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Flowing-Ice
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:19pm |
just tell her that it makes your boyfriend uncomfortable. and she should stop. that shouldn't ruin a friendship.
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creole booty
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:19pm |
modelbusiness82 wrote:
Tell him to stop being nice and just be himself. She's being simple. You've only known her a year. She's trying you - hard.
Once he shuts her down (if that's truly what he wants to do - and I'm NOT trying to instigate with that statement), she'll get the picture. And THEN you'll see how much she really wants to hang around.
| I just talked to him about it. He said he would've been said something because he's not comfortable!!! Lol I apologized to him for asking him to b nice instead of being himself.
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creole booty
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:22pm |
BeatriceBean wrote:
The fact that it makes you uncomfortable is enough for you to address it with your man and your friend. If she's your friend then she wouldn't want you to feel uneasy about her behavior towards your boyfriend. | What do I say? How do I bring this up without sounding...like...petty?
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creole booty
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:24pm |
HaitianLuv wrote:
she needs to get checked and you sound like your making excuses for her tbh. non-confrontational or not if some ish is bothering you, you get grow some balls and step to her. There's a tactful way of letting a chick know what's up with out things getting ratchet. all im hearing is "but she's my friend, but she's not his type, but she has a man, but she's a natural flirt...." why are you making excuses for her behavior?? Trust me honey, ive seen dudes mess around on their girlfriends for the ugliest, fattest chick in the room.
| So I just walk up like, "stop flirting with my boyfriend." I hope it's that easy. The excuses: I guess I'm trying to see all different sides of the situation to make sure that it's really what it is. Plus it's really hard to describe someone fairly to strangers lol.
Edited by creole booty - Nov 26 2012 at 5:29pm
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creole booty
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:27pm |
Flowing-Ice wrote:
just tell her that it makes your boyfriend uncomfortable. and she should stop.that shouldn't ruin a friendship. | This is what I will say! I should've thought of this. My mom uses other people's feelings to justify her point all the time and it works.
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niecy
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:27pm |
creole booty wrote:
BeatriceBean wrote:
The fact that it makes you uncomfortable is enough for you to address it with your man and your friend. If she's your friend then she wouldn't want you to feel uneasy about her behavior towards your boyfriend. |
What do I say? How do I bring this up without sounding...like...petty? |
When it comes to this situation you wouldn't be petty at all anyway...Like you said she'd have an issue with you flirting with her man so why is it okay for her to flirt with yours? IMO flirting with your supposed to be friend's man is never okay even if it IS "naturally flirting".
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Oladunni
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:30pm |
hmmm.. if its making him uncomfortable say something.... don't approach her like its a real problem.. be funny but get your point across with it.. she'll understand
My girls man is like that with me.. it can be weird at times but not that serious for me to say anything..
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creole booty
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:32pm |
niecy wrote:
creole booty wrote:
BeatriceBean wrote:
The fact that it makes you uncomfortable is enough for you to address it with your man and your friend. If she's your friend then she wouldn't want you to feel uneasy about her behavior towards your boyfriend. |
What do I say? How do I bring this up without sounding...like...petty? |
When it comes to this situation you wouldn't be petty at all anyway...Like you said she'd have an issue with you flirting with her man so why is it okay for her to flirt with yours? IMO flirting with your supposed to be friend's man is never okay even if it IS "naturally flirting". | It's not ok. See, I hate to say this but I should've known that this was a problem because she doesn't have many female friends. I feel like this is some sort of f ucked up training class for o's with no female friends. Rule 1: no flirting with my man. I'm so irritated now.
Edited by creole booty - Nov 26 2012 at 5:33pm
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creole booty
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:38pm |
Oladunni wrote:
hmmm.. if its making him uncomfortable say something.... don't approach her like its a real problem.. be funny but get your point across with it.. she'll understand
My girls man is like that with me.. it can be weird at times but not that serious for me to say anything..
| I'm going to invite her to dinner at my house and put a butcher knife on the table. I'mma look her dead in her face and say, "these ho's b actin up, and these nig.gaz b lettin em, but I'm not that nig.ga so stop flirting with my man." she'll laugh.
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PurplePhase
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Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 5:41pm |
Just tell her. If you are friends, she will know you love her and if it's like us, nobody is going anywhere (lol). We know nothing is coming from a place of trying to hurt someone.
Say it in a funny way.
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