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Topic: is it just me or....
Posted By: csungrl09
Subject: is it just me or....
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 12:20pm
is everyone and their mom getting engaged or having babies...
i know i am at that age, but DAMN.

i can't imagine my bestfriends doing these things, that will just be too REAL!


i feel like i'm not doing something right cause i'm definitely not there yet.


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.



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Posted By: Prazol60
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 12:24pm
You are bring yourself and thats cool. If you are not ready or not interesting then just say congrats to them and don't let anybody push you into it. 


Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 12:41pm
i felt the same. here i was studying my butt off and trying to make a relationship work, everyone else had started their jobs/careers, gotten engaged/married, or were having a baby.

my time will come. or it won't. either way life will go on


Posted By: *Belle*Femme*
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 12:46pm
all my line sisters getting married having kids. 

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Posted By: _leah
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:01pm
literally all of my friends are engaged and/or have babies

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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:05pm
I was just thinking this last week.

My ex's are engaged and planning weddings. Almost everybody in my dept. is married and 2 people just got engaged.

My sister just got engaged.

I want to be happy for everyone but it's getting sickening.


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Posted By: Chyna_Li
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:14pm
Originally posted by SoutherNtellect SoutherNtellect wrote:

i felt the same. here i was studying my butt off and trying to make a relationship work, everyone else had started their jobs/careers, gotten engaged/married, or were having a baby.

my time will come. or it won't. either way life will go on


Posted By: laceyfront
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:14pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I was just thinking this last week.

My ex's are engaged and planning weddings. Almost everybody in my dept. is married and 2 people just got engaged.

My sister just got engaged.

I want to be happy for everyone but it's getting sickening.
LOLLOLLOLCryCryLOLLOLLOL


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:28pm
Not just you. One of my bff's just got married in october. Two of my sisters are getting married in 2013 (one in jan and one in march...and they're both having multiple ceremonies/parties because their fiancee's are from other countries). My cousin is getting engaged in jan (she doesn't know it yet though). 

I will literally be the only single adult in my family. Awkward.

I'm actually really happy for everyone and I'm excited for all the fun parties and travel.


Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:37pm
LOLLOL

Most people are at the fertile age where they want a family. (I mean our peers)
I'm ready to build my own family too, but I need more money so that my children could be as comfy as I was as a child, and I need to move to another country. Sooo...I'll suppress myself for a while longer while I stack this cheddar.


Posted By: JGCwayZeBaby
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:38pm
Yep... seems like every time I turn around someone I know is getting engaged/married or pregnant. More so acquaintances than good friends in my inner circle, though I did find out that my last ex now has a child. 
I'll be 22 in April, it's not time for all that. Not yet. It's just funny having constant reminders that I'm heading towards that point in my life. 


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:39pm
Like 1/3 of my highschool class is married and a lot of them have babies.

I really really don't want that right now.
But they seem happy and the weddings have been cute and fun so good for them,

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Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:56pm
Originally posted by SoutherNtellect SoutherNtellect wrote:

i felt the same. here i was studying my butt off and trying to make a relationship work, everyone else had started their jobs/careers, gotten engaged/married, or were having a baby.

my time will come. or it won't. either way life will go on
 
i try to think that way but i'd be MORTIFIED if it didn't happen to me.
i have lonely aunts...i'm not about that life!


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:57pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I was just thinking this last week.

My ex's are engaged and planning weddings. Almost everybody in my dept. is married and 2 people just got engaged.

My sister just got engaged.

I want to be happy for everyone but it's getting sickening.
 
 
i'm with you nita!
LOL
 


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:59pm
Originally posted by JGCwayZeBaby JGCwayZeBaby wrote:

Yep... seems like every time I turn around someone I know is getting engaged/married or pregnant. More so acquaintances than good friends in my inner circle, though I did find out that my last ex now has a child. 
I'll be 22 in April, it's not time for all that. Not yet. It's just funny having constant reminders that I'm heading towards that point in my life. 
 
