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Topic: Inviting His Ex Wife to Your Wedding?
Posted By: PurplePhase
Subject: Inviting His Ex Wife to Your Wedding?
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:40pm
If everyone is fine and moved on, is this inappropriate? If she expects to be invited, how to you tell her no? (You have children together, if that matters).

(eta: yes, I did google it first LOL just posting for opinions and stories.)


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Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:43pm
what does this mean by "expected"?  are we all friendly or she just expects to be invited because there isn't any drama and they have kids?


Posted By: iGotSunshine
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:46pm
No. 
im very petty 
oh well LOL


i wouldnt tell her anything 
she doesnt deserve an explanation


Posted By: nala52808
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:49pm
heck no. me and him is tryn to start a future together , so we don't need no sh!t from the past ruining our big day. even if she cool wit us.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:49pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

what does this mean by "expected"?  are we all friendly or she just expects to be invited because there isn't any drama and they have kids?


she asks "am I invited?"


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Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:52pm
my sister in law's ex (and father of child) was at the wedding. he was drunk as a skunk 


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:52pm
i'd say no, only friends and family are invited.


Posted By: ThatGurlD
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:55pm
I am a strong believer in where kids are involved adults need to get along.  Of course she's invited.  Not inviting her or telling her now would be the beginning a long drama-filled life.  Besides, I ain't thinking about her on my big day.  Unless she got to trippin I probably wouldn't notice she was there.

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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:55pm
my dh said when we were dating he would invite his ex's to our wedding





























































































































they were not invitedLOL



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Posted By: bg
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:56pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

If everyone is fine and moved on, is this inappropriate?



i don't think its inappropriate.


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Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 5:56pm
no ex's will be invited 

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:01pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i'd say no, only friends and family are invited.


but but butLOL,  what if you are friends?


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Posted By: Joja1107
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:01pm
If they shared kids and 
a. we were cool, yes. Why not?
b. if we are just  on "hi & bye" level, naw.
c. obviously if we not cool.....


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:02pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

my dh said when we were dating he would invite his ex's to our wedding





























































































































they were not invitedLOL



I def don't see an issue with inviting ex BF/GFs. I don't see issue with ex spouses either, but I do realize that's sorta different.


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:03pm
Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

no ex's will be invited 


ex husband?


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:05pm
there are some people who will always be a part of your life

i wouldnt have a problem with any of her ex's coming,

she wouldnt have any of my ex's coming though

now, who would mention anything if they knew the bride's previous bedfellows were at her wedding and the groom didnt know?

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:06pm
why oh why would the groom care? lol

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Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:08pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i'd say no, only friends and family are invited.


but but butLOL,  what if you are friends?

lol we wouldn't be.  we'd be FRIENDLY, not friends.  i'd try to be as diplomatic as possible about it but i just couldn't do it.  


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:08pm
just for fun, Part2: where do you seat her? With the family on the groom's side, or off in a corner near the bathroom? lol

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:09pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

why oh why would the groom care? lol
and if it is the other way around?

if the grooms ex bedfellows were there?

not one, not two, but 4

you know this is building up to a story right



good sh*t!!



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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:09pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i'd say no, only friends and family are invited.


but but butLOL,  what if you are friends?

lol we wouldn't be.  we'd be FRIENDLY, not friends.  i'd try to be as diplomatic as possible about it but i just couldn't do it.  


oh wait. I meant if the groom and his ex wife are friends. (don't know if you thought I meant you and ex W were friends; that probably won't happen LOL)


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:11pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

why oh why would the groom care? lol
and if it is the other way around?

if the grooms ex bedfellows were there?

not one, not two, but 4

you know this is building up to a story right



good sh*t!!

 


now you know I wouldn't care.  But I guess some would.


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:12pm
^^I mean, I wouldn't be happy about the secrecy of it (if he didn't tell me she was there until our 2nd anniv). But I sure wouldn't care if they were there.

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:13pm
tell the story Afro!

