Natural hair but a relaxed state of mind?

Like i said you want ppl to admit they don't really want to be natural and are reaping the benifits without going through your struggle of what it is to be natural (basing this from here and upstairs)

I love being black because we are versatile, my hair is versatile, i can wear it anyway any how for the simple fact thats how I'm feeling. Yes it might go deeper for some but for most no.

ImThatDiva wrote: SweetNovember* wrote: ImThatDiva wrote:   I straighten my hair because I can  like me, because they can. Thanks for the response and I do appreciate it but that's not a reason. You of course don't have to provide a reason and I'm not demanding one. If you like it straight that's a good enough reason and maybe that's what you mean. But when you have long hair it takes time to straighten and people don't do it without a reason.   It all comes down to me just styling hair how I currently feel like wearing it. It isn't deeper than that for me. There's no deeper meaning to anything I do with my hair which goes back to I do what I want with my hair because I can.

HaitianDiva64 wrote: Like i said you want ppl to admit they don't really want to be natural and are reaping the benifits without going through your struggle of what it is to be natural (basing this from here and upstairs) I love being black because we are versatile, my hair is versatile, i can wear it anyway any how for the simple fact thats how I'm feeling. Yes it might go deeper for some but for most no.

SweetNovember* wrote: This is all just fine and I said that in the OP. But to zero in on what I was saying, it isn't necessary to straighten one's hair to trim it. If you were to trim your hair in it's natural state then that means you would be aiming for the optimal look when your hair is worn curly--keep in mind that the front and back may have different textures and what looks right straight won't necessarily look right curly. But you trim it while it is straight because that is what is considered the benchmark. That's what I'm getting at. Once again I'm not saying it's wrong at all. It's just something's I'd thought about and I was just putting it out there. And for those saying that is a rule--no it is not a rule. I never said anyone had to do anything. It's just an observation.

I know how MY hair works. I know what it takes to get my hair to look the way I want it to which may or may not correspond with how you think something should be done in order for it to not mean something else. From MANY years of experience with my hair, I get a better shape when it is cut while straight than when it's in it's natural state(some areas are more shrunken than others it's different after it's washed than when it's old. etc.) Cutting my hair in its natural state is terrible for certain styles in particular twist outs and braid outs which I do often especially in the summer months. Keep in mind, my hair is only straightened if I already planned to straighten it to wear as a style. I take the opportunity to trim the ends as need. I'm not going out of my way to straighten just to trim.

What benchmark? Sweet, I've no need to see my length because I already know what's there. I've no reason to and never have had a reason to keep track of my length. I'm not one of the youtube or hair board girls keep growth charts and progress journals(not a jab at anyone who does) because I have no need to.  If you feel that's why people straighten their hair to trim or length check--for benchmarks as you said-- that's fine. Just understand that YOUR truth is not THE truth.

I don't know if anyone else has noticed it but you seem to be searching for some kind of validation. Every time you make a hair thread in TTT, it's usually a darker girl with kinky hair and go on about how their hair is oh so gorgeous along with them. Not saying they aren't pretty and don't have nice hair but when you do it enough for a trend to be recognized, I think there's more to it than admiring someone else and their beauty. This is not an attack before you get ready to call it that. That's an observation.

And IA with HD. You're looking for something you want to be there but isn't. At least not with everyone. You also sound like your deflecting but I digress.

SweetNovember* wrote: Is anyone offended yet?