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Topic: Is there a such thing as girlfriend/wife duties?
Posted By: HowardAlumAKA
Subject: Is there a such thing as girlfriend/wife duties?
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:47am
A guy told his girlfriend last night she was suppose to do something (Not sure what they were talking about as I came in mid-convo) because it is apart of girlfriend dutiesConfused


Is it a such thing? If so what are they???



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Posted By: mommykat
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:49am
Originally posted by HowardAlumAKA HowardAlumAKA wrote:

A guy told his girlfriend last night she was suppose to do something (Not sure what they were talking about as I came in mid-convo) because it is apart of girlfriend dutiesConfused


Is it a such thing? If so what are they???





Yes, as a wife make plates...


Posted By: Marmonette
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:50am
Originally posted by HowardAlumAKA HowardAlumAKA wrote:



Is it a such thing?
 
 
For some couples yes, for others no...


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Posted By: HowardAlumAKA
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:55am
I cant understand the "wife" duties


but as a girlfriend?...


Posted By: Yardgirl
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:58am
Yes, and a boyfriend has duties too. Can't start having expectations only when you get married, set the precedents early.

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Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:00am
guys just be making up sh*t as they go alongLOL


Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:02am
i bust it wide open...no molly needed.

i keeed.


but everyone makes their own duties up depending on the relationship IMO.

so my duties as a girl to my man... may be very different as your duties as a girl to your man.


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Posted By: ThatGurlD
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:20am
There are courtesies you extend the one you're with and no one else.

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Posted By: Babydoll9163
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:26am
Of course there are. But it's not like there's a girlfriend manual all women must follow.

In any relationship there will be expectations and duties each partner should do for the other.



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Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:27am
I expect certain things from him cuz he's my man, so its fair for him to expect things from me...within reason. You know you gotta say "within reason" to men .


Posted By: _ConcreteRose_
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:27am
^^^this (Babydoll). every relationship is different and the expectations of the partners will be different.


Posted By: keelolo1
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:28am
Yes make his plate is the main thing. If I am in a serious relationship I wont even think of fixing my plate until his is fixed and he has his drink and napkin.


Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:32am
Yes

*waits for the misogyny crew to jump all over this*


Posted By: JasonWllms55
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:08pm
Originally posted by keelolo1 keelolo1 wrote:

Yes make his plate is the main thing. If I am in a serious relationship I wont even think of fixing my plate until his is fixed and he has his drink and napkin.

bless your heart!!! 


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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:09pm
no.

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Posted By: mommykat
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:12pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

no.



BHM, will leave you broke, bald headed, and lonely.= Afro...


Posted By: Jr1127
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:13pm
Maybe as a wife for me to fix his plate but not as a girlfriend.


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:13pm
Originally posted by mommykat mommykat wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

no.



BHM, will leave you broke, bald headed, and lonely.= Afro...

i am neither.

/shrugs/


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Posted By: blaquefoxx
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:16pm
Duties are what keeps order in the household. And I'm speaking in terms of marriages or serious relationships that will lead to marriage. This is why you will hear couples say that "marriage is work"LOL

To get personal for a minute: My fiance thinks its his duty to protect me, love me, run sh!t, work and bring home the bacon (old school west indian lol). If it was up to him, I wouldn't be working at all and be pushing out like 7 kidsDead. My duty as his woman is to be a pillar of rest for him when he comes home from the plantation whether it be fixing plates, running his bath, speaking smooth words, cuddling and sex, etc. And then we work as a team when it comes to doing household chores.
Luckily for the both of us, we are two individuals who are strict when it comes to keeping order and having things run smoothly, so everything came natural for us. We didn't have stupid conversations about who does what *shrug*

But not every couple operates the same way or have to operate the same as us...





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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:18pm
^i thought you were married now?

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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:19pm
when you manage your own life, you make up your duties. Cool sh*t.

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Posted By: blaquefoxx
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:20pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

^i thought you were married now?
Nope...got engaged a couple of months agoLOL


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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:22pm
Are there curtesies ... yes.   Is there a universal set list of gf duties, not so sure

An elderly grenadian lady cursed me out properly for not putting food aside for my husband during a family get together

I do fix plates, have absolutely no issues with plate fixing but he said he wasnt hungry!

My sister hooked him up though 


Posted By: blaquefoxx
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:27pm
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

Are there curtesies ... yes.   Is there a universal set list of gf duties, not so sure

An elderly grenadian lady cursed me out properly for not putting food aside for my husband during a family get together

I do fix plates, have absolutely no issues with plate fixing but he said he wasnt hungry!

