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Topic: If A Man Wants You......
Posted By: stacymo28
Subject: If A Man Wants You......
Date Posted: Jul 15 2008 at 3:04pm
Someone just sent me this.  I'm not sure who the author is but truer words have never been spoken.  I would have really been able to use this kind of advice when I started dating way back in the Flinstone days but I had to learn the hard way.
 
Anyhoo, I just wanted to pass this on to all the ladies cuz it's too good to keep to myself.  Sorry if it has been posted before.
Peace....
 
 

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

 

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

 

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

 

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

 

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

 

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant

to be.

 

Slower is better.

 

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly

happy.

 

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you

deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't

mistreat a friend.

 

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he

probably is.

 

Don't stay because you think "it will get better."

 

You'll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

 

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

 

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different

women.

 

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you

any differently?

 
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

 

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

 

If something bothers you, speak up.

 

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

 

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

 

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if

he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a

quasi-god.

 

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

 

Never let a man define who you are. 

 

Never borrow someone else's man.

 

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

 

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

 

All men are NOT dogs.

 

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a

two-way street.

 

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute

about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new

relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a

relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone

complimentary...not supplementary.

 

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.

Right.

 

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,

and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

 

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you

need.

 

Keep him in your radar but get to know others as well.

 

ClapClapClap 




Replies:
Posted By: Afrocentchic
Date Posted: Jul 15 2008 at 4:01pm

Wow I love it!!!!Clap...I need to print it out.



Posted By: AppleCheeks
Date Posted: Jul 15 2008 at 4:02pm
Very wise statements. Wish more women took them to heart.


Posted By: stacymo28
Date Posted: Jul 15 2008 at 4:09pm
Trust me my 14yo will get a printed copy too.


Posted By: puchi
Date Posted: Jul 16 2008 at 12:35am
Very good post!


Posted By: Moniquenuss
Date Posted: Jul 17 2008 at 2:02pm
ClapClapClap OMG This is sooo True I love it !


Posted By: jvbg81
Date Posted: Jul 17 2008 at 11:30pm
thank you for my new bullentin  Clap


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Jul 18 2008 at 12:15am
Cry


Posted By: swweet*suga
Date Posted: Jul 18 2008 at 7:51am
WOW


Posted By: bellahoney
Date Posted: Jul 20 2008 at 12:13am

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Posted By: jdoriginal
Date Posted: Jul 20 2008 at 3:11pm
I could never read this too many times.


Posted By: rinthecutie
Date Posted: Jul 21 2008 at 12:58am
I like this!


Posted By: impervious99
Date Posted: Jul 22 2008 at 1:55pm
That's right!!


Posted By: stacymo28
Date Posted: Jul 22 2008 at 5:57pm
Awww I know if Impervious co-signs then it's official.  Clap


Posted By: qself36
Date Posted: Jul 22 2008 at 8:28pm

The truth!



Posted By: SooBossy
Date Posted: Jul 23 2008 at 2:48pm
This list is the truth, I had to print it out a few copies and handle personally delivery one to a friend of mine that poor child is just dizzy (lose). Tell your sender the women of BHM said thanks


Posted By: niki_p
Date Posted: Jul 24 2008 at 2:53pm
such wonderful words of wisdom... pity more of us were not taught that.


Posted By: Mrs.Player
Date Posted: Jul 25 2008 at 11:32pm
So true


Posted By: Siennonyx
Date Posted: Jul 26 2008 at 7:05am

I agree 100%



Posted By: Tangie
Date Posted: Jul 26 2008 at 7:11am
Truer words have never been spoken.


Posted By: DDBee10
Date Posted: Jul 31 2008 at 2:01am

PREACH! Clap



Posted By: breezy1
Date Posted: Aug 02 2008 at 2:38am
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Posted By: lynbrownsugar
Date Posted: Aug 04 2008 at 8:25pm

Good postClapClap



Posted By: Miss_Pepa256
Date Posted: Aug 05 2008 at 1:39pm
had to read it againConfused *sighs* i can't wait to get over this heartache


Posted By: misstoya
Date Posted: Aug 05 2008 at 11:18pm
Wow! I really like that bulletin. I think every woman needs to read that. ThanksSmile


Posted By: sokei
Date Posted: Aug 06 2008 at 4:41pm
Clap


Posted By: shashay
Date Posted: Aug 08 2008 at 2:46pm
This is soooo true! This came at the perfect, I really needed this today!


Posted By: lady662
Date Posted: Aug 08 2008 at 4:00pm
Good post. I need to print a couple copies for some women I know.Wink


Posted By: miamichick
Date Posted: Aug 18 2008 at 7:36pm

True words of wisdom. Thank you so much for posting that message! I just got dumpped by my babydaddy and was feel low. I did everything and went beyond for this man and still complained. This fool broke up with me because I rejected to dance with him to a fast beat song. What I look like booty shaing at his aunt's birthday. Oh well his lost.



Posted By: EgoExten1
Date Posted: Aug 18 2008 at 9:32pm
Love this post..If only we all would listen


Posted By: Sheryse
Date Posted: Aug 22 2008 at 8:08am
I like this!


Posted By: SexyCurlyGirl
Date Posted: Sep 27 2008 at 6:54pm
"

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,

and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted."

 this one is so true...


Posted By: eds4ko
Date Posted: Apr 28 2009 at 8:59am
I'm guilty in some of the things that's been saidOuch but happy I can print thisLOL to remind myself always 


Posted By: kellbells
Date Posted: May 08 2009 at 1:29pm
 
So true…nothing more to say Approve


Posted By: Nisha
Date Posted: May 09 2009 at 3:04pm
I have had this printed out at my desk at work for so many years the paper it's been printed on has turned a yellow-ish color.
 