 


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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:17pm
i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
i know a good number of my exes would not be happy if they found out i was getting married...simply because i'm not getting married to them.
many of them have told me they would crash my wedding and phuck shyt up...so no.
plus i can't be walking down the aisle and seeing my exes knowing they thinking of all the freaky ish we've done in the past.
and you can't have yours either.
hellllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzz no.
oh and i aint marrying no man with kid(s) so that's not even an issue.


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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:18pm
Hughi purp!!!

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:20pm
I caught a lot of flack when exes found out I had gotten married after turning them down and saying I was never going to get married. They weren't invited to the wedding tho  because of logistics; but I'm sure they would have shown up to see the pigs fly along with the other guests who came for that reasonLOL.

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:21pm
  Hughi Sm!!!


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:22pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

tell the story Afro!

 


or will I need to go to the sextion for that story LOLLOL
LOL

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:22pm
Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:


many of them have told me they would crash my wedding and phuck shyt up...so no.
rofl!

this is very close to home



in those exact words!!

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:23pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

tell the story Afro!

 

i would, but i plead the fifth!

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:24pm
*googles*
have you ever told it anywhere on the web, ever? lol


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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:28pm
nah!!

its too specific and this guy is one of those people who is a true friend.

the one who wont just help me bury my bodies, but will be there for the clipping too if you get what i mean

all i know is certain people cant come to my wedding coz of his wife!






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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: JamCaygirl
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:32pm
wheredeydodatat?

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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:32pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

nah!!

its too specific and this guy is one of those people who is a true friend.

the one who wont just help me bury my bodies, but will be there for the clipping too if you get what i mean

all i know is certain people cant come to my wedding coz of his wife!







cotdamn, this sounds juicy Tongue


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:36pm
Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
 


I'm just giggling at this because according to what I hear/read, etc. many of the guests aren't there because they are happy for you¹ anyway.  but to gossip, malign the menu and your gown choice, talk about the groom and how the band was horrible, etc.

 I went to a wedding recently where the mom of the bride  wasn't there because she was happy for them. She was standing at the door as we entered and said to me "this ain't gone work." LOL

¹collective


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:38pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

nah!!

its too specific and this guy is one of those people who is a true friend.

the one who wont just help me bury my bodies, but will be there for the clipping too if you get what i mean

all i know is certain people cant come to my wedding coz of his wife!






oh, a REAL friend!

(friends will help you move, real friends will help you move a body)


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Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:42pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
 


I'm just giggling at this because according to what I hear/read, etc. many of the guests aren't there because they are happy for you¹ anyway.  but to gossip, malign the menu and your gown choice, talk about the groom and how the band was horrible, etc.

 I went to a wedding recently where the mom of the bride  wasn't there because she was happy for them. She was standing at the door as we entered and said to me "this ain't gone work." LOL

¹collective

LOL and this is why i really don't want to invite ANY of my female cousins or aunts b/c they will have something to say about something, anything.
 



Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:42pm
^^LOL

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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:42pm
Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
i know a good number of my exes would not be happy if they found out i was getting married...simply because i'm not getting married to them.
many of them have told me they would crash my wedding and phuck shyt up...so no.
plus i can't be walking down the aisle and seeing my exes knowing they thinking of all the freaky ish we've done in the past.
and you can't have yours either.
hellllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzz no.
oh and i aint marrying no man with kid(s) so that's not even an issue.


one or two might be but i feel like they're all thinking

1. what that nic.ca got that i don't?
2. hmm i remember that time she did that scorpion move while riding it
3. bet that nic.caa got a small dick
4. wonder how much money he makes?
5. bet that nic.ca got a small dick
6. does he know she likes it when you press hard against her clit about 3 seconds into her orgasm and turn your finger clockwise and counterclock wise at the same damn time?
7. i bet that nic.ca got a small dick
8. i wonder who i can sleep with at the this wedding?
9. her ass is looking nice in that dress....hmm and her tits look juicy...sitting RIGHT
10. bet that nic.ca got a small dick


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Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:44pm
I was coming in to say my criteria would be whether or not they would bring anything positive to the day

if not, they can stay home

*but y'all got that covered


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:45pm
they are bringing your 3 step-children. That could be positive or negative lol.

