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Topic: Dating older men
Posted By: bk2la981
Subject: Dating older men
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:16pm
So I always thought dating a man 7 or more years older was nasty and weird. I thought the girl must have daddy issues, the guy is going through a midlife crisis... Too immature to get anyone his own age... Well I met this guy kinda through somewhere I do volunteer work. I noticed he was handsome the minute I met him. I didn't think anything else because he didn't seem interested in me. He texted me to tell me he had to cancel a meeting, things got a little flirty and he asked me out. We talked on the phone for hours, hes almost mr perfect and he's 12 years older than me... at first I thought he was joking because he doesnt look a day over 36. But hes 43... I feel a little weird. Thoughts?

2 months later after meeting he asked me out.



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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:17pm
I couldn't do that old.
Ever.
My age gap is 1 year below and 5 above.
Anything else is very wierd to me..when I found out they are that old I get turned off.

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:19pm
how much money does he have?


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:20pm
i can see an argument for someone who is like 18 dating a 38 yr old ( the daddy issues thing)
but if you're over a certain age... i don't think theres a real reason to shy away from it. 

i personally have no problem with women who are dating older guys, no matter what the age range (as long as its not underage). its just age, and if that pairing gives you a happy, healthy relationship...

go for it! 


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Posted By: Meme0887
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:21pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I couldn't do that old.
Ever.
My age gap is 1 year below and 5 4 above.
Anything else is very wierd to me..when I found out they are that old I get turned off.
 
This
 




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Posted By: James Avery
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:21pm
its not that big of a gap as far as maturity goes since you're in your 30's already. i think you two should be able to have a good relationship if that's what you want.

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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:22pm
But if it makes you happy, you shoud gve it a go

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:22pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

how much money does he have?


Lol, hes well off but not rich by any means. Hes the director of the place I volunteer at. I really respect his career. Its what I want to do as a career. Has his own house...


Posted By: Meme0887
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:22pm
But if you really like him and can get over the age...I say go for it

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Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:23pm
honestly, he sounds like a good wholesome guy. i think after a while you might get over how old he is. or maybe it might become a plus for you. who knows. 

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Posted By: Tbaby
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:26pm
Originally posted by James Avery James Avery wrote:

its not that big of a gap as far as maturity goes since you're in your 30's already. i think you two should be able to have a good relationship if that's what you want.


If you were in your twenties I'd say dude would be way too old.
  I don't know about the relationship being "good"--still seems like there would be a bit of a generational gap...but go for it.


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:28pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Most women should seriously date a man relatively older than her. 



I agree with this.
But I just couldn't go above a certain amount of years.

5 suits me fine

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: lanae
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:28pm
From my experience men that old usually have major ba ge and talk as if majority of their life is behind them when the opposite is true.

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Posted By: WadadliQueen
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:33pm
I personally wouldn't want to date someone would that age limit but you're over 30 and I feel that signifies a level of maturity and you should what you are doing. If you were in you're twenties then I would say be leery of the age difference.

What I would worry about is even though you're just a volunteer, he is essentially in a position of authority so if the relationship may not work out; maybe you would feel uncomfortable continuing volunteering there especially if you normally interact with each other  So be careful with that.....


Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:35pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I couldn't do that old.
Ever.
My age gap is 1 year below and 5 above.
Anything else is very wierd to me..when I found out they are that old I get turned off.

My gap was 2 below and 4 above. I was a little turned off when he told me but I kept thinking ” well he doesn't look old” But the thought of it did repulse me for a second.


Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:37pm

Give it a shot.

 
My husband is 13 years older than I am, and we've been married for nearly 30 years. If nothing comes of it, it probably wouldn't hurt to get to know him.


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Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:48pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Man if you a single 30 year old woman u should be open to dating men all the way up to 50.





LOLOLOL. If I didn't have a sense of humor this would make me cry. I wasted the last 4 years on someone who I saw potential in but couldnt get his act together. Big mistake. I live in LA, its slim pickings here. On top of that I don't want to settle so I haven't found ” the one” yet. This guy is almost perfect but his age makes me think I'm settling. Btw, I'm not ugly at all. An 8, maybe more. and I myself look very young. everyone thinks I'm 22 by looking at me, after speaking to me they realize I'm older.


