Oprahs Life Class - Fatherless Sons

loveandpeace1984 wrote: Ain't watching, have a father.

Any reason you give for just walking out of your child's life is crap. I understand not being financially stable and not wanting to see your child go without. But the ramifications of your absence is far worse. You just leave the mother to handle it alone. Sorry.

I really feel for the married women who go through this as well. Married dude, had kids,things go sour with the relationship and pops just ups and leaves. I would not expect that from a man I married. A one night stand maybe, but a husband!

yellalady08 wrote: ms_wonderland wrote: [QUOTE=Omni Harmony]So is nobody going to say anything about the women who create these situations? because shining the spotlight on single mothers is why deadbeat fathers continue to get away with it. a mother making the wrong choice in a partner does not negate the fact that the man needs to be a father, period.  how many deadbeat fathers were once around and just dipped off at age 5 or 6 or after the divorce? Umm huh...exactly . sometimes you marry the wrong person for all the right reasons. Kids can put strain on a marrige but the kids didn't ask to be here. Why punish them because yall can't get along.

I didn't say anything about the kids.  I said the mothers who create it.  If a man says he's not ready to be a dad or doesn't want to be with you, can you be surprised when he is absent later down the line?  Then everybody wants to cry to Iyanla.   Those that were created in mutual loving relationships are different.

just like you say the female shouldn't be surprised...i've never understood ppl who have unprotected sex saying they don't want kids...myself included, if it happens i'm going in with the understanding of every consequence.  stop acting surprised.  

Someone wrote the followig on LSA about Scottie Pipen abandoning his daughter