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Topic: [Vital Information] The Signs of Abuse
Posted By: Midna
Subject: [Vital Information] The Signs of Abuse
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 12:29am
Ladies and gents, it is important to realize abuse when it happens. You don't always have to be beaten up to be considered abused, the abuse can happen not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. Please watch out for these signs of abuse and do not stay for them. Your safety, your happiness, and your sanity is far more important than the person who is trying to harm you- yes, harm.






Know the warning signs. Don't wait until it's too late.

Here is a list of hotlines for various emergencies and issues. (These are mainly US-based, but there are some for other countries and at the bottom is a link to hotlines listed by country.)

Depression:

  • Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (2433) – Can use in US, U.K., Canada and Singapore
  • Suicide Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999
  • National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245)
  • National Adolescent Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000
  • Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS
  • NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group: 1-800-826-3632
  • Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET
  • Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357
  • Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
  • Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide: (UK only) 0844-561-6855
  • Beyondblue info line: (Australia only) 1300-22-4636
  • 24/7 Crisis Line:(Canada only) 905-522-1477
  • Lifeline Australia: 13-11-14

Domestic Abuse:

  • National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453
  • National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324
  • Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504
  • Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
  • Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722
  • Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111
  • Child Abuse Hotline Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200
  • Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468
  • Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707
  • Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001
  • Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish: 1-800-992-2600
  • Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277

Alcohol & Drug Abuse:

  • National Association for Children of Alcoholics: 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)
  • National Drug Abuse: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Al-Anon/Alateen Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker): 1-800-344-2666
  • Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Be Sober Hotline: 1-800-BE-SOBER (1-800-237-6237)
  • Cocaine Help Line: 1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463)
  • 24 Hour Cocaine Support Line: 1-800-992-9239
  • Ecstasy Addiction: 1-800-468-6933
  • Marijuana Anonymous: 1-800-766-6779

Youth & Teen Hotlines:

  • National Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663
  • Youth America Hotline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)
  • Covenant House Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999
  • Boys Town National: 1-800-448-3000
  • Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900
  • TeenLine: 1-800-522-8336
  • Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009
  • Runaway Support (All Calls are Confidential): 800-231-694
  • National Runaway Hotline: (US only) 1800-231-6946
  • Child Helpline: (UK Only) 0800-111
  • Kids Helpline: (Australia) 1800-55-1800
  • Youth to Youth: (UK only) 020-8896-3675
  • Kids Help Phone Canada: 1800-688-6868
  • National Youth Crisis Hotline:(US only) 800-442-442-4673 

Pregnancy Hotlines:

  • AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center: 1-800-560-0717
  • Pregnancy Support: 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)
  • Pregnancy National Helpline: 1-800-356-5761
  • Young Pregnant Support: 1-800 550-4900

Gay and Lesbian Hotlines:

  • The Trevor Helpline (For homosexuality questions or problems): 1-800-850-8078
  • Gay & Lesbian National Support: 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)
  • Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line: 1-800-850-8078
  • Lesbian & Gay Switchboard: (UK Only) 0121 622 6589
  • Lothian Gay & Lesbian Switchboard – Scotland: (Scotland Only) 0131 556 4049

Other Hotlines:

  • Self-Injury Support: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) ( http://www.selfinjury.com" rel="nofollow - www.selfinjury.com )
  • Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention: 1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8am-noon daily, PST)
  • Eating Disorders Center: 1-888-236-1188
  • Help Finding a Therapist: 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)
  • Panic Disorder Information and Support: 1-800-64-PANIC (1-800-647-2642)
  • TalkZone (Peer Counselors): 1-800-475-TALK (1-800-475-2855)
  • Parental Stress Hotline: 1-800-632-8188
  • Parent Help Line (Australia only): 1300-364-100
  • National AIDS Helpline: (UK Only) 0800 567 123
  • Mensline Australia: 1300-789-978


For an extensive list of help hotlines listed by countries around the world, http://togetherweare-strong.tumblr.com/helpline" rel="nofollow - click here.




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Posted By: ImThatDiva
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:15am
Admin, Sticky this please.

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Mrs.ImThatModdlessDiva
TWERKIN' MY WAY DOWNTOWN
CARS DRIVE PAST
DRIVERS CRASH AND I'M LOWDOWN
-Midna


Posted By: khivey
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 5:04am
Good post MidnaClap
The sad part the majority of these women know they are in an abusive relationship, but their emotions are too deeply caught up that they won't break away on their own.
There has to be away to get them to understand without just putting it in their face. These women never want to hear the truth because it always involved telling them to leave...and that isn't what they want to hear. Yea..it is sad. Some learn the hard way and end up getting hurt or even killed and others waste precious time with a man and when they finally do break away they are too damaged to truly move on to a real fulfilling relationship.

Ladies take heed! That man is not the only man in the world..look outside of your own "world" and you will see what life truly has to offer on all levels.


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Posted By: ScorpioLuv
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 5:49am
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship before. A lot of people probably don't know they're in one

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Sons of bitches,smh


Posted By: Prazol60
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 2:12pm
Great post and reading some of these threads this was very much needed 


Posted By: AffirmativeBunny
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 10:06pm
A LOT of women need to read this. You'd think its common sense but it really isn't for a lot of people.