My sister hooked him up though 
Shocked































































J/kLOL



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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:35pm
I know LOL

he said he wasn't hungry!!!

she told me it doesn't matter, y'all would fall out with what she said ... it was hilarious


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:39pm
Originally posted by keelolo1 keelolo1 wrote:

Yes make his plate is the main thing. If I am in a serious relationship I wont even think of fixing my plate until his is fixed and he has his drink and napkin.


<3

jr.

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Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:40pm
Meh
Depends on what your source is for values in life

The source I get my values from says yes, a man has duties in a relationship
And so does a woman. Nowadays 'boyfriend/girlfriend' connotes childishness, and lack of direction or seriousness at times. Even then, though, it can be argued that there are still certain duties each expects of the other.

My fiance has certain duties and if he were to drop the ball, he'd have to pick it right back up or else...
And vice versa
And these duties don't really include who takes out the trash or who keeps making dinner.


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:41pm
I thought everyone has duties in relationships?

I'll make him fantastic plates and he'll take care of my SSKs at night.Approve


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Posted By: ImThatDiva
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:43pm
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I expect certain things from him cuz he's my man, so its fair for him to expect things from me...within reason. You know you gotta say "within reason" to men .
I concur


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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:44pm
Originally posted by blaquefoxx blaquefoxx wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

^i thought you were married now?
Nope...got engaged a couple of months agoLOL

congrats!


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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:44pm
SSK's?

lmks Geek


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:52pm
SSKs=Single strand knots.

I figure if he likes playing in my hair, he can help me with the knots every now and then.LOL

If Idris can do it....
http://29.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m351loaawC1qh48koo1_500.jpg" rel="nofollow">
lol


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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:53pm
Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

I thought everyone has duties in relationships?

I'll make him fantastic plates and he'll take care of my SSKs at night.Approve

I don't like duties. We are who we are and we function.


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Posted By: 313chick
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:54pm
Originally posted by Jr1127 Jr1127 wrote:

Maybe as a wife for me to fix his plate but not as a girlfriend.
this and if I did fix his plate it would be only for special occasions like his birthday, holidays or when he is going through something difficult. I just don't believe in giving a man all of wife benefits if I'm only his girlfriend. Because whats the point of him marrying me then...

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Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:59pm
So, listen boy, I'm an amazing woman and I promise to show you...after you vow to God That you'll love and protect and care for me for the rest of my life.

Haha


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:02pm
I wonder what atheists say during weddings?

I don't believe in those standard vows though. & to me, marriage is the business side to the relationship.




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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:02pm
I don't think duties are bad

you have to get to a point when you don't have to discuss and negotiate how every little thing will get done

but a universal set list ionno



Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:02pm
Originally posted by Derri Derri wrote:

So, listen boy, I'm an amazing woman and I promise to show you...after you vow to God That you'll love and protect and care for me for the rest of my life.

Haha


Giirrlll


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:06pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

I thought everyone has duties in relationships?

I'll make him fantastic plates and he'll take care of my SSKs at night.Approve

I don't like duties. We are who we are and we function.
I can agree with this.

I always figure couples base their individual duties on how they usually function and what they each feel comfortable doing.

But I have a feeling BHM is about to learn me something.Embarrassed



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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:07pm
Yea, I did the duty thing and someone always ended up resentful...and I was usually someone.

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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:15pm
Originally posted by Derri Derri wrote:

So, listen boy, I'm an amazing woman and I promise to show you...after you vow to God That you'll love and protect and care for me for the rest of my life.

Haha

heeeee!


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:19pm
apart from maybe having children and being a provider (dependant on the couples expectations of one another) marriage shouldnt change your relationship with regards to what you put into it and do in it that much

i mean id find it hard pressed to expect someone to do something they never did just because i've married her.

like if she doesnt cook and alluvasudden after the honeymoon i expect to come home to gourmet meals or a spotless home when she never did that before. she'd be well within her right to say nicca, you met me like this you knew what you were getting into

furthermore, im not one to tell people what they should be doing in the confines of their relationship, so do or dont do what makes you happy but with the only duty of mutual respect for one another

this reminds me of the sexual dutie/obligations thread we had before

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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:29pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

apart from maybe having children and being a provider (dependant on the couples expectations of one another) marriage shouldnt change your relationship with regards to what you put into it and do in it that much

i mean id find it hard pressed to expect someone to do something they never did just because i've married her.

like if she doesnt cook and alluvasudden after the honeymoon i expect to come home to gourmet meals or a spotless home when she never did that before. she'd be well within her right to say nicca, you met me like this you knew what you were getting into

furthermore, im not one to tell people what they should be doing in the confines of their relationship, so do or dont do what makes you happy but with the only duty of mutual respect for one another

this reminds me of the sexual dutie/obligations thread we had before

this is my opinion.  mutual respect can be defined as such in your relationship.  if you demonstrate your love and respect by making plates then so be it. if you do it in other ways then so be it as well.  


