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Omni Harmony 
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 Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 9:12pm |
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So is nobody going to say anything about the women who create these situations?
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 9:21pm |
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 9:24pm |
Omni Harmony wrote:
So is nobody going to say anything about the women who create these situations? |
because shining the spotlight on single mothers is why deadbeat fathers continue to get away with it. a mother making the wrong choice in a partner does not negate the fact that the man needs to be a father, period. how many deadbeat fathers were once around and just dipped off at age 5 or 6 or after the divorce?
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 9:25pm |
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Any reason you give for just walking out of your child's life is crap. I understand not being financially stable and not wanting to see your child go without. But the ramifications of your absence is far worse. You just leave the mother to handle it alone. Sorry.
I really feel for the married women who go through this as well. Married dude, had kids,things go sour with the relationship and pops just ups and leaves. I would not expect that from a man I married. A one night stand maybe, but a husband!
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 9:29pm |
ms_wonderland wrote:
[QUOTE=Omni Harmony]So is nobody going to say anything about the women who create these situations? |
because shining the spotlight on single mothers is why deadbeat fathers continue to get away with it. a mother making the wrong choice in a partner does not negate the fact that the man needs to be a father, period. how many deadbeat fathers were once around and just dipped off at age 5 or 6 or after the divorce? Umm huh...exactly . sometimes you marry the wrong person for all the right reasons. Kids can put strain on a marrige but the kids didn't ask to be here. Why punish them because yall can't get along.
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 9:37pm |
yellalady08 wrote:
ms_wonderland wrote:
[QUOTE=Omni Harmony]So is nobody going to say anything about the women who create these situations? |
because shining the spotlight on single mothers is why deadbeat fathers continue to get away with it. a mother making the wrong choice in a partner does not negate the fact that the man needs to be a father, period. how many deadbeat fathers were once around and just dipped off at age 5 or 6 or after the divorce?
Umm huh...exactly . sometimes you marry the wrong person for all the right reasons. Kids can put strain on a marrige but the kids didn't ask to be here. Why punish them because yall can't get along.
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I didn't say anything about the kids. I said the mothers who create it. If a man says he's not ready to be a dad or doesn't want to be with you, can you be surprised when he is absent later down the line? Then everybody wants to cry to Iyanla. Those that were created in mutual loving relationships are different.
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 10:11pm |
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Oh then yeah that is different but it is also up to him to protect himself.
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ms_wonderland
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 10:14pm |
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just like you say the female shouldn't be surprised...i've never understood ppl who have unprotected sex saying they don't want kids...myself included, if it happens i'm going in with the understanding of every consequence. stop acting surprised.
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 10:37pm |
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*sucks teef*
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Posted: Jul 07 2013 at 11:35pm |
Someone wrote the followig on LSA about Scottie Pipen abandoning his daughter
"He didn't want her. Period. He walked away from a child he didn't want. It;s hard for many of us to fathom abandoning our own flesh and blood. But it happens.That's ugly,sad and cruel,but it is what it is. That's why he hasn't had a relationship with her or even tried to establish one. He never wanted her in the first place. I bet you anything he begged her mama to get an abortion and she refused. Yes,he should have strapped up and all the other talk. All this calling him a deadbeat and chit doesn't faze him whatsoever. He loves the kids HE WANTED and that's it. Not nan  is given by Long Face about this girl.Just because you get pregnant,doesn't mean you can MAKE a man be a father,especially for a child he obviously didn't want. He can pay support and you can't make him do anything else,unless HE WANTS TO. That's why you better choose who busts raw in you VERY carefully.He gave financial support because he was TOLD to. Now that's she grown and that obligation is gone,he doesn't care. As Ms.Angelou said,he has shown his daughter who he is. She best believe it and not hurt herself even worse by trying for a relationship with a sperm donor who never wanted her."
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