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Topic: Whirlwind relationships
Posted By: used2braid
Subject: Whirlwind relationships
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:15pm
Hey ladies;)

What do you think of whirlwind relationships?

The ones where you meet someone and before you know it, you guys are in love, and already talking about a future together within a few months.

Are those realistic or do you think its best to move slow, date a few years and find out as much as possible before tying the knots?

The reason being is because that same guy (oh gosh, I just realized that i posted about him before) who I met right before moving to another city, he and I are together now. And its been like..what, 1.5 months and there's definitely love in the air

We haven't said anything but its just our vibe...

My parents are pissed because I've been sleeping at his house when I'm in town and they're wayyyy conservative. But I just KNOW we'll end up together.

I need ya'll stories so I don't feel like I'm just crazy



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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:17pm
i thought you were sad bc you had no friends in Canada...when did you find the D?Geek

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Posted By: FarraFace
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:18pm
Gurl.....

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Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:19pm
happened to me. thats how i ended up with thing 1 and thing 2. Shocked we had out kids named before i even moved in.


now that i think about it...its happening to my sis in law also.Confused its weird seeing it from the outside though.


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Posted By: used2braid
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:20pm
No friends in Canada?..Confused

LOL.. I moved to another city 4 hours away from my hometown.
This dawg lives in my hometown so when I come visit home, hes my first phone call. 


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Posted By: AshBash89
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:24pm
Different strokes for different folks.


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:24pm
why not build something where you are now?
why are you continually going 4 hrs from your home? 

like... i don't get it. 


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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:26pm
You do sound a little crazy.....


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Posted By: used2braid
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:32pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.


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Posted By: used2braid
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:33pm
Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

why not build something where you are now?
why are you continually going 4 hrs from your home? 

like... i don't get it. 

We've been texting and talking on the phone/work email when I'm in Toronto. I haven't been going home just for him. It's the holidays + I came down one weekend because I had an interview back in my hometown.

He lives in my parent's neighbourhood (where I used to live) I had met him on the bus on our way home. He met my parents already and I already met his all friends at their xmas party and he wants me to come to his parent's regular Sunday dinner when I'm down again but I don't know when that will be since I prob won't be down until my running even in Feb...

Shall I even bother explaining? damn. I just wanted so hear other's stories not be grilled


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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:36pm
Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.


I don't have to know you to tell you that you SOUND crazy.


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Posted By: used2braid
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:36pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.


I don't have to know you to tell you that you SOUND crazy.

Bye


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:36pm
Don't worry about it.
I've heard of it happening and failing and happening and working out.

Be careful but have fun

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Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:37pm
Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.



LOL  this cracked me up................... and hey used to braid how is work?


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Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:37pm
To each their own. I wanted my ex so bad when I first met him. I wanted to get married right away, I dreamed of our life, I picked the names, etc. He wanted me too but he was more like a step-by-step person: first get a good paying job, than buy things, then several years later get married, etc.
We broke up after a couple years due to fights (not related to our future together) but I was thankful that we did not get married because now that I see him from far (aka: facebook and instagram) , I realize that he isn't nor does he has anything that I want.

I might meet a new guy a few months from now and we might get married. I don't know what will happen, love happens and changes everything but I have goals that don't involve a man and I need to achieve them with or without a man.

Make sure to use a condom to avoid unwanted pregnancy while you guys are in love. It could end tomorrow or you guys could marry soon.


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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:37pm
Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.


I don't have to know you to tell you that you SOUND crazy.

Bye


Wacko


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Posted By: Ladybird0724
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:40pm
it happened to me. ended up getting married. i'm happy, but I was young when we first got together (19) and in college. I wish I had met him later in life, so I could date more. also being in a LDR in college can sometimes be draining.

good luck to you


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Posted By: used2braid
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:46pm
Originally posted by f8dagrate f8dagrate wrote:

Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.



LOL  this cracked me up................... and hey used to braid how is work?

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Work is really good. Thanks for asking!  My job is basically to harass people on employment insurance to ask them if they've been looking for work so..very interesting. But I'm meeting alot of people...though its mostly because they want me to braid their hair. Life is goodThumbs UpThumbs Up


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Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:48pm
Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

why not build something where you are now?
why are you continually going 4 hrs from your home? 

like... i don't get it. 


I do agree with her (him?!).  Long distance relationships just takes too much time and you have to really trust the person. You'll miss a lot of Sunday's dinner at his folk's house.....


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Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:50pm
@used to braid that's good that ur getting customers. Let me go back to the op though, never really had a whirlwind relationship before, but just be cautious and update us..plz

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Posted By: used2braid
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:56pm
Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

why not build something where you are now?
why are you continually going 4 hrs from your home? 

like... i don't get it. 


I do agree with her (him?!).  Long distance relationships just takes too much time and you have to really trust the person. You'll miss a lot of Sunday's dinner at his folk's house.....


Here's the real situation:

Me: Permanent full-time gov work in O-town.
Him: Permanent Full-time gov in O-town

I got transferred for 1 year (with possible extension) to another gov department in TO.

He and I met the night before I moved. It was just a simple date, I thought he was trying to hit it and quit it.

