told him it was a bad idea, but you cant tell him nothins.


Posted By: Immie89
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:43pm
Im not gonna throw in the towel and say i won't date a guy who has a kid..I would give it a shot! 

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Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:44pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

i don't know very many single mothers.  must be your environs.


This is the nice version of what chrissypoo said


It's true though. More educated people wait longer for kids. He would not have these problems to such an extent if he was dating on a college campus.

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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:45pm

I was just about to write a response, but four young ladies no older than 20 all walked in with their babies clung to their hips and not a man or a stroller in sight.



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Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:45pm
Originally posted by bunzaveli bunzaveli wrote:

my 21 year old brother is going to move in with a 25 year old woman with an 8 year old kid.he already is burning thru money like water, someone who used to always have cash on hand.

i told him it was a bad idea, but you cant tell him nothins.

How does she look?


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Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:45pm
Ya know...a dude with kids might not be so bad now that I think about it. Not for a serious relationship obviously...but as a short term person to have fun with...that could work.

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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:46pm
I couldn't date someone with kids cuz I can't handle the kid like I want to. I have to be careful and sh*t. I can't even pop em if I wanted to.


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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:46pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

I met a guy who was 21 with 5 kids. He wanted me to give him $25 dollars so he could get a section 8 apt. Talmbout "I want us to have privacy." Nicca please. I actually think he was a gigolo.
 
Without a doubt.


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Posted By: EasterBell
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:48pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Why is it offensive? I don't want a man with kids either.
this would be my perference too.


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:48pm
i would only date a man with kids with the child's mother was dead.

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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:51pm
I don't even think I date someone who has been divorced and as a result has kids
Or has been married previously or widowed.

That might be my age talking but I'm pretty sure I would not.
I want someone fresh so I can share experiences with them.



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Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:51pm
I think it takes a special kind of person to give up evenings and weekends where you would ordinarily be spending time with your new boo cause he/she is tending to the children. It's like you are making a personal sacrifice for someone else's decisions.

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Posted By: Qualified
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:51pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Don't do it Qualy.
Fight the good fight



Im holding it in the road Jonsey, I aint ready to give up just yet!


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:53pm
Qualified where are you from ?
That expression always makes me laugh

* tell me you're a southerner so I can love you

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
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Posted By: Qualified
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:54pm
LOL, north carolina!

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I Would rather eat crumbs with bums than share steak with snakes-

The token "instigatory thanks" on nonsenical posts always kill me.


Posted By: Mixer
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:54pm
It is now impossible for me to be the most hated male here.

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Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:54pm
I've heard from someone that people who wait to have kids are selfish and can't see the world beyond themselves...this came from a mom.


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:56pm
Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

Originally posted by bunzaveli bunzaveli wrote:

my 21 year old brother is going to move in with a 25 year old woman with an 8 year old kid.he already is burning thru money like water, someone who used to always have cash on hand.

i told him it was a bad idea, but you cant tell him nothins.

How does she look?
decent, i hope she dumps him before he knock her up, she's already proven to be fertile.


Posted By: babyk94
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:58pm
Originally posted by Mixer Mixer wrote:

It is now impossible for me to be the most hated male here.
LMFAO uh huh


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:58pm
Originally posted by Qualified Qualified wrote:

LOL, north carolina!


Beer


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Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:59pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I've heard from someone that people who wait to have kids are selfish and can't see the world beyond themselves...this came from a mom.


lol

were her pregnancies planned?


Nope. Single...32 with a 12 yr old.


Posted By: OoDles O
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:59pm
Its not really all that bad... 

#1- she won't be pressuring you to have a baby with her.. (ideally).
Its her kid and her responsibility. And most women who want to have a child would rather get married first... so hey.. thats something else you wont have to rush into because of her biological clock.

#2- If you land on the right single mother that you like alot who gets a good amount of child support, you both can spend the baby daddies child support check on important things like Jordans, and rims!!

I'm just trying to see the glass half full here.

Dead


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 2:59pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I've heard from someone that people who wait to have kids are selfish and can't see the world beyond themselves...this came from a mom.

i wouldn't expect any less from someone who makes poor decisions.


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