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texasmami0117 
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Spoiling doesn't always mean they don't deserve it IMO
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nekamarie83
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:48pm |
Scenario 2 is totally my life!!  I agree with the posters mentioning that it's ok to give things and praise, but there has to be boundaries. Kids have to know that actions have consequences, the concept of earning what they have and being appreciative-- knowing that not everyone has what they do. Parents have to do their job and be teachers.
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:46pm |
spoiled is so subjective
i see ppl saying theyre spoiled all the time and i think like, "...really? you think so..?"
to me, being spoiled is more so about getting money and material things in excess over just being able to be all wild and do what they want.. they both play a part though.. but its more so about the material things to me.
minimal rules and structure alone does not equal spoiled
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:43pm |
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I think all children should be
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:42pm |
I'm spoiled
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:42pm |
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..does money and gifts determine whether or not a child is spoiled?
no
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:40pm |
 sbrownie84 wrote:
What determines whether or not a child is spoiled or privileged and is it necessarily a wrong thing to do?
I ask this question because I know of two familes.
Family number 1: One family is poor but the mother allows her children to do anything they want. All of her daughters are selfish and are always looking for handouts from people even though they live simply. The mother raises all of their children and does not all push them to further themselves in education or career wise. She makes excuses for them. The mom allows men to sleep over in her daughter's home since they were young and bring home children without any of these men marrying the girls. Then the mother cries to everyone about how 'hard' her children have it. These kids are not spoiled or privileged...just bad parenting and low morals.
Family number 2. There is an only child who was the first and only grandchild for many years so she was able to get alot of attention and love. The grandmother would always shower her with gifts and money but the child was not the type to beg anyone for anything. She also saw how hard her family worked and did not want to take advantage. She is also very generous. She was also reared to have ambition and no children out of wedlock. These kids are not spoiled either. If your parents and grandparents have discretionary income to spend on the child then why not? You do not have be raised poor to be grateful and able to understand the hardwork you parents and grandparents put in. It probably drives her ambition more than you know.
My point is....does money and gifts determine whether or not a child is spoiled? ...Is raising a child with privilege a good or bad thing?
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:39pm |
Finesseful wrote:
Spoiling children is about letting them have their way and do wrong things without consequence. It isn't about money and gifts per se, but it's about gratifying a child's wants when they don't deserve it. |
thats it^^
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:38pm |
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I'm spoiled...but I was also parented.
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Posted: Feb 05 2013 at 1:38pm |
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I really have no idea...I spoil the hell outta mine...BUT I do not tolerate entitlement. There is no "gimme" "attitude" "I am better than".....etc. I have good boys, though. But yeah they are highly spoiled. As long as attitude, grades, respect, and growth is there, so are the luxuries.
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