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Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:45pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

no ex's will be invited 


ex husband?
im cool with all my ex's but they arent invited.


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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:46pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
 


I'm just giggling at this because according to what I hear/read, etc. many of the guests aren't there because they are happy for you¹ anyway.  but to gossip, malign the menu and your gown choice, talk about the groom and how the band was horrible, etc.

 I went to a wedding recently where the mom of the bride  wasn't there because she was happy for them. She was standing at the door as we entered and said to me "this ain't gone work." LOL

¹collective
 
 
LOL....idk why people do that. if it wasnt because of my mom i would get married in court because i know people are going to come to my wedding just to see pigs fly (stole from purp).


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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:49pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
i know a good number of my exes would not be happy if they found out i was getting married...simply because i'm not getting married to them.
many of them have told me they would crash my wedding and phuck shyt up...so no.
plus i can't be walking down the aisle and seeing my exes knowing they thinking of all the freaky ish we've done in the past.
and you can't have yours either.
hellllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzz no.
oh and i aint marrying no man with kid(s) so that's not even an issue.


one or two might be but i feel like they're all thinking

1. what that nic.ca got?
2. hmm i remember that time she did that scorpion move while rifing it
3. bet that nic.caa got a small dick
4. wonder how much money he makes?
5. bet that nic.ca got a small dick
6. does he know she likes it when you press hard against her clit about 3 seconds into her orgasm and turn your finger clockwise and counterclock wise at the same damn time?
7. i bet that nic.ca got a small dick
8. i wonder who i ca sleep with at the this wedding?
9. her ass is looking nice in that dress....hmm and her tits look juicy
10. bet that nic.ca got a small dick
 
 
LOLLOLLOLCryCryLOLLOLCryLOL....this shyt right here!
 
i can see it now.


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:50pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

nah!!

its too specific and this guy is one of those people who is a true friend.

the one who wont just help me bury my bodies, but will be there for the clipping too if you get what i mean

all i know is certain people cant come to my wedding coz of his wife!






wait now; why can't they come because of his wife? did his wife have a thing with another one of your boys? Or do you have a female friend in your circle  that used to date him?


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Posted By: Princess_S
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:51pm
my gf hubby baby mother wa at their reception this past summer. she didnt even dress up i was like wtf. why even come


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:53pm
Sm, I guess I'[m weird. I LOVE that stuff. lol

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Posted By: **Sk!TtLeS B**
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:56pm
If they're coming with the kids, I wouldnt really mind, I just dont see why it'd be necessary. 

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:59pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

nah!!

its too specific and this guy is one of those people who is a true friend.

the one who wont just help me bury my bodies, but will be there for the clipping too if you get what i mean

all i know is certain people cant come to my wedding coz of his wife!






wait now; why can't they come because of his wife? did his wife have a thing with another one of your boys? Or do you have a female friend in your circle  that used to date him?
i wouldnt call it it date,

but you get what i mean

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:00pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:



Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

i don't see the point of exes at weddings...are they really happy for you?
i know a good number of my exes would not be happy if they found out i was getting married...simply because i'm not getting married to them.
many of them have told me they would crash my wedding and phuck shyt up...so no.
plus i can't be walking down the aisle and seeing my exes knowing they thinking of all the freaky ish we've done in the past.
and you can't have yours either.
hellllllllllllzzzzzzzzzzz no.
oh and i aint marrying no man with kid(s) so that's not even an issue.





one or two might be but i feel like they're all thinking

1. what that nic.ca got that i don't?
2. hmm i remember that time she did that scorpion move while riding it
3. bet that nic.caa got a small dick
4. wonder how much money he makes?
5. bet that nic.ca got a small dick
6. does he know she likes it when you press hard against her clit about 3 seconds into her orgasm and turn your finger clockwise and counterclock wise at the same damn time?
7. i bet that nic.ca got a small dick
8. i wonder who i can sleep with at the this wedding?
9. her ass is looking nice in that dress....hmm and her tits look juicy...sitting RIGHT
10. bet that nic.ca got a small dick

yep yep yep yep!!

and

11. its not goint to last anyway

12. she'll be back, trust!

