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    Posted: Feb 14 2014 at 10:09pm
How would you feel if your S/O never posted any pics of you on social media since you have been together for let's say 3 or 4 years? Mind you, you have only posted two of you two because you are relatively private and he is very active on FB, Twitter, and Instagram. He isn't the most personal either, as he posts many pictures with family, friends, posts about things that happen in his life, yet he claims he likes to keep the relationship aspect quiet. How would you view this situation? All of his friends and family know that you are together and you go out publicly all the time.

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if you feel weird about it then say something. 

me personally i have never claimed a man on social media. never not once...not even when he begged lmfao. it means nothing to me. folks dont need to know who im with.what im doing. what im eating. but thats just how i am.
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I believe it means he respects your relationship and he keeps it separate from the non-factors. Twitter, FB, Instagram and other social media are non-factors..IF the family knows about you and ya'll are out together all of the time...that is all that matters:) TRUST me ..most of the dudes who do all that show boating with their girl on social media usually go through them girls. It is like a "this is who I'm fkn this month..year..week," whatever type thing. I think it is just too much information and invites a lot of unnecessary drama. Don't trip girl..appreciate it. 
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See that's why I dislike social media. It's not everyone's business who he is with. Maybe he wants to keep that part of his life personal. Sometimes when you let too many people know who you're dealing with that's when the drama begins. Look at some of the celebrity relationships that were private then went public and failed. Same thing happens in the real world. Me personally I like keep who I am in a relationship between me, family and a close circle of friends.
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I don't like Social Media either.

Too intrusive. I don't tell people who I'm dating either.

If you are a 'couple' with his friends/family etc knowing you ... then he might want to keep you out of it all - which I can understand.

On the other hand .. if you are making this post maybe something about this makes you feel uncomfortable and you just can't put your finger on it.

So then there's the obvious... which is he could be having online affair with other woman living out of state. So yes he has to be open with her so showing all his business on;ine makes it seem like he’s ‘okay’ and .. that he does not have a girlfriend.

I wouldn't approach him accusingly with this scenario though. Give him the benefit of the doubt and just innocently ask 'hey baby, how come my pics aren't on your sites'. Then watch his reaction and his eyes because those first few seconds usually tell it all. You have to know him enough to know when he's lying though and not fool yourself into believing a lie.


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It depends: does he interact online only with people you have met such as friends and family? Or is he one of those people who has 600+ friends on facebook, and hundreds of followers on twitter and instagram? Because in that case I would be a bit uncomfortable with it - you never know who is private messaging him.

I know a girl who has over a thousand followers on instagram. She mostly posts pics of her work, but once in a while she will post pics of her with her bf or just a pic of him. She has been only dating him for 4 months, but I think that's her way to show everyone she has someone, without putting her whole relationship out there. That is a balanced way to announce your status on social media without going overboard, and that would be something I wouldn't mind if I had a guy who was "popular" online.

I find 3-4 years a long time for someone to not post one pic, but if he shows commitment to you on a daily basis and he was also like that with exes (or maybe he posted too much about an ex and that was a problem), there wouldn't be much to discuss about, since he probably prefers to keep his relationship private.
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Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

if you feel weird about it then say something. 

me personally i have never claimed a man on social media. never not once...not even when he begged lmfao. it means nothing to me. folks dont need to know who im with.what im doing. what im eating. but thats just how i am.
What are you eating?
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That's really iffy. He wants to keep his relationship aspect private, but nothing else? I would wonder if he's using that site to get hoes behind your back.
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To the OP-I'm not a fan of social media either. And Ive noticed that a lot of the people in this thread are telling you "oh don't worry about it", but I'm going to give you some advice from a  real life non fantasy perspective.


 Being the fact that YOUR SO is soo open on Social media about the other aspects of his life I find it somewhat bizarre that he is so secretive about his relationship with you. After a 3 to 4 year relationship if you are of significance to him he should be proud to show you off. Not saying he has to post pictures of you two online, and tag you constantly. But one picture here and there would be cool (ex. Christmas, Valentine's Day, Birthdays, or while traveling together or going to important events together)


I do however think it's good that the people in his family, and his close friends know that you are together. But that's just a smaller scale of the people he knows. On social media u have the ability to connect with thousands of people in various locations. If he is truly proud of your relationship he should not have a problem letting people know you're together. Some people keep their relationship on social media private because deep down inside they dont see it as something long term.  So if things don't workout between you two, he won't have to deal with 100s of people asking what happened? He could also be keeping it "private" because he doesn't want to ruin his chances of connecting with other females. Whether its in person or on the net.... Just a few things to consider.

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I find it odd that he is so open about everything but wants to keep you hidden. Talk to him about it and keep your eyes open to make sure there aren't any other women on your turf. Hopefully he just is doing it out of respect though!
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