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Topic: What Would You Do BHM ?
Posted By: Rumbera
Subject: What Would You Do BHM ?
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:40pm
Had lunch with an associate of mine discussing a new project. Her hubby owns his own body shop locally.
Well, it is tax time and she oftens helps him put together all the receipts for the accountant. The dh saves all the gas receipts (tax deduction). So, she was putting all the gas receipts together and just happend to look down at one because it was an odd # other than $20,30 etc. The third line item was Trojan Condoms and a pack of Speariment GumStern Smile Geek  ...
 
At first she thought it was a receipt from one of the employee but the time printed on the receipt was around 9pm or so and all the employees clock out around 5pm.
 
We are not really close and I think she just wanted someone to vent too. Cry
 
She asked me what she should do or should she say something and I advised her to check the phone records from that day and gather info before breaking her silence.
 
She also scanned and emailed herself a copy of the receipt. In case he tried to destroy it or something.
 
What would you do BHM in this scenario ?



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Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:43pm
fool should've poked a hole in the receipt
 
jr.


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Posted By: Naturalchick30
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:44pm
Divorce asap

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Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:46pm
youre either gonna believe him or youre not.  i dont see what discussing it with co-workers gonna do.


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:46pm
confront him but make sure i wear a helmet bc im not tryna get headbutted a la Ev. 

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Posted By: cvzx
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:46pm
Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:



fool should've poked a hole in the receipt
 
jr.




Posted By: tasty0619
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:47pm
I would go with my gut on this one, but if I felt I needed concrete evidence I'd look into some things on the low.

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Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:47pm
This is how the Ocho/Ev headbutt started.....

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Posted By: soarlikecruz
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:47pm
Stern Smile



I noticed for somethings I'm quick to react without always thinking fully about the situation. I know I would be quick to react to something like this-who wouldn't? It's clear they don't use them otherwise this wouldn't be an issue. But I would do as suggested and check phone records,also text messages, social media, and ask a lot of questions that i think might add up to something. I'd also hunt down the box of condoms. Check pockets in pants, shirts, jackets, every space in the car, the house... Then I'd confront him.


Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:48pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

confront him but make sure i wear a helmet bc im not tryna get headbutted a la Ev. 
>>>>here<<<<<

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Posted By: Marmonette
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:48pm
I would be like Maury and have someone play a decoy Stern Smile
 
but seriously though. I dunno. That's tough.


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:48pm
I'm confused

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Posted By: SweetNovember*
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:49pm
Start bussin some heads, straight up. 

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Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:50pm
I really dont know why more of you aint using that Life 360

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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:50pm
I think that you were right. I'd also say to keep her eyes open and keep track of everything.

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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:50pm
get a PI

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Posted By: cvzx
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:52pm
They say the number 1 excuse a man uses to cover up cheating is "I was working late"

Wonders if he was always working late...


Posted By: bebe88
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:52pm
Talk to him, get counseling

Then probably divorce

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Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:53pm
wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.


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Posted By: JasmineE02
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:54pm
I'd tell her to keep her eyes open and look for a good divorce attorney. 


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:55pm
Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.




Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:57pm
Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.


which is why I was confused.LOL
I buy condoms all the time and give them out to people. Just bought a 40 pk today. Also buy to send to my nephew. I was just thinking "I might be in trouble myself"LOL


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Posted By: tasty0619
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 12:59pm
Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.



LOL


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Posted By: JasmineE02
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:02pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.


which is why I was confused.LOL
I buy condoms all the time and give them out to people. Just bought a 40 pk today. Also buy to send to my nephew. I was just thinking "I might be in trouble myself"LOL


That'd be a purchase I'd explain to my husband.  I know he'd be looking at the receipt all crazy too.  LOL 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:04pm
Originally posted by JasmineE02 JasmineE02 wrote:

Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.


which is why I was confused.LOL
I buy condoms all the time and give them out to people. Just bought a 40 pk today. Also buy to send to my nephew. I was just thinking "I might be in trouble myself"LOL


That'd be a purchase I'd explain to my husband.  I know he'd be looking at the receipt all crazy too.  LOL 


you'd explain it w/out him asking? Oh yeah, I'm in trouble LOL

eta:  If he saw the receipt he'd just say "oh purple is trying to save  the world again.' He knows I'm a sap.


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Posted By: Naturalchick30
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:04pm
Originally posted by tasty0619 tasty0619 wrote:


Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:


Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:



wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.




LOL




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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:06pm
Originally posted by JasmineE02 JasmineE02 wrote:

Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

wait, let's not jump to conclusions. he could've bought em for a kid who was too embarrassed to buy them for himself
jr.


which is why I was confused.LOL
I buy condoms all the time and give them out to people. Just bought a 40 pk today. Also buy to send to my nephew. I was just thinking "I might be in trouble myself"LOL


That'd be a purchase I'd explain to my husband.  I know he'd be looking at the receipt all crazy too.  LOL 
 
Right...but then again...when a man's buying condoms, regardless of the circumstances, his wife or significant other will become suspicious. If my husband came in and told me that he bought condoms for a friend, nephew, co-worker, I'd wonder why he was so eager to tell me LOL


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:07pm
Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

 
Right...but then again...when a man's buying condoms, regardless of the circumstances, his wife or significant other will become suspicious. If my husband came in and told me that he bought condoms for a friend, nephew, co-worker, I'd wonder why he was so eager to tell me LOL


exactly. That would be more suspicious to me. I aint asked him nothing but he's got an explanation LOL.


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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:10pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

 
Right...but then again...when a man's buying condoms, regardless of the circumstances, his wife or significant other will become suspicious. If my husband came in and told me that he bought condoms for a friend, nephew, co-worker, I'd wonder why he was so eager to tell me LOL


exactly. That would be more suspicious to me. I aint asked him nothing but he's got an explanation LOL.
 