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I just can't stand the negro british midget. He brings out the worst in me.....

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I sometimes think AfroK is gay and either doesn't know it or won't admit to it..


Posted By: *Belle*Femme*
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:01pm
why would she be invited? I don't care if we all are cool on some demi/bruce/ashton. Why would she even want to come?

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:01pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:


Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

nah!!

its too specific and this guy is one of those people who is a true friend.

the one who wont just help me bury my bodies, but will be there for the clipping too if you get what i mean

all i know is certain people cant come to my wedding coz of his wife!






wait now; why can't they come because of his wife? did his wife have a thing with another one of your boys? Or do you have a female friend in your circle  that used to date him?
i wouldnt call it it date,

but you get what i mean


well dang, so now she can't come to your wedding?  She's gonna crash I bet LOL


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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:03pm
damn Ouch, going by my criteria i just realized i would not be able to go to my best friend's brother's wedding. our families are very close, i'm gonna have to come up with a good excuse as to why i can't attend.

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:04pm
^^too many rules lol

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Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:11pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

^^too many rules lol
 
 
LOL...well, i wanna respect his bride to be (even though he keeps saying how am i not going to come to my own wedding....i aint marrying that fool...the sex was just good).


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:14pm
^^Yes, I'm all for respecting the bride. But MY wedding, where I'm the bride, I'on't care!




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Posted By: miana79
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:18pm
 
 
2 people that have screwed you should not be in the same room on the wedding day...


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:18pm
she can come. i mean, she does have children... but if he wanted her to come, she can come.
i'm likely going to invite frenemies, haters who said my standards are too high too.

come celebrate how fine, rich and amazing my husband relationship is. 


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Posted By: ImThatDiva
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:57pm
nvm


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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:59pm
I payed for part of my ex's wedding and I know damn well I aint invited. lol

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Posted By: Ladybird0724
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:03pm
no, I would not.

I mean, if you have kids together and are on a great relationship, then that's fine, but I see no reason to invite the ex to the wedding. they can support the child(ren) by not talking sh!t and being an adult. you don't have to be physically there to show support.


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Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:03pm
i am listening to this song and one of the lyrics is "if anything should happen, i guess i wish you well. a little bit of heaven and a little bit of hell."  just reminded me of this thread

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Posted By: ImThatDiva
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:04pm
Me get with a divorced man? who has kids?



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Posted By: tropical-punch
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:16pm
Hey, if you can marry your best friend's ex girlfriend and have him as your best man why not?
True story.


Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:32pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I payed for part of my ex's wedding and I know damn well I aint invited. lol


you are an odd creature.
luv u thoughBig smile


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Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:33pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

If everyone is fine and moved on, is this inappropriate? If she expects to be invited, how to you tell her no? (You have children together, if that matters).

(eta: yes, I did google it first LOL just posting for opinions and stories.)



i'd invite her. if there is no beef or drama.. i say why not?
its important for me to instill lessons of maturity in my kids/stepkids and I need to lead by example.

shrugs.


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Posted By: AshBash89
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 8:50pm
If they share children then yes I would invite her, but only if we are cordial.


Posted By: laceyfront
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:08pm
Originally posted by ImThatDiva ImThatDiva wrote:

Me get with a divorced man? who has kids?



Posted By: r0ck_starr
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:09pm
My mom went to her ex-husband's wedding. It was cool no drama. 


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:10pm
I wouldn't want to go to an ex's wedding.
So no I wouldn't invite her.


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:15pm
for real real, she will always be part of your life.
she's your husband's ex-wife and his children's mother. 
i'd also be really happy that she's mature enough to keep a nice relationship with her ex-husband

she'd be invited to our wedding because its about a celebration for the family.
and thats his. 


