| Author |
|
niecy 
Elite Member
Joined: Nov 10 2008
Location: US - Florida
Status: Offline
Points: 73891
|
 Post Options
 Thanks(3)
 Quote  Reply
 Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 6:11am |
 creole booty wrote:
EPITOME wrote:
how long have you and your bf been together that she is making him plates? did she know him before? like are they good friends? |
6 years, nope, nope. She just said he should taste her cooking. One day, she brought some of her cooking for him to taste. |
If a female friend came over to my house with a plate JUST for my man talkin' about she felt like he needed to taste her cookin' I'd be givin' her a major side eye.
|
 |
|
Sponsored Links
|
|
|
afrokock
Elite Member
Joined: May 19 2008
Location: Scotland
Status: Offline
Points: 377770
|
Post Options
Thanks(1)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 6:30am |
creole booty wrote:
PurpleHaze wrote:
examples of flirting?
I don't think it's dangerous, if it was my friends.
|
I'll give a few:
1. Whatever side of the convo my guy is on, she chooses his side. Even when I know for a fact that she disagrees.
2. I can't cook. She knows that. She brought him home cooked dinner.*
3. She called him because I wasn't answering 
4. Flirty eyes. U know what a flirty eye looks like.
5. Random "I'm oh so good at sex" talk
6. How good she treats her man.**
7. Lame compliments. My man knows that sh*t is reaching, trying to stroke his ego.
*i asked her to teach me how to cook: ) I cook much better now
**shes a good girlfriend but she has a bad attitude towards him and talks down to him |
i agree with most on this list that its a bit suspect, but im going to ask a question that hasnt been asked so far, does your your friend make you feel insecure within yourself as a woman/gf/lover etc? no shade at all, but sometimes we read into things wrongly because we are sensitive..
|
|
creole booty
Elite Member
Joined: Sep 26 2007
Location: US - Illinois
Status: Offline
Points: 20817
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 8:32am |
khivey wrote:
It sounds like to me that you have been biting your tongue because you don't want to lose your only "friend." That is the only reason I could think of that you have put up with this.
It may not phase you, but you should act like it because your man may feel like you don't care..and could have been putting up with it because he liked the attention, even though he acted as if he wasn't phased by it..he got a mean poker face
Yea, about making folks plates but not for everyone speaks volumes. However, she taught you how to cook so that should be done.
As for her man flirting with you...maybe she knows her man flirts with you and brings his "friends" over to your house and you say NOTHING to her about it..or at least I assume you haven't since you like to avoid uncomfortable situations. She may be doing it to your man as a way to make you feel how she feels and she doesn't know how to confront you about it as to not ruin the friendship. So go 'head and have that talk wit her..you might be surprised what she has to say.
|
Mostly the reason I haven't said anything is because it feels like a petty reason to initiate a possible confrontation. It's a new town but I've met a few other people since living here. If she were truly terrible she would have been gone, but I think this is solvable. Hopefully I can catch up with her today.
|
|
creole booty
Elite Member
Joined: Sep 26 2007
Location: US - Illinois
Status: Offline
Points: 20817
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 8:37am |
|
|
|
Chyna_Li
Elite Member
Joined: Jan 14 2008
Status: Offline
Points: 19157
|
Post Options
Thanks(1)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 8:39am |
|
natural flirts or not..flirting with my friends man or anyones man knowingly is DEF NO NO in my book.
just dont do it
|
|
BeatriceBean
Elite Member
Joined: Jun 18 2009
Status: Offline
Points: 66607
|
Post Options
Thanks(2)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 8:48am |
Hit her with a stern "Girl, you gotta chill!"
|
|
Ds2nice
Senior Member
Joined: Apr 04 2006
Location: United States
Status: Offline
Points: 4208
|
Post Options
Thanks(1)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 3:45pm |
Some cultures look at flirting as a normal thing....i.e. some caribbean ppl think its cool to flirt with a friend's SO. I'm kind of uncomfortable with it but I try not to sweat the small stuff unless it gets a little too unbearable.
If you are feeling a bit uncomfortable with it, then perhaps you should confront her about it and put her behind in check.
|
|
Yardgirl
Platinum Member
Joined: Nov 04 2007
Location: Xaymaca
Status: Offline
Points: 41881
|
Post Options
Thanks(2)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 3:55pm |
Ds2nice wrote:
Some cultures look at flirting as a normal thing....i.e. some caribbean ppl think its cool to flirt with a friend's SO. I'm kind of uncomfortable with it but I try not to sweat the small stuff unless it gets a little too unbearable.
If you are feeling a bit uncomfortable with it, then perhaps you should confront her about it and put her behind in check. |
I'm sorry, what?! 
|
|
Ds2nice
Senior Member
Joined: Apr 04 2006
Location: United States
Status: Offline
Points: 4208
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:01pm |
Yardgirl wrote:
Ds2nice wrote:
Some cultures look at flirting as a normal thing....i.e. some caribbean ppl think its cool to flirt with a friend's SO. I'm kind of uncomfortable with it but I try not to sweat the small stuff unless it gets a little too unbearable.
If you are feeling a bit uncomfortable with it, then perhaps you should confront her about it and put her behind in check. |
I'm sorry, what?!
|
Yes, I said it. Some Caribbean ppl think its cool to flirt. What you got to say Yardy?
|
|
PurpleHaze
Platinum Member
Joined: Jun 08 2004
Status: Offline
Points: 124185
|
Post Options
Thanks(2)
Quote Reply
Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:19pm |
creole booty wrote:
This is my friend, so I'm not going to put her, or her business out there. All I will say to answer ur question is no. That's probably another reason y no haste has been put behind nipping this issue. I enjoy having her around for the most part. I just need her to calm down her need for male attention and check her boyfriends flirting. |
I love this
|
|
Tweet
Topic Options