ALL of this. i'm going to be 22 also.


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 2:00pm
Most of the people I went to school with had kids in HS or right after.
So that doesn't make me feel any type of way.



Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 2:00pm

It's so hard to watch!!!! i had an image of how my life would be by this time & i'm not even close (aside from graduating in the spring...which was definitely the plan!)

 
its killing me!!!!


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 2:01pm
Originally posted by Elohim_is_Love Elohim_is_Love wrote:

Originally posted by csungrl09 csungrl09 wrote:

is everyone and their mom getting engaged or having babies...
i know i am at that age, but DAMN.

i can't imagine my bestfriends doing these things, that will just be too REAL!


i feel like i'm not doing something right cause i'm definitely not there yet.
We can get married and have some babiesEmbarrassed
 
thanks, my ovaries just did a happy dance.
LOL


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 2:05pm
Originally posted by Elohim_is_Love Elohim_is_Love wrote:

But real talk even as a man, I'm feeling left out.....
 
whats your take on this?
 
i have notice alot of men on my newsfeed saying things like that too


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: petiteone29
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 3:00pm
i feel like the oddball in my group of friends. im the only one married and the only one with kids. they arent even seriously dating anyone right now.


Posted By: JGCwayZeBaby
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 5:52pm
Originally posted by csungrl09 csungrl09 wrote:

Originally posted by JGCwayZeBaby JGCwayZeBaby wrote:

Yep... seems like every time I turn around someone I know is getting engaged/married or pregnant. More so acquaintances than good friends in my inner circle, though I did find out that my last ex now has a child. 
I'll be 22 in April, it's not time for all that. Not yet. It's just funny having constant reminders that I'm heading towards that point in my life. 
 
ALL of this. i'm going to be 22 also.

Nice! Big smile 


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 5:53pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I don't envy single people

Help me find a savior.


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 6:00pm
I like to be free and it's hard to feel that way in a relationship.

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God forgive me for my brash delivery
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Posted By: 313chick
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 7:29pm
I am a c/o 2010 and most of my classmates are having babies now. I do miss having a boyfriend but I trust God timing. it's not always on my timing but he usually knows best and is right on time...

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Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 9:51pm
Originally posted by Elohim_is_Love Elohim_is_Love wrote:

Originally posted by csungrl09 csungrl09 wrote:

Originally posted by Elohim_is_Love Elohim_is_Love wrote:

But real talk even as a man, I'm feeling left out.....
 
whats your take on this?
 
i have notice alot of men on my newsfeed saying things like that too
Men and women aren't that far from each other like we pretend to be. So naturally we want what everyone has especially if its happy and wonderful. Like how married people envy single people and vice versus. Everyone has kids and getting married and in good relationships. It makes you think your missing out especially if it's a good healthy relationship where you two are best friends.

yea, i totally understand. just thought it was different for guys. good to know ya'll have feelings too lol


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 9:52pm
Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

i feel like the oddball in my group of friends. im the only one married and the only one with kids. they arent even seriously dating anyone right now.


really? interesting. i'm sure that could be isolating, but i'm sure your friends don't think its odd.


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: csungrl09
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 9:53pm
Originally posted by 313chick 313chick wrote:

I am a c/o 2010 and most of my classmates are having babies now. I do miss having a boyfriend but I trust God timing. it's not always on my timing but he usually knows best and is right on time...


i like that. i keep trying to tell myself that! God's got it.


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Even with a low LSAT, i'm a hot commodity.


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 9:54pm
Yes and Im 22......i feel like thats so young but to each their own

its definitely not something i want right now   LOL


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Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 9:55pm
God. Ermm

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Posted By: nala52808
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 10:06pm
I remember when my friend got married when we were 18 to some 32 year old guy. I looked at her and thought, "damn, you just ruined your life." flash forward 2 years and I still feel the same. I just can't get with the married life right now. Theres too many things I have to do, and I honestly don't feel like catering to some nicca right now.