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Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 2:04pm
I agree.
All in all, people with the same values should team up. I'm not going to marry a man who is none of what I want my husband to be. And so, I never (continued) dated such men.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 2:09pm
hey derri



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Posted By: Yardgirl
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 2:58pm
Originally posted by 313chick 313chick wrote:

Originally posted by Jr1127 Jr1127 wrote:

Maybe as a wife for me to fix his plate but not as a girlfriend.
this and if I did fix his plate it would be only for special occasions like his birthday, holidays or when he is going through something difficult. I just don't believe in giving a man all of wife benefits if I'm only his girlfriend. Because whats the point of him marrying me then...

So how will he know what kind of wife you will be if you don't treat him as you would if you were married? 

Some of you will never been able to keep a man.


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Posted By: BoutThatLife
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 3:10pm
Wife duties: cooking, cleaning, child care, making your man happy within reason.you don't gotta do no degrading deviant sh*t if that's not your thing but suck a Dick a few times a week and serve up that coochie regularly

As for girlfriend duties, you can treat him how you want.if he's hubby material then start letting him get a taste of wife duties but you don't have to since y'all not married. I wouldn't recommend acting like a wife without a ring

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Posted By: Yardgirl
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 3:43pm
Originally posted by BoutThatLife BoutThatLife wrote:

Wife duties: cooking, cleaning, child care, making your man happy within reason.you don't gotta do no degrading deviant sh*t if that's not your thing but suck a Dick a few times a week and serve up that coochie regularly

As for girlfriend duties, you can treat him how you want.if he's hubby material then start letting him get a taste of wife duties but you don't have to since y'all not married. I wouldn't recommend acting like a wife without a ring

@ purple, I agree.

@ orange, I also agree. If you live together and have children together you might as well be a wife. Don't complain how you can't get a ring when you're already living like you're his wife.


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 3:45pm
..

wrong thread

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 3:51pm
Clap afro

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Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 4:41pm
hey Afro


Posted By: 313chick
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 4:42pm
Originally posted by Yardgirl Yardgirl wrote:

Originally posted by 313chick 313chick wrote:

Originally posted by Jr1127 Jr1127 wrote:

Maybe as a wife for me to fix his plate but not as a girlfriend.
this and if I did fix his plate it would be only for special occasions like his birthday, holidays or when he is going through something difficult. I just don't believe in giving a man all of wife benefits if I'm only his girlfriend.Because whats the point of him marrying me then...

So how will he know what kind of wife you will be if you don't treat him as you would if you were married? 

Some of you will never been able to keep a man.
That should answer your question.  I agree with everything about BoutThatLife Post. If my mother could do it with my father and they are still married today I know there is hope for me.

Just because you can keep a man doesn't equate to getting married. There are women and baby mamas that can keep a man but they still don't have ring. 


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Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 4:44pm
The person who cooks makes the plates.



Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 5:02pm
i just like making plates in general.
not only for him...but for everyone..
its the hostess in me.

i lauce.


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 7:56pm
LOL


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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 7:59pm
Originally posted by nycdiva357 nycdiva357 wrote:

i just like making plates in general.
not only for him...but for everyone..
its the hostess in me.

i lauce.

lies. i aint eva had a plate. u did share ur food though


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Posted By: Jr1127
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 8:26pm
Originally posted by 313chick 313chick wrote:

Originally posted by Yardgirl Yardgirl wrote:

Originally posted by 313chick 313chick wrote:

Originally posted by Jr1127 Jr1127 wrote:

Maybe as a wife for me to fix his plate but not as a girlfriend.
this and if I did fix his plate it would be only for special occasions like his birthday, holidays or when he is going through something difficult. I just don't believe in giving a man all of wife benefits if I'm only his girlfriend.Because whats the point of him marrying me then...

So how will he know what kind of wife you will be if you don't treat him as you would if you were married? 

Some of you will never been able to keep a man.
That should answer your question.  I agree with everything about BoutThatLife Post. If my mother could do it with my father and they are still married today I know there is hope for me.

Just because you can keep a man doesn't equate to getting married. There are women and baby mamas that can keep a man but they still don't have ring. 
High five to you!! How is it by me not fixing a plate as a girlfriend have do with him not seeing if I'm not wife material ? If that the case he never thought I was wife material in the first place.  What say in the Bible Proverbs 18:22 AMP "He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" by that say I have nothing to worry about as a girlfriend not fixing my man a plate.


Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 8:33pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by nycdiva357 nycdiva357 wrote:

i just like making plates in general.
not only for him...but for everyone..
its the hostess in me.

i lauce.

lies. i aint eva had a plate. u did share ur food though


once i get situated... u and my brother are coming over for dinner n dranks!
i shall make plates!!!


