Black Hair Media Forum Homepage
BHM BHM BHM
butt enhancement
Forum Home Forum Home > Lets Talk > Talk, Talk, and More Talk
  New Posts New Posts RSS Feed - Parents who spoil kids
  FAQ FAQ  Forum Search   Register Register  Login Login
 

Parents who spoil kids

 
 Post Reply Post Reply Page  123>
Hair To Beauty



III Sisters Hair Growth

Same Day Shipping on All Items
Author
 Rating: Topic Rating: 2 Votes, Average 3.00  Topic Search Topic Search  Topic Options Topic Options
sbrownie84 View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: Sep 02 2009
Status: Offline
Points: 4520
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote sbrownie84 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Topic: Parents who spoil kids
    Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:33pm
What determines whether or not a child is spoiled or privileged and is it necessarily a wrong thing to do? 

I ask this question because I know of two familes.

Family number 1:  One family is poor but the mother allows her children to do anything they want. All of her daughters are selfish and are always looking for handouts from people even though they live simply.  The mother raises all of their children and does not all push them to further themselves in education or career wise. She makes excuses for them. The mom allows men to sleep over in her daughter's home since they were young and bring home children without any of these men marrying the girls. Then the mother cries to everyone about how 'hard' her children have it.

Family number 2. There is an only child who was the first and only grandchild for many years so she was able to get alot of attention and love.  The grandmother would always shower her with gifts and money but the child was not the type to beg anyone for anything. She also saw how hard her family worked and did not want to take advantage. She is also very generous. She was also reared to have ambition and no children out of wedlock.

My point is....does money and gifts determine whether or not a child is spoiled? ...Is raising a child with privilege a good or bad thing?


Back to Top
Sponsored Links


Back to Top
Finesseful View Drop Down
Junior Member
Junior Member
Avatar

Joined: Jan 04 2013
Location: Kansas
Status: Offline
Points: 38021
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (10) Thanks(10)   Quote Finesseful Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:36pm
Spoiling children is about letting them have their way and do wrong things without consequence. It isn't about money and gifts per se, but it's about gratifying a child's wants when they don't deserve it.
Back to Top
SamoneLenior View Drop Down
Platinum Member
Platinum Member
Avatar

Joined: Oct 06 2005
Status: Offline
Points: 184293
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote SamoneLenior Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:36pm
Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:


My point is....does money and gifts determine whether or not a child is spoiled?

no


...Is raising a child with privilege a good or bad thing?

if by privileged you mean well taken care of? no




Back to Top
freedom76 View Drop Down
Elite Member
Elite Member
Avatar

Joined: Apr 23 2009
Status: Offline
Points: 45494
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote freedom76 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:38pm
I really have no idea...I spoil the hell outta mine...BUT I do not tolerate entitlement. There is no "gimme" "attitude" "I am better than".....etc. I have good boys, though. But yeah they are highly spoiled. As long as attitude, grades, respect, and growth is there, so are the luxuries.
Back to Top
Sang Froid View Drop Down
Elite Member
Elite Member
Avatar

Joined: Aug 08 2010
Location: Ethiopia
Status: Online
Points: 197045
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (4) Thanks(4)   Quote Sang Froid Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:38pm
I'm spoiled...but I was also parented. 
Back to Top
Lady ICE View Drop Down
Elite Member
Elite Member
Avatar

Joined: Jun 07 2007
Location: Twilight Zone..
Status: Online
Points: 122291
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote Lady ICE Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:39pm
Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Spoiling children is about letting them have their way and do wrong things without consequence. It isn't about money and gifts per se, but it's about gratifying a child's wants when they don't deserve it.
thats it^^
Back to Top
goodm3 View Drop Down
Elite Member
Elite Member
Avatar

Joined: Aug 01 2006
Location: United States
Status: Offline
Points: 24973
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote goodm3 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:40pm
Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

What determines whether or not a child is spoiled or privileged and is it necessarily a wrong thing to do? 

I ask this question because I know of two familes.

Family number 1:  One family is poor but the mother allows her children to do anything they want. All of her daughters are selfish and are always looking for handouts from people even though they live simply.  The mother raises all of their children and does not all push them to further themselves in education or career wise. She makes excuses for them. The mom allows men to sleep over in her daughter's home since they were young and bring home children without any of these men marrying the girls. Then the mother cries to everyone about how 'hard' her children have it. These kids are not spoiled or privileged...just bad parenting and low morals. 

Family number 2. There is an only child who was the first and only grandchild for many years so she was able to get alot of attention and love.  The grandmother would always shower her with gifts and money but the child was not the type to beg anyone for anything. She also saw how hard her family worked and did not want to take advantage. She is also very generous. She was also reared to have ambition and no children out of wedlock.
These kids are not spoiled either. If your parents and grandparents have discretionary income to spend on the child then why not?  You do not have be raised poor to be grateful and able to understand the hardwork you parents and grandparents put in. It probably drives her ambition more than you know.

My point is....does money and gifts determine whether or not a child is spoiled? ...Is raising a child with privilege a good or bad thing?


Back to Top
PurpleHaze View Drop Down
Platinum Member
Platinum Member
Avatar

Joined: Jun 08 2004
Status: Offline
Points: 119002
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote PurpleHaze Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:42pm
..does money and gifts determine whether or not a child is spoiled?



no

Edited by PurpleHaze - Feb 05 2013 at 1:42pm
Back to Top
BBpants View Drop Down
VIP Member
VIP Member
Avatar

Joined: Aug 24 2011
Location: No1curr
Status: Offline
Points: 97103
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote BBpants Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:42pm
I'm spoiled  Smile
Back to Top
PurpleHaze View Drop Down
Platinum Member
Platinum Member
Avatar

Joined: Jun 08 2004
Status: Offline
Points: 119002
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote PurpleHaze Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:43pm
I think all children should be
Back to Top
Get Longer Healthier Faster Growing Hair
Get Healthier Stronger Longer Hair
The Elite Hair Care Sorority
Wefted Hair Wigs and More
All Major Brands at Lowest Prices
Full Cap and Lace Front 100% Human Hair
New York Remi Hair Factory Select
Full lace wigs, lace front wigs, glueless lace wigs, celebrity lace wigs and remy wigs
The Haircare Solution for Locs and Twists
Uses Natural Ingredients to create amazing beauty products
DHT Blocker System
 Post Reply Post Reply Page  123>
  Share Topic   

Forum Jump Forum Permissions View Drop Down