People who are naturally flirtatious...

PurpleHaze wrote: nycdiva357 wrote: im a natural flirt... but there are some lines that should not be crossed.. and a friend would know that.   yeah friends know their friends' boundaries. The meal cooking isn't against my principles so I wouldn't care if one of my GFs did that. I'd be thankful and thrilled.  BUT if that is crossing boundaries to someone else, it's an issue.

lol...ive cooked for my bestie's fiance.
she doesnt cook... and ive cooked for them both in a couples sort of setting.
He liked my food so much-- that he used to make her call and be like "we want you to make such and such"...lol and I'd be like girl you dont even like that.. and she'd be like "bish u know thats him asking"

no bad blood though...
so anytime I'd make his "fav. meal..id always put an extra plate aside for him..ha
there were times i made the dish and didn't put aside his dish.. my bestie would be like "you made such and such and didn't give my boo-- I'm tellin'.


Edited by nycdiva357 - Nov 26 2012 at 8:42pm

nycdiva357 wrote:   lol...ive cooked for my bestie's fiance. she doesnt cook... and ive cooked for them both in a couples sort of setting. He liked my food so much-- that he used to make her call and be like "we want you to make such and such"...lol and I'd be like girl you dont even like that.. and she'd be like "bish u know that him asking" no bad blood though... so anytime I'd make his "fav. meal..id always put an extra plate aside for him..ha there were times i made the dish and didn't put aside his dish.. my bestie would be like "you made such and such and didn't give my boo-- I'm tellin'.

I can relate to all of this (except I'm not the one doing the cooking lol). Me and my girl sometimes refer to ourselves as Sister Wives when it comes to cooking. She knows she needs to bring some of that food over here to him too.

You got a lot of good advice in here. Please make sure everyone knows their place before it gets ugly. Dont ever hesitate to check somebody out of line in your life.

Sang Froid wrote: Just have an orgy.

It sounds like to me that you have been biting your tongue because you don't want to lose your only "friend." That is the only reason I could think of that you have put up with this.
It may not phase you, but you should act like it because your man may feel like you don't care..and could have been putting up with it because he liked the attention, even though he acted as if he wasn't phased by it..he got a mean poker face

Yea, about making folks plates but not for everyone speaks volumes. However, she taught you how to cook so that should be done.

As for her man flirting with you...maybe she knows her man flirts with you and brings his "friends" over to your house and you say NOTHING to her about it..or at least I assume you haven't since you like to avoid uncomfortable situations. She may be doing it to your man as a way to make you feel how she feels and she doesn't know how to confront you about it as to not ruin the friendship. So go 'head and have that talk wit her..you might be surprised what she has to say.