Posted By: lexis83
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:57pm
Positive K tells it as it is, damn


Posted By: Hello! Tsuki
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:58pm
Must be 18-25--young and cute for me. Tsuki cannot do middle-aged


Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:59pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

post a pic bk...I assume u from Brooklyn and moved to LA...if u was an 8 in BK that really means u between a 6-7 in LA. 



Lololol, I was a 10 in bk. So an 8 here and Ive gotten better with age too. I can't post a pic, work stuff....


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:03pm
Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

Give it a shot.

 
My husband is 13 years older than I am, and we've been married for nearly 30 years. If nothing comes of it, it probably wouldn't hurt to get to know him.


Heartthis


I say go for it OP.... EXCEPT never date p-eople you volunteer withLOLLOLLOL (just kidding)


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Posted By: Addicted19034
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:04pm


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:06pm
Dating a 50 y.o man? because a woman 30... da fuc outta here 


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Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:06pm
Read it all, thank you all for your feedback. I am going to go for it, I probably will find a lot of ba ge that will probably make me run for the hills, but I could also be missing out on something so I'll give it a shot. Being that he is in a position of authority over me, we have discussed it and hes mature enough to not let it affect the place. Besides I don't have to volunteer there. I was just doing it to see firsthand how the place runs since I want to have a similar non profit facility.   Most people in LA are not mature enough for marriage and the ones that are, are not handsome or are not financially secure with their own life. I want it all. if I lived in a different state I would have been married with 2 kids already. I have gotten very close with a Maryland guy but at the time I was the immature one.


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:07pm

i only date older nemow. you should go for it

jr.


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Posted By: iSMILE13
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:07pm
I have dated someone 10+ years older....don't think I will do it again.

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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:09pm
What would a older woman want with a younger guy Jr?

No financial bene
Can't get a key to the house.
You ain't even putting down the D.

Wth

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:10pm
well damn, jones
 
jr.


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:10pm
Lol you know it's love bew

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:12pm
I date younger men with their priorities in check (but thats standard for any guy). Some have owned their own homes some have not but they all have been doing something and the D is nice.
I seriously could neveh see myself dating someone that was in high school during the same time as my parents and kids my age Dead


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:17pm
I was talking to Jr. I'm particular lol.

But I can't think of two reasons why

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:19pm
Jones got jr still sleeping in a bunkbed ..feet dangling off the end


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Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:19pm
i don't like hearing about women with younger guys at all.
i remember when a freshman told me that he was dating a senior from my school. 

ugh. whyyy??


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And Jean Paul Gaultier and a Hermes bag and four inch tips made of ostrich ;Sharp enough to slit your wrists her lips spread gossip ;Won't say sorry when she offends


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:20pm
even if i lived alone, why would i give her a key to my house?
 
jr.


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Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:21pm
Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

i don't like hearing about women with younger guys at all.
i remember when a freshman told me that he was dating a senior from my school. 

ugh. whyyy??



She had that whip appeal


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Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:28pm
Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

even if i lived alone, why would i give her a key to my house?
 

jr.


I meant it like she just can't come lay up for the weekend.
Like that.

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Never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee
Donne

Havmercy Dez Bryant


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:34pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

i don't like hearing about women with younger guys at all.
i remember when a freshman told me that he was dating a senior from my school. 

ugh. whyyy??



She had that whip appeal

because she was hot? i don't understand? 
i was saying why would she date him


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And Jean Paul Gaultier and a Hermes bag and four inch tips made of ostrich ;Sharp enough to slit your wrists her lips spread gossip ;Won't say sorry when she offends


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:34pm
mom and dad don't care and neither have other girls
 
jr.


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Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:36pm
Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

i don't like hearing about women with younger guys at all.
i remember when a freshman told me that he was dating a senior from my school. 

ugh. whyyy??



