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Natural hair and intimacy

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Category: Natural Hair Care
Forum Name: Natural Hair Care
Forum Description: General Discussions on Natural Hair Care
Printed Date: Aug 17 2019 at 1:39pm

Topic: Natural hair and intimacy
Posted By: Louel
Subject: Natural hair and intimacy
Date Posted: Dec 27 2012 at 8:03am
Might seem like a weird question, but I'm going to ask it anyway...

How do you ladies handle that hair of yours when it comes to having intimate time with your partner?

My man likes to play with my hair, and I found that my hair gets extremely frizzy and tangled afterwords. My hair will be a mess until I take the time to rewet it. This has me rewetting and blowdrying daily (my hair dries extremely slow on its own).
When I straighten my hair, I don't have any trouble really... I can just brush it out after, and I'm good to go. Straightening is damaging to the hair, but the excessive tangling and blow drying doesn't seem to be any better. 

I know other options would be to put my hair in braids or wrap it. But: 1 my man likes to play with my hair 2 I want to look good when we have fun together 3 fixing my hair before getting intimate with him takes away from going with the flow and enjoying the moment.

What do you ladies do?
Any sugestions? 

Posted By: Ritle
Date Posted: Dec 27 2012 at 8:37am
Satin pillowcases might be the solution to your problem....
if you already have those and still having that issue, then all I can suggest is putting your hair in a cute ponytail, that way he can still play in your hair and you will have less tangle issues.

Posted By: luvmybiga$$fro
Date Posted: Dec 27 2012 at 4:52pm
Hey Louel! I usually pay no heed to Cleo when its time to play, but I understand that when you're a lil bunny rabbit- rewetting daily (especially in the colder months) sucks. I agree wth Ritle(hey girl) about the pillowcases. But, u may have to throw girlie up in a sexy mesy bun with some tendrils hanging or some other updo to combat tangle city though.

That man knows ya cute and sexy and he ain't worried about the hair on ya head! Lol!

Happy 9th Nappiversay to Me and Cleo!

Posted By: Louel
Date Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:00am
Thanks for the replies ladies.

The satin pillow case wont do me any good, since my head is hardly ever on the pillow when it's play time. The problem is cost by his hands. I noticed that a pony does work because the ends stay pretty well defined; it's just the roots that gets messed up, and that way I will only need to rewet the roots. That's a lot less work than having to rewet the entire beast.

Talkt about the matter with a friend today, and she suggests box braids or twists. I might try to blow dry and twist my hair next month, to see how that works out.

Thanks girls! 

By the way: Luv...You are hilarious! ha!

Posted By: Ritle
Date Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:26pm
You're welcome and wow then that man does LOVE hair indeed, that pony is your saving grace!

(Hey Luv :) )

Posted By: luvmybiga$$fro
Date Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 5:59pm
you caught that Louel! Lol! Have fun and GL!

Happy 9th Nappiversay to Me and Cleo!

Posted By: naturesgift
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 6:24pm
sounds like a great problem to have... good luck

Posted By: Swift
Date Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 8:05pm
Originally posted by Louel Louel wrote:

Talkt about the matter with a friend today, and she suggests box braids or twists. I might try to blow dry and twist my hair next month, to see how that works out.

Yes! I was gonna suggest doing twists or braids with no extensions.  The scalp is still accessible.  This is how I wear my hair and I can cowash daily so it works well.  Also, my hair is really soft to touch due to being properly moisturized.  It's a win-win.

BC: 10-Jun-09, 0" Ceasar
Ayurveda * Low cones/sulfates * Low Manipulation
LTG: Big poofy hair
Trying to KISS

Posted By: Lovelyred01
Date Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 7:15pm
I am single now, but my ex "LOVED" my hair.  I let him pull, tug, grab and do whatever he wanted to it!!  Me personally, I didn't care!  My hair being messy and a bit out of place afterwards was a turn on to him as well Embarrassed  hmmmmm, miss those days :)

Maybe pull it up in a puff??  Or twists as suggested?  Either way, it's gonna get "tampered" with :)


Posted By: Louel
Date Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 7:04am
Thanks for all the suggestions ladies.

I just made a new album in my fotki with messy/frizzy hair inspiration pictures. My first goal will be to embrace my hair in that state, so I can be more laid back about it. Will try the other options (protective styling) if this doesnt work for me.

Posted By: Bre-Natural
Date Posted: Jan 16 2013 at 4:28pm
That is so annoying when my guy plays in my hair too! Argh!
Since my hair is short, he just rubs his hands through it. I don't have any suggestions for you, but I feel your pain. What I normally do is re-wet it if I have somewhere to go afterwards.

Posted By: momentoindigo
Date Posted: Jan 17 2013 at 8:59am
Mine works with me for the most part (my hair... not boo). He pulls on it and caresses it etc. It gets messy but afterwards I just throw it in a loose messy pony. The oils I use in my LOC method keep my hair shaft very smooth and lubricated so brush up afterwards is abreeze even without water, if I even bother to brush it back. Usually it only bugged me if my curls were already next to crappy from a few days not having been cowashed or washed and defined... so sex was no help to it but I was going to have to redefine them the next day anyways.


Posted By: Veemack
Date Posted: Jan 17 2013 at 10:18am
That is a compliment that he loves to play in your hair. When you get your hair to a healthy state and your styling simple it should be easy to recover from a lovemaking session. I suggest keeping your hair moisturized but not wet, using natural oils that penetrate the hair strands. I find that coconut oil does not give off that greasy vibe when someone touches your hair unless I am heavy handed with it. I can sleep in a twist out uncovered and still be rocking it the next day, it still looks good. Sometimes I am to tired to cover my hair at night, it amazes me that I have no knots or tangles in the morning....After the fun just pull it back into a ponytail and call it a night. Then wear a simple bun to work the next day. Rock your bun with good memories of the night before. Stay blessed!

I am a happy positive God fearing sister, this is why I can show my face. Freely I speak irl, so I do not need to get on the net to vent. I love positivity. Don't be mad nor confused about that.

Posted By: Louel
Date Posted: Jan 17 2013 at 12:08pm
You are right Veemack. I'm just not going to let my hair get in the way of living the way of it all. Will wear my hair out less often if it's too big of a mess.

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