Trust, I have read and re-read this so many times.
 
Whoever wrote this is wise.
 
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Posted By: tazzie881
Date Posted: Jul 23 2009 at 4:21pm
That hit it right on the nose......I've been a lurker for a year, ( I know, I know) but I needed to hear those words right about now. I just got out of a 9 month relationship with someone who simply was unwilling to compromise ad sacrifice, at all for the relationship. However he clearly expected me to. So, this post further solidified my feelings and it will be saved, printed, stored, etc...... lol  Love it!


Posted By: Chantal34
Date Posted: Jul 26 2009 at 9:25am
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Posted By: gimmeMORE.
Date Posted: Jul 26 2009 at 7:25pm
Originally posted by D-weezy D-weezy wrote:

Those chain letters you women read and pass on always crack me up because they are never written by a man and are usually from a woman that can't keep one.

I dont think there is anything wrong stated in that chain letter. It was all good advice.  You might be able to keep a man by being a doormat but you wont be happy with him!


Posted By: gimmeMORE.
Date Posted: Jul 27 2009 at 8:03pm
Originally posted by D-weezy D-weezy wrote:

Originally posted by gimmeMORE. gimmeMORE. wrote:

Originally posted by D-weezy D-weezy wrote:

Those chain letters you women read and pass on always crack me up because they are never written by a man and are usually from a woman that can't keep one.

I dont think there is anything wrong stated in that chain letter. It was all good advice.  You might be able to keep a man by being a doormat but you wont be happy with him!

How about asking a man what he wants instead of a woman that can't keep one?
If you don't consider the source, then you are in trouble.

Ask a man if you should settle in a relationship?  Ask him if you should have self esteem? For real!


Posted By: mEmYSELFaNDj
Date Posted: Jul 28 2009 at 9:00am

This sounds like it came from Steve Harvey's book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.



Posted By: Im_A_Diva
Date Posted: Jul 29 2009 at 5:53am
Ok...so....not all men are dogs....but none of the good one's want me...so not fairCry


Posted By: caliizactive
Date Posted: Aug 19 2009 at 10:50pm
this right here Thank you StacyMo...off to print


Posted By: Kim81
Date Posted: Aug 23 2009 at 1:18am
Originally posted by Afrocentchic Afrocentchic wrote:

Wow I love it!!!!Clap...I need to print it out.



ClapI'm printing it out as wellStar

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Posted By: freelisasmith
Date Posted: Aug 24 2009 at 8:33pm
I really like it.


Posted By: AriesBabe09
Date Posted: Aug 26 2009 at 12:16pm
Thumbs%20Up I love this!!


Posted By: stacymo28
Date Posted: Aug 28 2009 at 11:13pm
Originally posted by caliizactive caliizactive wrote:

this right here Thank you StacyMo...off to print


You're welcome..... Big%20smile

Damn I posted this over a year ago...forgot about it and just re-read it.  Gave me chills.  Anyway D-Weezy I have no clue who the author is, even so the letter is more about us as women and getting right with ourselves more so than about trying to snag a man.

ETA -  The title is kinda misleading tho.


Posted By: 1Longcurlynapy1
Date Posted: Oct 19 2009 at 3:07am
Thank you very much. That is now on my myspace page. I have so played the fool this year, but day by day Im going to try and stay eyes wide open :)


Posted By: gmore
Date Posted: Oct 19 2009 at 3:36am
i can't cosign that


Posted By: obsession1221
Date Posted: Nov 16 2009 at 11:11pm
It was on Oprah.


Posted By: zsazsa
Date Posted: Jan 01 2010 at 8:20pm
Have read this before. Very true


Posted By: ifeyini
Date Posted: Jan 05 2010 at 1:43pm
Smile


Posted By: lolabelle
Date Posted: Mar 07 2010 at 9:31pm
So true!


Posted By: DarkBrown
Date Posted: Jul 21 2011 at 8:58am
Thumbs Up


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A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.


Posted By: bellacnella
Date Posted: Jul 21 2011 at 9:01am
AMEN  ::bites sandwich::

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Posted By: ivy07
Date Posted: Jul 31 2011 at 5:14pm
Originally posted by SexyCurlyGirl SexyCurlyGirl wrote:

"

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,

and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted."

 this one is so true...


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Posted By: Bonjour baby ooowee
Date Posted: Aug 02 2011 at 3:03am
a rule of thumb...make him MISS you...don't call him, allow him to call or contact you...ummm...fo sho!

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Posted By: Bri_ThreeStars
Date Posted: Sep 30 2011 at 8:38am
Great article! Clap


Posted By: PunkyBrewsterLSA
Date Posted: Oct 03 2011 at 10:15pm
Originally posted by Bonjour baby ooowee Bonjour baby ooowee wrote:

a rule of thumb...make him MISS you...don't call him, allow him to call or contact you...ummm...fo sho!



I don't like playing games like that. If I miss him and want to contact him, then I will.

I think about the what-if analysis more than anything when dealing with someone I like.


Posted By: Limalady
Date Posted: Oct 03 2011 at 10:18pm
Originally posted by PunkyBrewsterLSA PunkyBrewsterLSA wrote:

Originally posted by Bonjour baby ooowee Bonjour baby ooowee wrote:

a rule of thumb...make him MISS you...don't call him, allow him to call or contact you...ummm...fo sho!



I don't like playing games like that. If I miss him and want to contact him, then I will.

I think about the what-if analysis more than anything when dealing with someone I like.
 
I agree. It works for a lot of women, but I am terrible at it.



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