She had that whip appeal

because she was hot? i don't understand? 
i was saying why would she date him


Was he attractive? Popular? I dont think its that abnormal but I wasnt peeping younger dudes then.


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:37pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

What would a older woman want with a younger guy Jr?

No financial bene
Can't get a key to the house.
You ain't even putting down the D.

Wth
yes, let those young men enjoy their youth

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: r0ck_starr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:37pm
I'm 22 and my BF is 33. He's the best guy EVER. If the chemistry is right then go for it!


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:38pm
i didn't find him attractive. but he was okay, i suppose.
yeah he was popular. but so was his older brother. so.... Stern Smile

i mean, it still applies. like a grad student dating a guy who is still in undergrad
or a doctor (female) dating a kid in undergrad. idk. 

yo no like. 


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Posted By: r0ck_starr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:39pm
Originally posted by r0ck_starr r0ck_starr wrote:

I'm 22 and my BF is 33. He's the best guy EVER. If the chemistry is right then go for it!

I'm not your typical partygirl etc 22 year old either so it works. Most people think I behave like I'm in my 30s but look like I'm 18 (possibly younger)


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:41pm
Originally posted by r0ck_starr r0ck_starr wrote:

Originally posted by r0ck_starr r0ck_starr wrote:

I'm 22 and my BF is 33. He's the best guy EVER. If the chemistry is right then go for it!

I'm not your typical partygirl etc 22 year old either so it works. Most people think I behave like I'm in my 30s but look like I'm 18 (possibly younger)


Did u just respond to yo self LOL


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:41pm
Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

So I always thought dating a man 7 or more years older was nasty and weird. I thought the girl must have daddy issues, the guy is going through a midlife crisis... Too immature to get anyone his own age... Well I met this guy kinda through somewhere I do volunteer work. I noticed he was handsome the minute I met him. I didn't think anything else because he didn't seem interested in me. He texted me to tell me he had to cancel a meeting, things got a little flirty and he asked me out. We talked on the phone for hours, hes almost mr perfect and he's 12 years older than me... at first I thought he was joking because he doesnt look a day over 36. But hes 43... I feel a little weird. Thoughts?

2 months later after meeting he asked me out.
you're both older than 30 so thats fine
if you were in your 20's and he in late 30's - 40's then yeah.. no

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: r0ck_starr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:43pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by r0ck_starr r0ck_starr wrote:

Originally posted by r0ck_starr r0ck_starr wrote:

I'm 22 and my BF is 33. He's the best guy EVER. If the chemistry is right then go for it!

I'm not your typical partygirl etc 22 year old either so it works. Most people think I behave like I'm in my 30s but look like I'm 18 (possibly younger)


Did u just respond to yo self LOL


LMAO yes, I didn't want to edit


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:45pm
lol 22-32?

what do you talk about?

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:46pm
LOL@Starr


I wouldnt want my bros or sister to date someone my age but I would (have) date(d) someone their age. Stern Smile





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Posted By: Faithfully2002
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:49pm
Originally posted by Meme0887 Meme0887 wrote:

But if you really like him and can get over the age...I say go for it


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Posted By: r0ck_starr
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:50pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

lol 22-32?

what do you talk about?

You'd be surprised how much we have in common. We talk everything career, politics, society everything. I haven't found too many 20 something guys that are on my level like that. Mind you I'm not typical...


Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:51pm

I been robbing the casket! Ain't nothing but a thang doe! Cool

Usually the older men (40-62.5) I've dealt with seemed to be more:

grounded
mature
secure (emotionally, financially, etc)
respectful
chivalrous
serious minded
experienced (obviously)
accepting of my flaws


**and of course they are better positioned to get senior discounts, better parking spaces, retirement checks (I KID LOL)**






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Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:55pm
62.5



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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:57pm
yeah when you are that old & staring into the eyes of the reaper youd be happy to accept anything to be honest



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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:57pm
When I was like 19 or 20 I talked to a 36 yr old.
Do what makes you happy


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:01pm
I don't think its that big a deal, as long as you guys are on the same page.

