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    Posted: Jan 08 2014 at 1:18pm

Awesome Dad Styles Daughter's Hair, Breaks Internet

By Elise Solé, Shine Staff | Parenting – 22 hours ago

Daddy Doin' Work


Daddy Doin' WorkCall it the "Daddy Wars." One Los Angeles blogger sparked them when a photo he posted of himself and his two daughters on Twitter and Facebook quickly went viral. A father of two Doyin Richards (pronounced Doe-ween), 39, is currently taking a paternity leave of absence from his job in learning development to care for his daughters, ages 6 months and 2 years. He described the incident on his blog.

"One morning, [my wife] was running late for work and was worried that she wouldn't be able to get [my daughter's] hair done before I had to take her to school. I told her that she could leave and I'd handle it. She countered by saying that doing her hair requires attention and the baby would get upset if I left her alone while I played the role of stylist. Again, I told her that I'd handle it. On the way out she said, 'I'll believe it when I see it.'" Still determined, Richards placed his infant into her carrier and "worked my hair magic." He also set up his camera, enabled its 10-second timer, and snapped a photo to prove to his wife that he could handle the job.

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Richards had originally posted the photo on his website back in October, with an accompanying post titled, "I Have a Dream: That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It's a Big Deal." But in late December, he reposted it, and on Monday, the fatherhood blog The Good Men Project picked it up.

In a matter of hours, the photo went viral, quickly amassing nearly 5,000 shares, 3,000 comments, and 190,000 likes, along with a slew of mean-spirited remarks, such as "He probably rented those kids. They don't even look like him," and "I would bet anything that you're a deadbeat."

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Although to Richards, the photo is simply an accurate reflection of his daily life, he understands the scrutiny — to a degree. "The picture stirs emotion for a few reasons," Richards tells Yahoo Shine. "The media doesn't portray fathers as caregivers. We're seen as bumbling fools trying to figure out parenthood, or macho men pushing their kids into the NFL. The other issue is that there's a stereotype that black fathers are deadbeats."

Despite what Richards calls "haters," he sees his role as a father as no different from that of a mother. He writes, "Memo to the small pocket of male haters I have: Why don't you put big boy shorts on and get in on the revolution of good fathers? It's not a good look to tear down dads for doing the work your wives wished you were man enough to do on your own. If you don't believe me, just ask your spouses. They'll tell you."

At the same time, he outright rejects any hero worship: "Don't get me wrong here — it's a very cute picture, and it's cool when people say so. However, I start to get a little uncomfortable when people want to start planning parade routes for me because of it. Somewhere there's a dad doing the exact same thing for his daughters. Somewhere there's a dad who put his foot down with his boss and refused to attend an 'urgent staff meeting' so he could leave work early to attend his daughter's dance recital. Somewhere there's a single dad successfully getting his three sons ready for school."

According to family and relationship expert Laurie Puhn, author of Fight Less, Love More, Richard's post packs a triple-punch that makes him a target for attention. "This is a handsome man with a good job — that offers paternity leave, no less — and he seems happily married," Puhn tells Yahoo Shine. "If he were a stay-at-home father, this might not be so noteworthy, but he's taking voluntarily paternity leave. What's more, he obviously enjoys it. Unfortunately, if a woman were doing the same job, no one would talk about it."

Richards agrees, writing, "Until we can get to the point where men and women can complete the same parenting tasks and the reactions are the same, we will have problems. If you want to create a statue for me for taking care of my daughters, create one for the moms who are doing the same damn thing every day for their kids without receiving a 'Thank you' or an 'Ooooh' or 'Ahhhh.' These behaviors should be expected of moms and dads. No exceptions."

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im here.
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his arms look a lil nice...
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So cute. Look at the little chubby baby Embarrassed

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is it hard to do 2b/3a hair?
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Bet his ass wouldn't be at home twisting out some 4b naps!!!!





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There's a video on youtube of a dad putting his daughter's hair in a ponytail using the vacuum. It was quite effective.
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lol pity...
 
i have no comment on dem babies...him toggling carrying one around in the sling holder whilst styling the others silky wilky locks...
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

is it hard to do 2b/3a hair?
Maybe for her mother... ... ...
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

is it hard to do 2b/3a hair?
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