But no, he and I kept in touch while I'm Toronto. He's been asking me about my new job /helping me out with the new info and since we work for the same department, we talk all the time on our company chat. When I had an interview for a higher position back in my hometown in Otown, we went on a second date.

From then on, I've been coming back home back and forth for the holidays/long weekends and we've just been seeing/talking to each the whole time.

He's been now asking me what my intentions are in order to see what I want to do when my 1 year position is over to see where we'd be at then...

So that's what going on....


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Posted By: khivey
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 12:08am
I wouldn't call what you two have going on a "whirlwind" relationship because with the distance you guys have the chance to really talk and strengthen that mental connection. It is good you go to visit him on the holidays and weekends, but you should allow him to make the same effort...let him come to visit you as well. Other than that..sounds like you are off to a great start. Good luck! 

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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 12:12am
it doesn't seem that crazy since he's in your old hometown

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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 12:47am
time will prove ... don't worry

before it happened to me, I wouldn't warned anyone to keep their side eyed peeled

but yes it can work out


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 1:59am
All of my relationships are like this. I stay bringin all the feelins to the yard.


Posted By: Becky
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 3:36am
Every fast relationship I have ever experienced has failed ... terribly. Confused
 
I always take my time .. avoids dissapointment. Honestly, I don't go for this kind of TVland stuff - it's not realistic and things can go south real fast so I don't blame your parents from worrying. However.. telling someone your age something like this will just make you want it more - right?
 
Geesh ... when was I that young? (My poor mother) Ermm
 
So have your fun, but ... (use protection so you don't get knocked up or pick up an STDs ... and don't rush to get married anytime soon.) In other words .. have your fun but don't do anything that you can't UNDO in a heartbeat. Give it timmmme.
 
I just don't believe in this kind of thing so I kind of cring when I hear these stories.
 
It's just too bad that youth is so wasted .. on the young.Confused


Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:23am
I've experienced it.  We've been together nearly 2 decades now.  gl

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Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:25am
Originally posted by HowardAlumAKA HowardAlumAKA wrote:

One of my LS is meeting a guy in person TONIGHT she met online last night....they've been talking on the phone and texting since last night and she said the connection is there


Am I the only one who is scared? How long should someone wait when online dating before meeting that person? days? Weeks? Months?


Catfish has opened my eyes
Originally posted by HowardAlumAKA HowardAlumAKA wrote:

She met him and said everything panned out fine!!! He was exactly what she thought he would be and they are going out on another date tomorrow.
  
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Posted By: ThatGurlD
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:35am
Hubby and I went way too fast.  He said I love you after 3 weeks, asked me to marry him at 2 months.  Got a place together at 7 months.  Married at 17 months.  Ten years later here we are.  Tons of pros and cons like anything else but I'm happy.  Like someone said different strokes for different folks.

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Posted By: tbaby123
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:52am
Omg I'm in one I feel! It hasn't even been a year and like we are obsessed with each other and he has already stated that he wants things to move along in the future
He is older though (less than 30) so it makes sense for him but I'm only 23!! Can't be getting all sprung before I have my own career ya know??


Posted By: solo
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:56am
Never been in one.

As an outsider looking in, I am always skeptical of people who have known each other for weeks/months that want to spend the rest of their lives together.




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Posted By: ScorpioLuv
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:57am
Mine didn't turn out well, but good luck to u

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Posted By: cvzx
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 12:37pm
I know people who have done this...it works for some and for others not so much.


Posted By: tropical-punch
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 12:46pm
Do these type of relationships truly exist?


Posted By: iNFATUATE
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 3:05pm
Originally posted by Becky Becky wrote:

Every fast relationship I have ever experienced has failed ... terribly. Confused
 
I always take my time .. avoids dissapointment. Honestly, I don't go for this kind of TVland stuff - it's not realistic and things can go south real fast so I don't blame your parents from worrying. However.. telling someone your age something like this will just make you want it more - right?
 
Geesh ... when was I that young? (My poor mother) Ermm
 
So have your fun, but ... (use protection so you don't get knocked up or pick up an STDs ... and don't rush to get married anytime soon.) In other words .. have your fun but don't do anything that you can't UNDO in a heartbeat. Give it timmmme.
 
I just don't believe in this kind of thing so I kind of cring when I hear these stories.
 
It's just too bad that youth is so wasted .. on the young.Confused


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Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 3:09pm
Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

When I had an interview for a higher position back in my hometown in Otown, we went on a second date.

From then on, I've been coming back home back and forth for the holidays/long weekends and we've just been seeing/talking to each the whole time.



What's HIS effort in this whirlwind relationship?


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 3:25pm
Youth wasted on the young is the ultimate bitter bitty declaration.

You've had your time...

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Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 3:55pm
My aunt and uncle met and got married w/in 4 months. 50+ years later, still married.LOL

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Posted By: HowardAlumAKA
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 4:52pm
Idk. In this day and age I feel like they don't last....you soon realize you moved waaaay too fast


Posted By: leftywefty
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 5:14pm
If a committed exclusive relationship hasn't been established by now, then you're a jump off.  don't fall into that trap. have fun


Posted By: ThatGurlD
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 5:15pm
Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:

My aunt and uncle met and got married w/in 4 months. 50+ years later, still married.LOL

My parents knew each other 3 months and are on 38 years.


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