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Topic: Keyon Dooling talks about his sexual abuse...
Posted By: Random Thoughts
Subject: Keyon Dooling talks about his sexual abuse...
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:04am

Keyon Dooling stayed in a psychiatric hospital this summer, talks with Katie Couric about his history of abuse (VIDEO)

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http://l2.yimg.com/bt/api/res/1.2/8iQoXx2Dflqz4hLm2j1pyA--/YXBwaWQ9eW5ld3M7cT04NQ--/http://media.zenfs.com/en/blogs/sptusnbaexperts/155813867.jpg" rel="nofollow">Keyon and Natosha Dooling on the set of "Katie" (Ida Mae Astute/ ABC via Getty Images). Keyon and Natosha Dooling on the set of "Katie" (Ida Mae Astute/ ABC via Getty Images).

In late September, veteran Boston Celtics guard http://sports.yahoo.com/nba/players/3409" rel="nofollow - Keyon Dooling surprised the NBA world when he http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nba-ball-dont-lie/keyon-dooling-retires-leaving-players-union-big-decision-230745889--nba.html" rel="nofollow - announced his retirement less than two months after signing a new contract. However, it turned out that Dooling had http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nba-ball-dont-lie/keyon-dooling-opens-history-abuse-reasons-retirement-233745040--nba.html" rel="nofollow - an excellent reason for his decision . After years of suppressing a history of sexual abuse, Dooling understood that he had to open up about his experiences, that he needed a change in his life, and that he had to spend more time with his family. It was a brave choice for a man who had earned the respect of teammates, opponents, coaches, and employers over the course of 12 seasons in the league.

Until now, though, we haven't heard much about the experiences this summer that led Dooling to step away from basketball. As detailed by David Aldridge of NBA.com, Dooling dealt with hallucinations and related issues brought on by a form of post-traumatic stress disorder and had to spend a significant amount of time in a psychiatric hospital. http://www.nba.com/2012/news/features/david_aldridge/11/12/morning-tip-lakers-choose-mike-dantoni-over-phil-jackson/index.html?ls=iref:nbahpt6a" rel="nofollow - The entire story is worth reading — it follows Aldridge's report on the Lakers' hiring of Mike D'Antoni — but here's a brief glimpse into what Dooling went through:

Dooling was exhibiting behaviors familiar to soldiers returning from war zones. But Post Traumatic Stress Disorders aren't limited to those who fight in wars. Police officers, firefighters, anyone subject to a severe emotional episode can suffer from PTSD. Dooling's problems came to a head in August.

He was at home, playing in the street in front of his home with his kids. A neighbor thought he was playing too roughly with the kids and called the police. There is uncertainty about how many officers showed up -- 10? 12? 20? -- but it was more than one. The Doolings were new to the neighborhood. They know the police were just doing their job, responding to a call. But a bunch of cops showing up, unannounced, banging on your door is a little disconcerting.

"So I ran to the door to see what was going on," Keyon Dooling said. "I was like, 'Who is this knocking like they're the damn police?' That's what I said to myself. So when I got to the door, it was really the police. They was like, 'Get on the ground, get on the ground, get on the ground!' So I got on the ground." [...]

Dooling was taken away and hospitalized for evaluation. He didn't remember voluntarily signing into the hospital. The details are hazy, in part, because he was immediately put on medication. One of the primary symptoms of PTSD is paranoia, and Dooling was surely paranoid. He didn't want to see anybody -- or anybody to see him.

"They try to find the right dosage of medicine," he said. "Unfortunately, the dosages are so high that they start out with, all the side effects hit you. And unfortunately, it's [during] visiting hours. So when my wife was coming, I was scared, because I had no control over what I said, what I thought. It was a bad situation." [...]

After a week, Dooling was ready to leave the hospital. But he had a lot of work yet to do. He knew playing this season would make no sense, which led to the abrupt retirement. He had made strides spiritually. But he had to deal with the memories of the abuse. He had never told Natosha.

It's a fascinating, deeply moving story. What's most impressive, perhaps, is that Dooling isn't using a retirement solely as a chance to work on personal issues — he has also emerged as an advocate for victims of sexual abuse. Last Thursday, Dooling and his wife Natosha appeared on Katie Couric's new talk show "Katie" to talk about his history, why he stayed silent, and how he and others are attempting to help fellow victims. Check out these four clips (via http://redsarmy.com/2012/11/08/keyon-dooling-shares-his-powerful-story-with-katie-couric/" rel="nofollow - Celtics blog Red's Army ):

Note: These videos feature very frank, adult (though not especially graphic) discussions of Dooling's history of sexual abuse.

