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Topic: Menses- Quit lurking
Posted By: soarlikecruz
Subject: Menses- Quit lurking
Date Posted: Nov 21 2012 at 7:28pm
You've found the one you say you want to be with for the rest of your life. You're head over heeks for her. You really think you can remain faithful to her for the reast of your life? Have you tried? You find other women beautiful but you have no desire to sleep with them bevcause of the on you have at home? They say men weren't meant to be monogamous.... Is that rtue or are all of us women doomed?



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Posted By: soarlikecruz
Date Posted: Nov 21 2012 at 7:29pm
sorry for the typosSleepy


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 2:33am
Girl, we live in a patriarchal society. You know they love to throw the responsibility of themselves on the shoulders of others so they can continue doing what they want; having their cake and eating it too.

"Humans aren't mean to be monogamous, it's our animal instinct!" Then explain monogamous species of animals. Something as basic as self-control should not be absolved from an individual just because he has a penis. If he wants to get an open relationship, let him get one. But don't give a monogamous relationship the open relationship treatment and expect everything to be fine and dandy when your partner finds you have deceived them.


Even rapists do that crap, blaming the rape on a woman. "She teased me; she dressed in a way that was asking for it; even though she said no she didn't fight me off."

Oy vey!


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Posted By: soarlikecruz
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 12:52pm
I been reading on men and relationships and I keep coming across that saying! I even read a comment saying that it would be unfair to expect a man to remain with only one person forever (sexually). It got me wondering, do most or all think like this?


Posted By: kimbledawn
Date Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 1:36pm
Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

Girl, we live in a patriarchal society. You know they love to throw the responsibility of themselves on the shoulders of others so they can continue doing what they want; having their cake and eating it too.

"Humans aren't mean to be monogamous, it's our animal instinct!" Then explain monogamous species of animals. Something as basic as self-control should not be absolved from an individual just because he has a penis. If he wants to get an open relationship, let him get one. But don't give a monogamous relationship the open relationship treatment and expect everything to be fine and dandy when your partner finds you have deceived them.


Even rapists do that crap, blaming the rape on a woman. "She teased me; she dressed in a way that was asking for it; even though she said no she didn't fight me off."

Oy vey!


Midna said itSmile


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Posted By: khivey
Date Posted: Nov 23 2012 at 8:12am
It depends on the person.

Society just highlights the ones doing it, then people start believing the hype..feeding into it. They want to put it in our heads so much that we accept it and believe that it is normal. Eventually turning communities into one big orgy..six degrees of separation...smh..

I never take anyone serious who thinks and talks like that.


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Posted By: Aerie
Date Posted: Nov 29 2012 at 11:37pm
If men weren't meant to be monogamous, then how could women be expected too? Because we're female? 

It's a cop-out. Some people get caught up in the mental game, that they can't commit anymore. Men and women alike. 
It's bullish say that men can't be monogamous, because I've known plenty of men who can and have committed without issues.


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Nov 29 2012 at 11:47pm
My exes were faithful to me. All three were in love but one of them learned that his father fathered a child with another woman and watching his mother's pain, probably vowed to never do the same to a woman.

I met this girl many years ago who was cheated on and because she was bitter she kept trying to make me insecure and into believing that I was also cheated on. I ignored her.


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Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Nov 29 2012 at 11:49pm
Originally posted by Aerie Aerie wrote:

If men weren't meant to be monogamous, then how could women be expected too? Because we're female? 



My sister isn't monogamous. She would have her main man, the one for whom she had feelings for and then she would have other men, because she got presents, etc.



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Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Nov 30 2012 at 8:33am
Originally posted by soarlikecruz soarlikecruz wrote:

You find other women beautiful but you have no desire to sleep with them bevcause of the on you have at home?
 
a man will always wanna smash other women. that desire will never leave.
 
jr.


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Posted By: SensitiveSwag
Date Posted: Dec 01 2012 at 9:06am
Double Standard.

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Posted By: khivey
Date Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 5:25pm
Man/Woman is still human and will make mistakes regardless and if we are women/men of God we must learn to forgive...let the church say Amen. 

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Posted By: khivey
Date Posted: Dec 04 2012 at 9:36pm
I wouldn't say that forgiveness comes naturally..I think letting it go and not worrying about it anymore comes naturally, but to truly forgive a person...that requires work. Especially depending on the circumstances. Understanding should come naturally..because people will disappoint you. If we can really truly understand that, then people wouldn't put themselves in a lot of situations in the first place or wouldn't remain in them.

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Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Feb 18 2013 at 12:02am
I finally found a good man he's everything i ever wanted including his looks..

we finish each others sentences we are like in sync..he's kind..gengle..sweet..blah lol i know yall like shut up twisted..i can't help it I'm in love.. no more jealous possesive dudes..

my parents been togegher for 23 years both loyal to each other..

Only unfaithful men look for reasons to justify cheating..it's possible to be with one person for ever come


Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Feb 18 2013 at 12:04am
Come?....hahahahahaha typo sorry.



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