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Posted By: beebeexx
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:25pm
who "expects" to be invited to an Ed's wedding?
idk that's just weird to me. both of my parents are friendly and remarried but there was never any talk or thought of them attending each others weddings? like for what reason?

but if everyone involved is fine with it... no problem but I really don't think there should be any need for any explanations or further conversation once one person says no.


Posted By: SeducTress
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:36pm
This reminds me of one of the most awkward wedding moments EVA!

Seated at the table with several of the single ladies. Boo thang was a best man. His best friend the groom.

Noticed this mousy chick seated next to me. She appeared very uncomfortable. 

Meh

At the conclusion of our evening we recapped the festivities. 

Told boo thang girl seated next to me was rather strange.

He was like...*screw face*...what was her name.

I tell him.

He damn near wrecked the car. 

He was like. Ohmagard that was...ahhhhhhhh sh*t!

So by this point I'm aggy. He's not trying to pillow talk his best friend under the bus.

But I'm sitting on gold so you know he eventually spilled the beans.

The nervous mousy girl that was seated next to me is the grooms cousin.




























































wait for itStern Smile

















































Broken Heart







































Whom the groom fcuked!  

*chile boo face on with my lips leaning*



Posted By: JamCaygirl
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:39pm
cousin + cousin makes good soup Dead

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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:40pm
Originally posted by beebeexx beebeexx wrote:

who "expects" to be invited to an Ed's wedding?
idk that's just weird to me. both of my parents are friendly and remarried but there was never any talk or thought of them attending each others weddings? like for what reason?

but if everyone involved is fine with it... no problem but I really don't think there should be any need for any explanations or further conversation once one person says no.


I haven't been invited to any of my ex's weddings so far, but I have a feeling this one would.


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Posted By: SeducTress
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 9:44pm
Jam I almost broke up with my own got damn man. 

Fella's sometimes y'all be guilty by association. The company you keep. Wear clean drawers. Yadda yadda yadda

Im jussayin. Errybody outta been shot.

I can't face his wife knowing what I knowCry


Posted By: Flowing-Ice
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:02pm
when you said cousin, i was like... this isn't worth my time reading. 
whats wrong with seductress?


and then i scrolled. and my face got soooo screwed up. 
and i pushed my laptop away. and i got all dramatic. 

wow. wow. wow. 


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:13pm
yowza! 

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Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:15pm
niccas aint sh*t

niccas aint sh*t

mm mmm mmmm

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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:20pm
Originally posted by SeducTress SeducTress wrote:

  

But I'm sitting on gold so you know he eventually spilled the beans.

 



this got me LOL


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Posted By: SeducTress
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:25pm
Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

when you said cousin, i was like... this isn't worth my time reading. 
whats wrong with seductress?


and then i scrolled. and my face got soooo screwed up. 
and i pushed my laptop away. and i got all dramatic. 

wow. wow. wow. 

*giggles*

One of the most disgusting things I've ever heard firsthand.

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Posted By: SeducTress
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:25pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:

Originally posted by SeducTress SeducTress wrote:

  

But I'm sitting on gold so you know he eventually spilled the beans.

 



this got me LOL
Cool

I know you feel me, lmao


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:37pm
Heart


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Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 10:51pm
lmao.. i luv seducky...

sitting on gold... i blushed.


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Posted By: **Sk!TtLeS B**
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:02pm
Nah...did he know that was his cousin? Were they drunk? Please tell me it wasnt something that was plannedCry

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Posted By: SeducTress
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:09pm
Haaaaay booLOL *black guh voice*

Skittles...my dear...he in fact knew that was his cousin.

They were not drunk.

A very close source confirmed (lol) they had relations several times. 

Typing this makes me queasy Dead


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:14pm
err... did they stop after the wedding????????????????

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Posted By: tropical-punch
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:19pm
Oh my gawhd. Are these cousins black?