I tried dating a man 16 years older once. I liked him, but it couldn't work cuz we weren't on the same page. He had lived his life, partied, and done all the things he wanted to do and wanted me to live like I had done the same.

I wouldn't be opposed to trying again if I met the right guy, because other than that I really liked him and preferred our relationship to what I'd had with people my own age.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:02pm
I was @25 when I started dating older men. Before that, the oldest was when I was a sophomore in college and he 2nd year med school; which I don't really consider older.

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PEACE


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:03pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

yeah when you are that old & staring into the eyes of the reaper youd be happy to accept anything to be honest

this is a joke btw

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:17pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

yeah when you are that old & staring into the eyes of the reaper youd be happy to accept anything to be honest

this is a joke btw


That's good to know...... Cause I was about to go IN! You dodged a bullet! 

It's not like I'm dating WWII veterans!  Most men in my age preference (40-62.5)are still quite capable of standing, walking, jumping, kneeling, bending and lots of other things!Wink 

I likes my older men refined like this one:


























































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"I think my mother is a Coon. **not literally, but from what I see you guys say about "coons", she acts very similar."        -   Kimmy90


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:19pm
you're like them ambulance chasers but only with near the coffin old blokes pink



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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:19pm
i approve of dating older men.

he gotta have money though.

well....any men you date should have money.


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Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:20pm
Lawd JA alert bracelet just went off 


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:24pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Lawd JA alert bracelet just went off 


that nicca finna have a seizure or a heart attack

leroy to ja is like big dicks to shad

they come out swinging

peauxz

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:32pm

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

yeah when you are that old & staring into the eyes of the reaper youd be happy to accept anything to be honest 


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

you're like them ambulance chasers but only with near the coffin old blokes pink 

 


Wait.... aren't you like 42 though?  

So all those sweet nothings you sent my way were all just consequences of old age and poor judgement? Confused
 
 
 


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:44pm
Originally posted by pinkextra pinkextra wrote:




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yeah when you are that old & staring into the eyes of the reaper youd be happy to accept anything to be honest 

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Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:46pm
^^^^ What in the world is going on with your quotes?

Old folks problems! 

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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:48pm
I been dating younger lately. A year or two younger....I haven't talked to someone my own age or older in a while lmao 

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Posted By: Midwest_Da_Gawd
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:51pm
SMH what the hell is wrong with an old Brotha cuffing a young broad?

Goddammit if I'm 50 years old, and these young heifers still choosing, Imma get me one too!

F*ck I look like getting me an old ass long-in-the-tooth broad my age when I could get me a tight young thang?! That's backwards hustlin'.


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Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:54pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I been dating younger lately. A year or two younger....I haven't talked to someone my own age or older in a while lmao 


how old are u? Embarrassed


23 Big smile

Originally posted by Elohim_is_Love Elohim_is_Love wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I been dating younger lately. A year or two younger....I haven't talked to someone my own age or older in a while lmao 
DeadOuchStern Smile


Problem? Are you old as fuck?




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Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:54pm
Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I been dating younger lately. A year or two younger....I haven't talked to someone my own age or older in a while lmao 


how old are u? Embarrassed


Keep it moving BB, unless you wanna all expenses paid trip to the clinic! 


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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:56pm
Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

SMH what the hell is wrong with an old Brotha cuffing a young broad?

Goddammit if I'm 50 years old, and these young heifers still choosing, Imma get me one too!

F*ck I look like getting me an old ass long-in-the-tooth broad my age when I could get me a tight young thang?! That's backwards hustlin'.
 
LOLLOLLOLCryCryLOLLOL


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Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:57pm
Originally posted by Elohim_is_Love Elohim_is_Love wrote:

Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

SMH what the hell is wrong with an old Brotha cuffing a young broad?

Goddammit if I'm 50 years old, and these young heifers still choosing, Imma get me one too!

F*ck I look like getting me an old ass long-in-the-tooth broad my age when I could get me a tight young thang?! That's backwards hustlin'.
Good luck brotha. You just started war.

In true Napoleonic fashion.

Male Midget syndrome....... 




