I think you are indeed alone in this relationship.
Sorry but .. how to you figure this relationship will improve? Noooo once you let someone treat you bad for years and years .. why would he change? What would be his INCENTIVE to change if knows that you will TAKE whatever crumbs he throws your way?
None. Things can only get worse. He has no incentive to change and he probably knows you enough to know that you are AFRAID to leave him.
See? Now why would he change? Nooo in a few years you will be writing on this forum saying you are carrying his fifth child ... and don't know what to do.
If he is out like that (sorry to say) but I would say he is spending time with other women as well so that means it's possible he is bringing home diseases to you.
I do not believe in living with a guy before marriage anyway .. but in this case it works to your advantage.
Whenever I have found myself even dating a dog like that .. I WAS SO GLAD WHEN I dumped him and got him out my life!
IMO, you should stop talking to that ratfink and start making plans. DO NOT TELL HIM ... because he really sounds controlling and when men like that think you are leaving .. they FLIP OUT.
No, keep your mouth shut and while he is off doing what he wants to do .. start putting your plan in action. If you don't have any money - see Social Services or family etc . Anything help you get away.
After you get away .. avoid him. He sounds like he might haul off and ...
I don't believe in prayer im these kinds of situations. Prayer is good for .. say a loved one is in the hospital having surgery, or you hear the ski lodge your sister is staying in .. just got hit by an snow storm and they are cut off from emergency vehicles. Things like this when the outcome cannot be controlled and it truely is in God'ds hands.
But praying over A DOG for a man? No. Prayer will not do a thing to help this kind of situation because you CAN do something about a bad situation. God gives everyone common sense - it's up to you to use it though.
LEAVE NOW while you still have your self-esteem intact and you are young enough to start over again.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Jul 02 2013 at 11:59am