People who are naturally flirtatious...

Backstory: my friend flirted with my boyfriend. He's not interested. He's exactly like her boyfriend in personality. Physically, he's definitely not interested in her. I'm naturally a flirt so I never addressed it with her. I met her boyfriend. He flirts, but again it's more of a "natural flirt" kind of situation. I value our friendship so I make an effort not to "naturally flirt" with her man.

Question: Is this dangerous although no one is being malicious? If so, what needs to be done? My mind keeps drawing a blank.

Extra: her boyfriend brings his other friends around to "be my partner in spades" (supposedly) (and I know that's ratchet, don't judge me), then he flirts with me the whole night...weird..

More extraness: her flirting has gotten worse. I still don't feel threatened though. I especially don't feel like talking about it or retaliating. She definitely is coming off like she wants to watch his throne, but I feel like if he allows her access, hell take him lol

Well it sounds like your bestie is upping the ante and taking it to another level. As a natural flirt, I know there are definitely scenarios where I make sure to not go into the flirt zone:

1. My close male friends that I met through my fiance (I see them as brothers so that would be incestuous at best and downright skanky at worst)
2. My male friends who have gfs
3. My male clients
4. My male business partners

People that I know personally basically are off limits as it's too easy to let things get carried away and for unnecessary drama to pop up. It sounds like both your bestie and your bestie's bf are being too ratchet for any good to come from it. You need to address your bestie's excessive flirting and you need to limit your time around her man. Unless you enjoy creating unnecessary tension, I don't see anything good coming from encouraging or not inhibiting either of their behaviors.


Edited by modelbusiness82 - Nov 26 2012 at 4:13pm

creole booty wrote: Backstory: my friend flirted with my boyfriend. He's not interested. He's exactly like her boyfriend in personality. Physically, he's definitely not interested in her. I'm naturally a flirt so I never addressed it with her. I met her boyfriend. He flirts, but again it's more of a "natural flirt" kind of situation. I value our friendship so I make an effort not to "naturally flirt" with her man.

modelbusiness82 wrote: Well it sounds like your bestie is upping the ante and taking it to another level. As a natural flirt, I know there are definitely scenarios where I make sure to not go into the flirt zone: 1. My close male friends that I met through my fiance (I see them as brothers so that would be incestuous at best and downright skanky at worst) 2. My male friends who have gfs 3. My male clients 4. My male business partners People that I know personally basically are off limits as it's too easy to let things get carried away and for unnecessary drama to pop up. It sounds like both your bestie and your bestie's bf are being too ratchet for any good to come from it. You need to address your bestie's excessive flirting and you need to limit your time around her man. Unless you enjoy creating unnecessary tension, I don't see anything good coming from encouraging or not inhibiting either of their behaviors.

Avoid the situation completely? I like that answer

The fact that you're thinking about it, means that it's already an issue. On a conscious level it may not "bother" you. But subconsciously if it didn't bother you, you wouldn't be posing the question to yourself or to us.

There's your answer. Not saying you need to do a RHOA, but you need to curtail it. It starts with flirting and when unchecked ends up with hurt feelings for real.