need advice #12653

its a slow night for me so...tell me what you think.

#fanmail...
My child's father is not stable. Just the other day he informed me that both he and his gf are no longer employed and that his truck was in the shop and he had no way to get it out. I think he was either thinkin I would help him pay to get it out (no), or suggesting that when school is back in after the Christmas break that I drive to his house every morning that he has our daughter to take her to school and pick her up, even though my college classes start back around the same time, which I chose based on the schedule we typically have.

Am I a bad parent because I told him he needs to figure out how he is going to take her and pick her up from school on his own? What would yall do? I am sick of having to bail him out all the time, I have given them money, food and everything else since we split up and he has never even thought to return the favor and I am pretty sure he only spends time with her so he can claim her on taxes every other year...

well since he's broke without a vehicle, you shouldn't let your daughter stay with him. if he doesn't have a job or a truck, how is he going to feed lil mama and get her to and from school every day?

Lady ICE wrote: its a slow night for me so...tell me what you think. #fanmail... My child's father is not stable. Just the other day he informed me that both he and his gf are no longer employed and that his truck was in the shop and he had no way to get it out. I think he was either thinkin I would help him pay to get it out (no), or suggesting that when school is back in after the Christmas break that I drive to his house every morning that he has our daughter to take her to school and pick her up, even though my college classes start back around the same time, which I chose based on the schedule we typically have. Am I a bad parent because I told him he needs to figure out how he is going to take her and pick her up from school on his own? What would yall do? I am sick of having to bail him out all the time, I have given them money, food and everything else since we split up and he has never even thought to return the favor and I am pretty sure he only spends time with her so he can claim her on taxes every other year...

Anywho, he sounds like a loser but unfortunately that loser is the father of her child and she's stuck dealing with him. I think it's good that she is trying to allow her daughter to see her father as much as possible but it appears she is doing a lot of giving.

Maybe they can work something out where the daughter stays at his house on the weekends while the mom attends college courses. That way it won't affect her mornings? Or maybe he can join her by taking college courses to better his life and his childs'. Too much to ask?

Let him figure out how to pick her up and take her to school.
If he cares that much about his child he'll come up with something that involves him moving his as$ and not you driving around.

James Avery wrote: well since he's broke without a vehicle, you shouldn't let your daughter stay with him. if he doesn't have a job or a truck, how is he going to feed lil mama and get her to and from school every day?

If the OP can legally do this, IA the kid shouldn't be staying with him.