I think he feels cooking is women's work
You are married to an old fashioned guy that's it. But 1 big question .. you do BOTH work outside of the home?
1) If you ONLY work in the home, taking care of kids - sorry, this is the life you chose so you will be stuck doing all the cooking because that's basically part of your 'stay at home' job.
Now, that said - he should want to surprise you and cook for you sometimes just for fun. But if he feels cooking is below him .. then you are gonna have to live with the choice you made in men - because that's what you have.
It's harrd to negociate with a guy that is traditional AFTER you get married.
2) You BOTH work outside of the home ... then that is a different story altogether. Then you have to share. What has kept the peace for me is something like .. Mon and Wed (I cook), Tues and Thurs (he cooks), Saturday we order in (Chinese or whatever ) and Sunday we eat out.
Something along these lines spreads out the workload. Same for household chores, washing etc... split them up between the too of you and the things NEITHER of you wants to do like washing the car or cutting the lawn or whatever .. hire outside help. If you are both workiing ... shouldn't be a problem IMO.
BUT no you can't work all day just like him and then come home to do all the household chores and watch the kids because that you have TWO jobs .. and he only has ONE. Not fair.
(I know women that live like this though .. they have no life because of these two jobs and are quite unhappy. I also know women that stay at home full time and they are also miserable because they have nothing of their own - outside of the family.
IMO men and women need to form a 'co operative' when they get married and have kids (I don't have kids so I can't comment on that) but basically .. you have to both have a job .. but SHARE the workload as best you can so that one of you does not end up being resentful after a while.)
Edited by Printer_Ink - May 10 2013 at 4:23am