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Nov 20 2012 at 10:41pm
And that's why I've provided. It's true, often people are in abusive relationships and don't even know it.

I posted this information on abuse after I realized a few days ago that my first boyfriend was extremely abusive and although things weren't physical, they certainly were emotionally and mentally.

Him chasing after me for about a year after he dumped me wasn't him loving me or any crap to do with his male ego.

He just wanted that control back. Ladies and gents, do not fall for this trap. I am so glad after he dumped me, I happily moved on but he didn't want that to happen.


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Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Nov 21 2012 at 9:24am
Great thread. Thanks for sharing OP.

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Posted By: ScorpioLuv
Date Posted: Nov 21 2012 at 6:26pm
Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

And that's why I've provided. It's true, often people are in abusive relationships and don't even know it.

I posted this information on abuse after I realized a few days ago that my first boyfriend was extremely abusive and although things weren't physical, they certainly were emotionally and mentally.

Him chasing after me for about a year after he dumped me wasn't him loving me or any crap to do with his male ego.

He just wanted that control back. Ladies and gents, do not fall for this trap. I am so glad after he dumped me, I happily moved on but he didn't want that to happen.


Sounds like my ex that I wrote about in random thoughts relationships. He's doing that now. He just needs to find the next young girl and move on. Funny thing is he's trying to do this from a different state. He moved, now he needs to move on.

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Sons of bitches,smh


Posted By: ImThatDiva
Date Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 12:40am
BUMP

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Mrs.ImThatModdlessDiva
TWERKIN' MY WAY DOWNTOWN
CARS DRIVE PAST
DRIVERS CRASH AND I'M LOWDOWN
-Midna


Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Nov 28 2012 at 9:37pm
bump

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Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Dec 08 2012 at 8:10pm
ClapHeart

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Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Dec 08 2012 at 8:12pm
bump.

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Posted By: Eve625
Date Posted: Dec 10 2012 at 10:53am
This is a great post and a must read!!! Clap


Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Dec 10 2012 at 3:28pm
*bumpin*
 
Yeah we need to stop it from going to the archives its very important to know.


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Posted By: SensitiveSwag
Date Posted: Dec 10 2012 at 9:21pm
Does this apply to men?

I think I'm in an emotionally abused relationship.

She only sees me as a sex object and makes me feel worthless. Ouch


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Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Dec 11 2012 at 4:34pm
Men get abused all the time, not only women. You need to let her go, theres no point in sitting around daydreaming and hoping shes going to change, they never do. You don't deserve that.

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Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Dec 11 2012 at 4:45pm
Originally posted by SensitiveSwag SensitiveSwag wrote:

Does this apply to men?

I think I'm in an emotionally abused relationship.

She only sees me as a sex object and makes me feel worthless. Ouch


Most definitely. Women aren't the only one who can endure rape and abuse. If you feel you are in an abusive relationship, I want you to pack your bags and do all you can to get to stepping!


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Posted By: Brownsugar1
Date Posted: Jan 13 2013 at 8:25pm


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When there is no enemy within,
the enemies outside cannot hurt you.


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 5:40am
Still disappointed in the admin for not stickying this after requesting so many times.

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Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Jan 23 2013 at 7:06pm
bump

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Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Jul 14 2013 at 6:33pm
Bump


Please sticky this thread, mods! I've asked so many times and you ignore me each time. This is important knowledge.


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Jul 16 2013 at 12:51am
Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

Bump


Please sticky this thread, mods! I've asked so many times and you ignore me each time. This is important knowledge.





Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Sep 09 2013 at 3:02am
I AM GOING TO KEEP BUMPING THIS THREAD.

These mods and admins can keep ignoring my request to sticky it, I will just bump it up.

http://f2.blackhairmedia.com/someone-please-help-me_topic364169_page1.html" rel="nofollow - We've got abuse victims on here looking for help and I'll supply the information they need.

Thanks for nothing, BHM mods and admins.


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Oct 11 2013 at 4:38am
BUMP!


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Feb 18 2014 at 10:55am
bumpSmile


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 2:01am
All this time and the mods and admins just ignore my requests to sticky this despite the uber-helpful information we have here.

We've had multiple members going to abuse, some looking for help, someone not even knowing they're being abused and yet this information isn't readily accessible to them unless someone links them all because the mods don't want to accept such a simple request.

I see a new sticky from the ForumAdmin stating that the relationship section is the relationship section, though!

They ain't sh*t.


Posted By: Nubia25
Date Posted: Mar 06 2014 at 11:35am
Thanks so much for this info Midna.


Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 7:07pm
Bump


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 28 2016 at 2:47pm
bump.... this info may save a life


Posted By: Lexy5028
Date Posted: May 01 2016 at 12:58am
Bump...this is great stuff


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Jul 08 2016 at 11:32pm
Admin STEEEEEL didn't sticky this shid

Perma side-eye!


Posted By: mjsdirtydiana88
Date Posted: Oct 04 2016 at 1:44pm
I am so glad I left my abusive relationship back in 2012


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Apr 14 2017 at 9:45pm
I am sure I have posted this before, but here it is again:









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