Dooling describes his atypical sexual education and how his abuse began:


The Doolings discuss the prevalence of abuse in the inner city and how Keyon came to understand he had been abused:









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Posted By: beebeexx
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:09am
that police >> hospital story sounds shady as hell. 


Posted By: Random Thoughts
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:09am
He describes how the abuse began http://bcove.me/6ojiul54" rel="nofollow - here

He describes how he came to know he was abused http://bcove.me/6hfwfq9d" rel="nofollow - here

Or you can just go to the yahoo link to watch the interview with Katie Curic

http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nba-ball-dont-lie/keyon-dooling-stayed-psychiatric-hospital-summer-talks-katie-225458656--nba.html" rel="nofollow - http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nba-ball-dont-lie/keyon-dooling-stayed-psychiatric-hospital-summer-talks-katie-225458656--nba.html


Posted By: Alias_Avi
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:14am
I watched that Katie episode

Didn't know who he was but inspiring, nonetheless
Good for him for speaking up about it






Posted By: Brownsugar1
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:15am
the police didn't even question him about what happened and they straight up baker act him like that 
this is so sad Broken Heart



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Posted By: Eden.
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:22am


I felt Katie came off as insensitive. Is this how she usually is? Or is it just my white ppl paranoia?

I wanted to slap her when he was trying to describe his fam/community dynamic. I get frustrated like that with my therapist sometimes.

Asking them about the prevalence of child molestation in the inner city. Bruh..

But i'm so happy for him. It's never too late to recover.


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:24am
Uh I'll watch it all later but when I was in about the second-third grade I was at summer camp, and you know how they have older kids over the younger kids. There was this boy who was about twelve and an older girl (she looked grown to me when I was that age but now I realize she was about seventeen) "She said, "Ooh boy your lips is so luscious" and she grabbed his head and kissed him full on the mouth. This was in the middle of the lunch room but there were only a few people there. I knew it was wrong because she was a counselor and she was supposed to be watching us but I never said anything. So yeah some thirsty older women will definitely take advantage of young boys.

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Posted By: Alias_Avi
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:24am
I liked what he said about redefining rejection as 'redirection'...

I gotta rememba that


Posted By: nycdiva357
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:25am
glad that he's speaking about it.

sexual abuse is already a taboo subject.
but especially so for males.

he's using his platform to bring awareness to a problem-- and i have nothing but respect for him.


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Posted By: Eden.
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:26am
I seen a childhood friend get molested. I mentioned it years after telling him if he ever wanted to talk I was here for him blah blah blah and he slapped me. lol

I didn't trip but I left it alone. I wonder how he's doing now.


Posted By: naturesgift
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:28am
I wonder if it worst talking about your own tramu nationally! I think its good to speak out , but God it must be hard


Posted By: Jr1127
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:33am
It takes strength to be able to talk about your experience dealing with abuse.


Posted By: starflower7
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:40am
Originally posted by Eden. Eden. wrote:

I seen a childhood friend get molested. I mentioned it years after telling him if he ever wanted to talk I was here for him blah blah blah and he slapped me. lol

I didn't trip but I left it alone. I wonder how he's doing now.

Um wow. 


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Posted By: foxyroy19
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 12:53am
Broken Heart

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Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 1:00am
Cry The things disgusting people can do to a child. Anyway, I love that he's able to share his experience. It can make a world of difference for boys because they hear about it a lot less from other males


and on a SN, this article bothered me. Especially this part "One of the primary symptoms of PTSD is paranoia, and Dooling was surely paranoid. He didn't want to see anybody -- or anybody to see him."

Not wanting people to know about your psychiatric hospitalization when you're in crisis has nothing to do with (clinical) paranoia.


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 6:33am
im going to need to watch the video because all i got for the article was: police knocked on the door...hospitalized...retired.


Posted By: freedom76
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 1:05pm
I am glad that he is getting the help he needs and was able to help others. I didn't like his wife in that interview.

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Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 1:17pm
Originally posted by Eden. Eden. wrote:

I seen a childhood friend get molested. I mentioned it years after telling him if he ever wanted to talk I was here for him blah blah blah and he slapped me. lol

I didn't trip but I left it alone. I wonder how he's doing now.
Confused &Cry

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Posted By: Bunnyahh
Date Posted: Nov 13 2012 at 2:09pm
Katie is talking about the innocence project & ppl that were exonerated later. I always feel bad for these guys that get so many of their years stolen from themCry

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