i feel like the OP can joke with whoever she wants.. she has that kinda relationship with the white boy.. the boss should not have felt comfortable enough or like it was okay for him to hop in with the same jokes.
there are certain ppl who i would say certain things to... and vice versa.
and certain ppl that i wouldnt cus that is not a normal thing for us and we dont have that type of relationship..
of course if the OP and her coworker are always joking like that.. and someone who you rarely joke with jumps in from left field.. they will get a strong side eye.. its not okay just cus you see me doing it with the next white. youre not him.. you cant do/say what he can cus i dont know you like that bruh.