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    Posted: Nov 26 2012 at 4:07pm
Backstory: my friend flirted with my boyfriend. He's not interested. He's exactly like her boyfriend in personality. Physically, he's definitely not interested in her. I'm naturally a flirt so I never addressed it with her. I met her boyfriend. He flirts, but again it's more of a "natural flirt" kind of situation. I value our friendship so I make an effort not to "naturally flirt" with her man.

Question: Is this dangerous although no one is being malicious? If so, what needs to be done? My mind keeps drawing a blank.

Extra: her boyfriend brings his other friends around to "be my partner in spades" (supposedly) (and I know that's ratchet, don't judge me), then he flirts with me the whole night...weird..

More extraness: her flirting has gotten worse. I still don't feel threatened though. I especially don't feel like talking about it or retaliating. She definitely is coming off like she wants to watch his throne, but I feel like if he allows her access, hell take him lol
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I think it is dangerous, but it works for some. Are you comfortable with it? I know it would bother the sh!t outta me.
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Well it sounds like your bestie is upping the ante and taking it to another level. As a natural flirt, I know there are definitely scenarios where I make sure to not go into the flirt zone:

1. My close male friends that I met through my fiance (I see them as brothers so that would be incestuous at best and downright skanky at worst)
2. My male friends who have gfs
3. My male clients
4. My male business partners

People that I know personally basically are off limits as it's too easy to let things get carried away and for unnecessary drama to pop up. It sounds like both your bestie and your bestie's bf are being too ratchet for any good to come from it. You need to address your bestie's excessive flirting and you need to limit your time around her man. Unless you enjoy creating unnecessary tension, I don't see anything good coming from encouraging or not inhibiting either of their behaviors.


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Just have an orgy.
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Originally posted by creole booty creole booty wrote:

Backstory: my friend flirted with my boyfriend. He's not interested. He's exactly like her boyfriend in personality. Physically, he's definitely not interested in her. I'm naturally a flirt so I never addressed it with her. I met her boyfriend. He flirts, but again it's more of a "natural flirt" kind of situation. I value our friendship so I make an effort not to "naturally flirt" with her man.
That's not your friend.
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Originally posted by Limalady Limalady wrote:

I think it is dangerous, but it works for some. Are you comfortable with it? I know it would bother the sh!t outta me.


I'm not comfortable or uncomfortable if u get what I mean...

I'm not a fan of it, but my guy doesn't flirt back. He barely even makes eye contact with her. That's my friend so I'm not going to go in on her at all, but let just say she's not his type physically.

My concern is what could possibly happen to our friendship over how SHE feels. I feel like I may be over analyzing. I do that sometimes.

Edited by creole booty - Nov 26 2012 at 4:17pm
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Originally posted by modelbusiness82 modelbusiness82 wrote:


Well it sounds like your bestie is upping the ante and taking it to
another level. As a natural flirt, I know there are definitely scenarios
where I make sure to not go into the flirt zone:

1. My close male friends that I met through my fiance (I see them as brothers so that would be incestuous at best and downright skanky at worst)
2. My male friends who have gfs
3. My male clients
4. My male business partners

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that I know personally basically are off limits as it's too easy to let
things get carried away and for unnecessary drama to pop up. It sounds
like both your bestie and your bestie's bf are being too ratchet for any
good to come from it. You need to address your bestie's excessive
flirting and you need to limit your time around her man. Unless you
enjoy creating unnecessary tension, I don't see anything good coming
from encouraging or not inhibiting either of their behaviors.







Avoid the situation completely? I like that answer
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Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Just have an orgy.


She's a homophobe
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The fact that you're thinking about it, means that it's already an issue. On a conscious level it may not "bother" you. But subconsciously if it didn't bother you, you wouldn't be posing the question to yourself or to us.

There's your answer. Not saying you need to do a RHOA, but you need to curtail it. It starts with flirting and when unchecked ends up with hurt feelings for real.
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Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Just have an orgy.


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