Nobody else will want me...

with medication, aren't outbreaks kinda rare?  i mean, herpes is manageable.  it does suck to have that cloud hanging over you, but it's better than diabetes or hiv right?  it won't kill you.  odds are, the next guy she dates probably has it too.  HPV and Herpes are probably all over this board.

Yup. That's why people with herpes can donate blood.

petiteone29 wrote: GG wrote: Is she still sleeping with him? i assume she is. they live together.

I hope he doesn't bring anything else home but good luck to her.

Herpes is not a routinely tested STD because almost 80% of the population has it. Many people don't have outbreaks and never know they have it so it is possible her boyfriend didn't know. People who have herpes don't always have to take medication for it, it just depends on the number and severity of the outbreaks. Just like HPV herpes is not the end of the world because it can live dormant in your body and you can possibly never have an outbreak. She doesn't have to go date someone else with herpes because 80% of the population has It and its a few that actually have an outbreak. Many are misinformed about STDs in general so please tell her its not that serious. Just like chicken pox most people get that outbreak 1 time and sometimes they get shingles later (chicken pox, shingles, cold sores, etc are all forms of herpes). If anyone has ever had a cold sore for example then you had an active outbreak of herpes. If you continuously get cold sores then you can also be prescribed antiviral meds. She was diagnosed with hsv2 which is typically known to have more break outs in the genital area because its passed on through genitalia either in the genitals but it can be in the mouth, but if she had hsv1 its normally in the oral area and could have come from oral sex, stress, or illness any she would probably not have another break out, but Iit can be in the genital area also. Sorry for all the information but pass this to your friend, I see people with a history of hsv all the time, so it's not uncommon and not that bad (which is why its not a routine test, just live hpv. Doctors will put you on meds normally the last 3 months of pregnancy to prevent an outbreak in the birth canal during a vaginal delivery. Not everyone has an outbreak some do some dont


My Aunt is an OB and I work at her office as a nurse sometimes and have to educate about different stds, cancers, etc. Tell your friend that she can still live a normal life and just like everyone continue to practice safe sex until she in a committed relationship.

Herpes is the least of her worries in this situation.
Your friend needs to find her self esteem and get lost from that nothing ass man! I can bet my paycheck that if she will not leave first, he will once this baby gets here. This is one of those situations where your friend will have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired and leave on her own. I am going through something similar and I am thinking of making a thread just to vent..

But just be there for her as much as you can. This will be a hard knock life lesson for her. Its really hard and its draining mentally and emotionally to watch someone you care for and love spiral down.

I feel so bad for her and the baby.....