Po ol Feminist w/4 kids and 3 BD/tired of critism

creole booty wrote: I don't think anyone can agree with what she did, but I do think everyone can keep their negative opinions to themselves. Online, we're good to go in as much as we want, but in real life, people should leave her alone. She's got 5 kids. It's really to late to be negative about it, and obviously those type of opinions haven't swayed her from having anymore children. Instead of playing up her victim role, she should just b demanding respect and asking people to practice, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all." As a grown woman with 5 kids I'd hope that she's aware of what people think. I'd hope she'd already b thinking to herself that "I must b doing something to keep ending up in this position. Either I just can't see it, or I'm ok with it." Either way, in real life, people need to chill out and only offer their opinion if its asked for.

That's the problem. Our people don't like any type of correction and as a result we lack discipline. People have this crazy idea that no one should tell them anything because of x,y and z. Especially them horrid "only GOD can judge" negroes. There's definitely a way to give correction/guidance to people without tearing them down, but the problem is that we don't do so as openly as we should (since we suffer from butt-hurt syndrome) and as a result we are programmed to believe that correction = negativity.

FarraFace wrote: In these 12+ pages, has anyone given examples of what the fathers of her children are doing to positively impact not only their children's lives, but the community as a whole?

creole booty wrote: That's cool and true, but its not working in this case. I'm sure after the 3rd the talking started. She's got 5. It's not working, she doesn't want to hear it. Am I saying give up on her or change the way we help? I'm not sure...

I think talking just isn't going to be enough for a lot of people.

I think people need incentives. Pay folks to get sterilized...give people tax breaks for responsible behavior...take away tax breaks for irresponsible behavior. Use philanthropy to encourage education completion and putting off parenting.

Idk but we need to do something different.

patternsandtexture wrote:  Hittin on me boo?  Its cause I use rubbers boo and I think I met my white girl though. I'm about to have some babies with 3b and 3c hair. Woooweeee. And you know I look finer than Idris and all those hollywood nuccas.

Get them wavy patterns and silky textures for the Jackson family bruh! Live the dream...

Oh, you know someone wanted to ask, someone always does. But in light of the fact that she is helping the community, they couldn't think of a way to phrase it without looking like an ass and/or remedial.

They are still thinking though, hard. I can hear the squeaking.