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"I think my mother is a Coon. **not literally, but from what I see you guys say about "coons", she acts very similar."        -   Kimmy90


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 2:59pm
Originally posted by pinkextra pinkextra wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I been dating younger lately. A year or two younger....I haven't talked to someone my own age or older in a while lmao 


how old are u? Embarrassed


Keep it moving BB, unless you wanna all expenses paid trip to the clinic! 


Is it curable ? Stern Smile


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Posted By: nala52808
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 3:01pm
Fucc all the young men with their fake swag, and empty pockets. I need an older guy with class, mulah, sexy face, and a sexy, mature voice. Like that old guy's voice who does The Most Interesting Man In The World commercials.


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 3:05pm
lol

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Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 3:06pm
OP is in her thirties and won't date someone in their 40s?
Why?


Posted By: goodm3
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 3:20pm
Originally posted by pinkextra pinkextra wrote:


I been robbing the casket! Ain't nothing but a thang doe! Cool

Usually the older men (40-62.5) I've dealt with seemed to be more:

grounded
mature
secure (emotionally, financially, etc)
respectful
chivalrous
serious minded
experienced (obviously)
accepting of my flaws


**and of course they are better positioned to get senior discounts, better parking spaces, retirement checks (I KID LOL)**



don't forget that AARP discount. LOL






Posted By: keepgrowing
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 3:56pm
i mean as long as everything else is on point i see no issue. at that age there is no leeway for "potential". You either got it or you don't. career, savings, a place to live, a car the basics. No room for growth and no time to be understanding. And he probably has kids. So IF you want kids maybe you can just have 1 and be done with that mess. I see that as an advantage lol. 

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If you no know me brotha, I no like wahala.


Posted By: pinkextra
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 4:01pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:



Is it curable ? Stern Smile

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

yes


BB, after you get sum of that Positive dack, please report back with an update!  


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"I think my mother is a Coon. **not literally, but from what I see you guys say about "coons", she acts very similar."        -   Kimmy90


Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 4:21pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Originally posted by pinkextra pinkextra wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I been dating younger lately. A year or two younger....I haven't talked to someone my own age or older in a while lmao 


how old are u? Embarrassed


Keep it moving BB, unless you wanna all expenses paid trip to the clinic! 


Is it curable ? Stern Smile

NDead 


Posted By: FarraFace
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 4:22pm
I mean, you 30.

Your acceptable dating pool age range is 27-72.

Get it how you live it!

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Posted By: K_Camille
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 4:39pm
Since you are in your 30s, it's not as big of a deal so long as he's attractive and mature/grounded.  I think older men can be sexy if they're mature and assertive. Tongue


Posted By: Immie89
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 4:42pm
Ok 40 is now the new 30..so i dont see the issue..and men can have children up until their crippled and old as fck..we all know that.

Besides he seems well grounded and knows his place in life..seems like good catch ..get it OP


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 11:10pm
40 is the new 40,

that 30 is the new 20 and 40 is the new 30 is some shot old people say to make themselves feel beter






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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: Limalady
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 11:15pm
Go for it. My SO is older. Do you.


Posted By: ThatGurlD
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 11:38pm
So..... you're 31.  Go for it.  I'm 31 and there are men up to 50 I would happily date if I were single.  I don't think the same is true for 21 and 33 but 31 and 43 imho is different.  You're both grown.  Enjoy Wink

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Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 11:58pm

if you are over 30, dating a man 45 and under isn't a big deal. Esp if he is in good shape and has a young,vibrant spirit.



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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 12:00am
i can't believe this was a thread. you ain't no spring chicken OP. tbh--im surprised he wants to date a woman your age.

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 12:35am
ouch!!!

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 12:51am
Um...I used to feel that way, let's just say I don't anymore...they are slick though so that's one thing you may have to worry about but you are older than me so that probably won't really be an issue for you.

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"I give to the needy...and not the greedy!"

"Mm hm that's right!"


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 12:51am
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

i can't believe this was a thread. you ain't no spring chicken OP. tbh--im surprised he wants to date a woman your age.

Kay...Confused


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"I give to the needy...and not the greedy!"