Posted By: Miss SDY
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:29pm
Originally posted by SeducTress SeducTress wrote:

This reminds me of one of the most awkward wedding moments EVA!

Seated at the table with several of the single ladies. Boo thang was a best man. His best friend the groom.

Noticed this mousy chick seated next to me. She appeared very uncomfortable. 

Meh

At the conclusion of our evening we recapped the festivities. 

Told boo thang girl seated next to me was rather strange.

He was like...*screw face*...what was her name.

I tell him.

He damn near wrecked the car. 

He was like. Ohmagard that was...ahhhhhhhh sh*t!

So by this point I'm aggy. He's not trying to pillow talk his best friend under the bus.

But I'm sitting on gold so you know he eventually spilled the beans.

The nervous mousy girl that was seated next to me is the grooms cousin.




























































wait for itStern Smile

















































Broken Heart







































Whom the groom fcuked!  

*chile boo face on with my lips leaning*

 
 
 
Originally posted by SeducTress SeducTress wrote:

Haaaaay booLOL *black guh voice*

Skittles...my dear...he in fact knew that was his cousin.

They were not drunk.

A very close source confirmed (lol) they had relations several times. 

Typing this makes me queasy Dead
 
 
 
 
Dead
Confused
Cry
Stern Smile
Sick
Nuke
 
I think I need to step away from the computer screen for a second.. Stern Smile


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Posted By: SeducTress
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:42pm
Purp they stopped after the wedding. They were hooking up when he and his then girlfriend had hit a rough patch. *shudders*

Tropical they are black.

Miss SDY I'm...i'm just sorry you happened in here.

Didn't mean to derail the thread. 

To answer your question, after that encounter I'm screening every woman in attendance Stern Smile

For all intent and purposes, he's a normal loving cool guy. Things that make u go hmmmmm....


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:44pm
Cousin by marriage?
Cousin by friendship?



Posted By: JamCaygirl
Date Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 7:43am
Sings.....

"It's a family affaaaaaaaaaaaaaaair, its a family afffaaaaaaaiir...."


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Posted By: keelolo1
Date Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 7:49am
I wouldnt say its not appropriate but i am very close friends with my first love. We cool but i got mad love for him so if the new chick jump stupid, so will i. So with that being said, i wouldnt even think about asking for an invitation. Email me some pics.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:14pm
Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Cousin by marriage?
Cousin by friendship?



I was wondering this too. Like my life-friends' children all refer to each other as cousins and the  parents are called Aunt/Uncle.


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:15pm
Originally posted by SeducTress SeducTress wrote:

Purp they stopped after the wedding. They were hooking up when he and his then girlfriend had hit a rough patch. *shudders*


dang. I  bet she was crushed at the wedding.Cry


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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:31pm
No, but a kid's mother at my school was in her ex-husband's wedding as a bridesmaid.
 
She and her fiance got married the following month and the ex-husband and his wife were in the wedding as well.
 
Their situation is very bizarre but they seem adult about it. That, or they're all getting it in


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:35pm
BB, that's more than civil LOL.

My DB and his ex wife can't even be invited to the same events without somebody getting mad. And they've been divorced 20+years. 


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Posted By: BeatriceBean
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:48pm

Yeah, they do the absolute most, but they seem like genuine friends.

 
I've gotten over it, but my mother-n-law (R.I.P.) used to invite my husband's ex-wife to Thanksgiving and place her seat right to hers. And then my MIL would wonder why we never came for holidays Ermm


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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 19 2012 at 1:52pm
Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

Yeah, they do the absolute most, but they seem like genuine friends.

 
I've gotten over it, but my mother-n-law (R.I.P.) used to invite my husband's ex-wife to Thanksgiving and place her seat right to hers. And then my MIL would wonder why we never came for holidays Ermm


funny thing is that when my ex SIL and current SIL (current at the time, she's an ex SIL now tooLOL)... but when when they  are all  at family dinners , the 2 women chat and are extremely friendly; even eating fish  off each other's plate LOL. But ex SIL couldn't stand brother for some reason LOL


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