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Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 8:56pm
oh not the plate fixing debate again.
but for mtc, i wouldnt mind it if we are just long term bf/gf but he shouldnt expect it. and that only if he's busy/got his hands full/at my family's home


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:09pm
I'm a plate fixing woman.
I like stuff like that.

I'm like my mama in relationships bossy and feisty but traditional in alot of ways and domestic

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Posted By: 313chick
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:20pm
Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

oh not the plate fixing debate again.
but for mtc, i wouldnt mind it if we are just long term bf/gf but he shouldnt expect it. and that only if he's busy/got his hands full/at my family's home
Yes this is how I feel. 

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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:41pm
When I cook, I say, "dinner's done." That or, "I made breakfast."  I'll make a plate for a kid though but to be honest, I let my 3yr old niece get her own food with minor supervision.

I don't want anyone to make my plate either, even at restaurants. I think that is why I like salad bars so much.


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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:42pm
when i make dinner i plate.
when he makes dinner he plates.
idk why bhm makes this issue so dramatic


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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:42pm
It's weird that aa BHM'ers go kinda hard with gf/wife duties, but not as hard when it comes to parenting duties and taking care of parents.

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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:45pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

when i make dinner i plate.
when he makes dinner he plates.
idk why bhm makes this issue so dramatic


What if I want seconds?


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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:46pm
I just got a text about someone fixing me a fcking plate. BHM is so damn weird sometimes.

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God forgive me for my brash delivery
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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:48pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

when i make dinner i plate.
when he makes dinner he plates.
idk why bhm makes this issue so dramatic


What if I want seconds?

your legs don't work?Confused


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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:53pm
I think we'd be a family with the food being on the dinner table already and everybody puts their own portions on it.

& I don't like plates anyway. I eat out of bowls.


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God forgive me for my brash delivery
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Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 12:11am
Lol
When I wake up in the morning my fiance asks me if i am hungry, and if i say no, he lists all my fav breakfast foods
And ask me if I want that. I eventually give in.

If he is leaving for work, he makes a big cup of tea and drinks it until he has to leave. When leaving, he brings it to the bed and feeds me a sip then leaves the mug in my hand.

If I wake before him, I ask him if he wants tea, and I make it for him.

If i make dinner and i set the dining room table, and he wants seconds, sometimes he goes to get it before I even know he wants more.

Everyone and every relation has it's peeves.

I complain that his body hair/beard...still not sure wtf it is... is all over the bathroom floor and shower stall, but my sister thinks this is nothing to get annoyed about. I just HATE HATE HATE to see shed hair.

Meanwhile, she needs her own bedroom so that sometimes she can be alone. GIRL...bye!
I hateeee to sleep alone. I never really sleep deeply if I am alone.

You just have to find someone compatible or compromise a bit





Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 5:06am
you know to be honest, making a plate isnt that much of a big deal for me moreso than the ability to be able to cook.


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 9:51am
I figured " plate fixin" was a synecdoche .
It encompasses the tradtional female role

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 10:32am
yea.. you would think so but i think some took it in a literal sense, hence my clarification

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Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 10:33am
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

you know to be honest, making a plate isnt that much of a big deal for me moreso than the ability to be able to cook.


oh i gets downnnnnn


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Posted By: Immie89
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 11:02am
Wifey duties yea...girlfriend nah


Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 11:11am
Absolutely.
 
And after a while, it certainly can start to feel like a duty *side eyes that nucca*


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Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 11:36am
i like fixin plates...i like food to be presented well...

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Posted By: lambkin
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 12:52pm
This is strictly my opinion (what I used to do):
In GF/BF type relationship I would sometimes cook for my BF, I would never clean his place, do his laundry and I've never been asked to do that.
As a wife, I like cooking and I do it well so that's my thing. Cleaning also because I work a part time job and have more time than my husband. If we both worked full time, we'd have to share these responsibilities.
I firmly believe that everyone must know how to cook and clean because these are the necessities of life.

I don't believe that there are "duties" that work for everybody.

Also, I must say that I find it funny some of you think a man will marry you if you do everything for him as a mere GF/fiancee whatever. I know plenty of lazy, slovenly, mouthy married b*tches who are somehow able to keep a man.

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Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 2:10pm
I rarely cook and damn sure don't fix plates...luckily my bf is willing to settle for me chucking his stuff and the laundry with mine...he still gotta help me fold tho .


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 8:35pm
I like to fold, but from the looks of my bedroom right now, you couldn't tell.
I love organization though and would never want anyone to fold or wash my clothes, unless it was a dry cleaners/maid service.

If I had a male s/o, I wouldn't mind doing his laundry. I really enjoy it. However, when dating a girl....fck no. I don't know why, and I would never wash our clothes together either. I am not into folding her panties or bras, but I fold boxers into the cutest squares.


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