Posted By: MizzAmirah
Date Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 10:52pm
Originally posted by _leah _leah wrote:

literally all of my friends are engaged and/or have babies


This, made a post recently about it on FB.


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Posted By: gabi03
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 1:42am
Originally posted by _leah _leah wrote:

literally all of my friends are engaged and/or have babies

Same here, it kicked into overdrive the past year. Some friends had already started with babies in college but once everyone hit 24, my fb newsfeed got cluttered with engagements and more baby photos...it only gets worse after 26, people start looking at you wondering when you're going to find someone and have some kids...it's like backoff I got stuff to do LOL 


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 2:51am
yeah guys go through this as well..

i was honestly ready to get married when i was26/7 but my s.o at the time was like 22 and it would have been unfair for me to as her to make such a commitment when she was still on her journey of establishing her identity and only just started living life. im happy i was able to see things the way i did then because down the line sh*t got real and it was the best decision i ever made. my friends say maybe if i had proposed things would have turned out diff between us possibly but i'll never know.

the only thing missing in my life i feel is kids, but, i tend to be a bit anal about a lot of things so the timing has to be right and within marriage..

we are working towards that..

i dont envy my married friends.

o/t i do find the married people vs single people arguments frigging hilarious. i know married people who act like they are single and single (unmarried) who act like they are married. and the whole freedom vs ball and chain arguments are the most funny though

did we ever have a thread on married people should only be friends with married people? im having a brain fart and cant remember if we did


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Posted By: missunfoolish
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 2:58am
i feel the same

all my 'friends' have kids and we just have much in common no more cause they have their own family, life.

but yea made me want a baby then shyt happened & now i want a puppy lol
im still young. got my life to live before i wanna settle down

let it be beautiful


Posted By: newdiva1
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 3:18am
@Afro.  yes I believe we have.  Most said married folks need only have married friends.  Some said due to single friends not understanding the change in the friendship dynamics so it's drama.  Others said something along the lines of they didn't trust their single friends around their man.  If I remember correctly.

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Posted By: bebe88
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 6:23am
90% of my friends have babies & are not married or engaged....

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Posted By: petiteone29
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 12:09pm
Originally posted by csungrl09 csungrl09 wrote:


Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

i feel like the oddball in my group of friends. im the only one married and the only one with kids. they arent even seriously dating anyone right now.



really? interesting. i'm sure that could be isolating, but i'm sure your friends don't think its odd.



no i think i just feel different i guess. like i am in a chapter of life that they havent even started yet. they love my husband and kids alot. sometimes they just dont understand when i cant just up and do things without planning them out first like they can.


Posted By: bubblyboo
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 12:12pm
Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Most of the people I went to school with had kids in HS or right after.
So that doesn't make me feel any type of way.


THis!


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Posted By: petiteone29
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 12:13pm
Originally posted by nala52808 nala52808 wrote:

I remember when my friend got married when we were 18 to some 32 year old guy. I looked at her and thought, "damn, you just ruined your life." flash forward 2 years and I still feel the same. I just can't get with the married life right now. Theres too many things I have to do, and I honestly don't feel like catering to some nicca right now.



he would be catering to you too. or atleast he should. marriage isnt about just serving your man.

but 22 is really young so i understand why you wouldnt want to get married right now.


Posted By: JGCwayZeBaby
Date Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 1:47pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

The dating world is wack right now that's for sure. Too many people playing games, not knowing what they want or even who they are. When you find somebody good, hold on to them. I don't understand dudes and women who break up with their S/O for no good reason thinking they gonna find something better out here. 

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With me it's all or nothing, I'm either really into you or I'm really not... casual dating can be a fun way to occupy my time but I can tell if a guy's right for me or not fairly early on. If they're not, I lose interest right away and see no point in keeping them around (unless like I said, I just want to occupy my spare time with dates). 




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