"Mm hm that's right!"


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 12:55am
Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Man if you a single 30 year old woman u should be open to dating men all the way up to 50.





LOLOLOL. If I didn't have a sense of humor this would make me cry. I wasted the last 4 years on someone who I saw potential in but couldnt get his act together. Big mistake. I live in LA, its slim pickings here. On top of that I don't want to settle so I haven't found ” the one” yet. This guy is almost perfect but his age makes me think I'm settling. Btw, I'm not ugly at all. An 8, maybe more. and I myself look very young. everyone thinks I'm 22 by looking at me, after speaking to me they realize I'm older.

LoL...how can you rate yourself though? Your rating of yourself isn't worth squat.


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"I give to the needy...and not the greedy!"

"Mm hm that's right!"


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 12:57am
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

ouch!!!


it's not even an attempt to be super rude or to throw shade.  i am not even trying to read OP but many men...even if they are old...want to date women in their 20s. it's gross & unfair but in the dating world after a certain age, men have the upper hand. why? bc men are still seen as a prize as they age, are typically considered "better" looking and more attractive, especially if they have a career and no kids...whereas women are just seen as..old...and "what-is-wrong-with-her-why-isn't-she-married."

mens stocks rise with age, while womens decline. probably why so many women will tell younger women to not be so picky [idk about that line of reasoning but i have never heard of a man receiving such advice]

..and the men will date younger women who they think are more flexible and have less bag.gage


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If you are or have ever been a member of BHM, you are inherently a hoodrat.B


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 1:02am
My dad is twelve years older than my mom and they got married when she was 20 I think.

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"I give to the needy...and not the greedy!"

"Mm hm that's right!"


Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:03am
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

ouch!!!


it's not even an attempt to be super rude or to throw shade.  i am not even trying to read OP but many men...even if they are old...want to date women in their 20s. it's gross & unfair but in the dating world after a certain age, men have the upper hand. why? bc men are still seen as a prize as they age, are typically considered "better" looking and more attractive, especially if they have a career and no kids...whereas women are just seen as..old...and "what-is-wrong-with-her-why-isn't-she-married."

mens stocks rise with age, while womens decline. probably why so many women will tell younger women to not be so picky [idk about that line of reasoning but i have never heard of a man receiving such advice]

..and the men will date younger women who they think are more flexible and have less bag.gage





That's for men who are looking for arm candy who are probably going through a crisis or need a 20 something year old to make them feel better, hes not. He's really just looking for someone to settle down with...again.. Hes divorced. Hes confident enough to date a 40 year old woman if he liked her personality. I see and hear what women think of him and its all good.


Posted By: kalenjin
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:15am
Lmao!

It's not weird but if u r insecure about it keep waiting around. Most women in their 30s have better luck with men in their 40s because a lot of mn in their 30s are really dating the 20s or later teens. Especially if they think they are a catch, they r looking for the youngins


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:31am
Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

ouch!!!


it's not even an attempt to be super rude or to throw shade.  i am not even trying to read OP but many men...even if they are old...want to date women in their 20s. it's gross & unfair but in the dating world after a certain age, men have the upper hand. why? bc men are still seen as a prize as they age, are typically considered "better" looking and more attractive, especially if they have a career and no kids...whereas women are just seen as..old...and "what-is-wrong-with-her-why-isn't-she-married."

mens stocks rise with age, while womens decline. probably why so many women will tell younger women to not be so picky [idk about that line of reasoning but i have never heard of a man receiving such advice]

..and the men will date younger women who they think are more flexible and have less bag.gage





That's for men who are looking for arm candy who are probably going through a crisis or need a 20 something year old to make them feel better, hes not. He's really just looking for someone to settle down with...again.. Hes divorced. Hes confident enough to date a 40 year old woman if he liked her personality. I see and hear what women think of him and its all good.
you sure he's not desperate?



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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:37am
Originally posted by starflower7 starflower7 wrote:


Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Man if you a single 30 year old woman u should be open to dating men all the way up to 50.