Right...side eye from hell lol


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:21pm
firstly, does the hubby wear trojans?

secondly id thank god he was being safe and smart, no sicknesses no babies



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Posted By: JasmineE02
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:24pm
We have an upfront policy about stuff like that.  I think it's from having chatty family and friends.  We know that everything sounds much better coming from us than a third party.  LOL

Ex:  I went to the movies with a male friend because the movie was lame and his other friends would have felt emasculated.  My brother-in-law saw me with him and immediately his mind went to "cheating."  Luckily, I'd already informed my husband and he was okay with it.  Everyone else thought I was a ho for a bit.  LOL  The same thing happened when I was walking around the neighborhood with a male cousin.  Different relative, same story. 

As far as the condom thing, my husband is smarter than that. He'll just use cash if he's doing something inappropriate.  I'd still side-eye it if on a receipt if he didn't mention it to me though.  I'm just like that. LOL


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:29pm
yeah, use cash

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:30pm
cash? what's that?

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Posted By: JasmineE02
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:36pm
He's smart.  He'll figure it out.  LOL


Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:43pm
If it's bothering her it's better to say something than to let it eat her up inside.

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Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:49pm
Yeah, I hope that she says something.
 
Purp is soo cute !!!!!!!!!!!Heart


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:49pm
Oh, they use condoms that she purchases at Costco.Stern Smile


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:53pm
Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

Oh, they use condoms that she purchases at Costco.Stern Smile

maybe they ran low? something about bulk condoms....


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Posted By: freedom76
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:54pm
Hmmmmmm.....fresh breath and condoms? Cheating!LOL

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Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:56pm
I asked that Pity but she swears that didn't happend AND when they do run out, other activities are enjoyed until they repurchase.
AND, sex wasn't going down at that time due to some problems.Stern Smile
 
 


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:57pm
Originally posted by freedom76 freedom76 wrote:

Hmmmmmm.....fresh breath and condoms? Cheating!LOL
 
Thanks YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 1:59pm
Originally posted by freedom76 freedom76 wrote:

Hmmmmmm.....fresh breath and condoms? Cheating!LOL


lol. I'd probably be more upset about the gum.  That stuff rots your teeth .


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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 2:08pm
Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

I asked that Pity but she swears that didn't happend AND when they do run out, other activities are enjoyed until they repurchase.
AND, sex wasn't going down at that time due to some problems.Stern Smile
 
 



Ouch


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Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 2:11pm
He is caught,imo.
 
Obviously, he forgot about the condoms on the receipt.
 
At least he was safe about it. Ouch 


Posted By: BrownQtee
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 3:32pm
Smh. That situation is all bad. Regardless of how she decides to tackle the subject, it won't be pleasurable.


Posted By: Dapheny
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 3:47pm
Originally posted by Naturalchick30 Naturalchick30 wrote:

Divorce asap


hahahaha! staaaap!


Posted By: SWEETBREAD
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 3:49pm
What more evidence does she need...........its time to confront him.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 4:04pm
i probably wouldn't say anything right away.  but i wouldn't forget that shyt either...

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Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 4:05pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

i probably wouldn't say anything right away.  but i wouldn't forget that shyt either...
 
Yeah, I would wait it out a bit.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 4:10pm
they already use condoms i thought...

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Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 4:14pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

they already use condoms i thought...


you can still get warts and herpes with condoms
 
hmmmmmmm...i still wouldn't say anything right away unless i was willing to demand testing regardless of what he says...


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Posted By: Sleek
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 4:45pm
Hell yeah confront him and take it all

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:06pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

i probably wouldn't say anything right away.  but i wouldn't forget that shyt either...
exactly

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:09pm
lol finally reading all of this...people are too embarassed to buy condoms but ain't embarassed too suck dack/lick cooch/penetrate or be penetrated?  that excuse would not fly with me.

i'd confront him and be thankful that lube wasn't included on the receipt.


Posted By: James Avery
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:11pm
nothing for her to be worried about. i'm sure he has a stack of receipts in his office and yea, they get mixed up. that receipt could be anyone's tbh. she's going to drive herself crazy if she's using this as something to stress over.

until she has concrete evidence she needs to forget she ever saw that receipt. it leads to a dead end imho.


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Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:20pm
Originally posted by James Avery James Avery wrote:

nothing for her to be worried about. i'm sure he has a stack of receipts in his office and yea, they get mixed up. that receipt could be anyone's tbh. she's going to drive herself crazy if she's using this as something to stress over.

until she has concrete evidence she needs to forget she ever saw that receipt. it leads to a dead end imho.
 
Okay, you made be correct.
 
However, it just odd that he bought gum as well. That just screams DIRT, imho.LOL 


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:25pm
im not staying with him any longer than i have to. 

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Posted By: James Avery
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:26pm
Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

Originally posted by James Avery James Avery wrote:

nothing for her to be worried about. i'm sure he has a stack of receipts in his office and yea, they get mixed up. that receipt could be anyone's tbh. she's going to drive herself crazy if she's using this as something to stress over.

until she has concrete evidence she needs to forget she ever saw that receipt. it leads to a dead end imho.
 
Okay, you made be correct.
 
However, it just odd that he bought gum as well. That just screams DIRT, imho.LOL 

oh its obvious that whoever bought the condom+gumbo combo was indeed on a mission.


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Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 5:28pm
and if he did in, fact, keep a reciept with his condom/gum combo on it, he is s dummy fool.

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 10 2013 at 6:13pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

and if he did in, fact, keep a reciept with his condom/gum combo on it, he is s dummy fool.


is stupidity grounds for divorce? LOL


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