LOLOLOL. If I didn't have a sense of humor this would make me cry. I wasted the last 4 years on someone who I saw potential in but couldnt get his act together. Big mistake. I live in LA, its slim pickings here. On top of that I don't want to settle so I haven't found ” the one” yet. This guy is almost perfect but his age makes me think I'm settling. Btw, I'm not ugly at all. An 8, maybe more. and I myself look very young. everyone thinks I'm 22 by looking at me, after speaking to me they realize I'm older.


LoL...how can you rate yourself though? Your rating of yourself isn't worth squat.

Ehhh. Kinda true, but when you garner a certain amount of attention you kinda know where you stand. I have no boobs worth speaking of so it must be the face. I meant an 8 in face, not overall. I could go on about how I came to an 8 but I don't want to sound conceited, which I'm sure everyone thinks already. I just said that so that PK didn't think I'm some dog that needs to hurry up and settle for anything I can get. If I wanted to settle I would he married already.


Posted By: bk2la981
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:39am
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

ouch!!!


it's not even an attempt to be super rude or to throw shade.  i am not even trying to read OP but many men...even if they are old...want to date women in their 20s. it's gross & unfair but in the dating world after a certain age, men have the upper hand. why? bc men are still seen as a prize as they age, are typically considered "better" looking and more attractive, especially if they have a career and no kids...whereas women are just seen as..old...and "what-is-wrong-with-her-why-isn't-she-married."

mens stocks rise with age, while womens decline. probably why so many women will tell younger women to not be so picky [idk about that line of reasoning but i have never heard of a man receiving such advice]

..and the men will date younger women who they think are more flexible and have less bag.gage






That's for men who are looking for arm candy who are probably going through a crisis or need a 20 something year old to make them feel better, hes not. He's really just looking for someone to settle down with...again.. Hes divorced. Hes confident enough to date a 40 year old woman if he liked her personality. I see and hear what women think of him and its all good.
you sure he's not desperate?



lol, I don't know how to take that. No he's not. From what I heard from the people who work there, he has a lot of nice looking female admirers of all ages even younger than me. :-\


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:45am
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

ouch!!!


it's not even an attempt to be super rude or to throw shade.  i am not even trying to read OP but many men...even if they are old...want to date women in their 20s. it's gross & unfair but in the dating world after a certain age, men have the upper hand. why? bc men are still seen as a prize as they age, are typically considered "better" looking and more attractive, especially if they have a career and no kids...whereas women are just seen as..old...and "what-is-wrong-with-her-why-isn't-she-married."

mens stocks rise with age, while womens decline. probably why so many women will tell younger women to not be so picky [idk about that line of reasoning but i have never heard of a man receiving such advice]

..and the men will date younger women who they think are more flexible and have less bag.gage



Originally posted by Midwest_Da_Gawd Midwest_Da_Gawd wrote:

SMH what the hell is wrong with an old Brotha cuffing a young broad?

Goddammit if I'm 50 years old, and these young heifers still choosing, Imma get me one too!

F*ck I look like getting me an old ass long-in-the-tooth broad my age when I could get me a tight young thang?! That's backwards hustlin'.


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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:46am
Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

Originally posted by starflower7 starflower7 wrote:


Originally posted by bk2la981 bk2la981 wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Man if you a single 30 year old woman u should be open to dating men all the way up to 50.





LOLOLOL. If I didn't have a sense of humor this would make me cry. I wasted the last 4 years on someone who I saw potential in but couldnt get his act together. Big mistake. I live in LA, its slim pickings here. On top of that I don't want to settle so I haven't found ” the one” yet. This guy is almost perfect but his age makes me think I'm settling. Btw, I'm not ugly at all. An 8, maybe more. and I myself look very young. everyone thinks I'm 22 by looking at me, after speaking to me they realize I'm older.


LoL...how can you rate yourself though? Your rating of yourself isn't worth squat.
 

I could go on about how I came to an 8 but I don't want to sound conceited, which I'm sure everyone thinks already.  

Please, please do...I won't judge. I'm just curious.



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"I give to the needy...and not the greedy!"

"Mm hm that's right!"



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