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    Posted: Apr 03 2013 at 12:05am
*Sighs I type a long version and it didn't post. Short version: my man has a great job, but it requires him to travel 85% of the time. Today he told me I should stop working and just travel with him. I do work, but he pays all the bills, so I save my money and the money that he gives me. I wouldn't mind not working, but my account needs some more stacks in it for me to feel comfortable...ya heard me. :) Then also, I tired of always thinking of the what ifs and just want to live in the now. I always, like most of us gals, wanted a man that can take care of me and home..but I don't know what to do. He keeps telling me to really think about it. 

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Sounds like you'd be more comfortable saving up some before going with him.
Which would be smart regardless because then you have a nest egg (that is, if you don't already).

Personally I wouldn't want to give up my career because I enjoy it and find it fulfilling but whatever will ultimately make you happy.
Traveling could be an awesome experience, and you could always go back if you're unhappy with anything.
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It's not a "career career", but it's a job I don't mind doing, especially since working is more enjoyable since I don't pay any bills lol.  OT: is that you?
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i think you need to set up a necessary set of security nets. 
are you guys planning on getting married anytime soon? is common law recognized in your state? 

you sound like you're okay with leaving your job, is there something that you can do part-time to make extra money? or maybe even free-lancing?

a trial run should be in the works. 

personally, i wouldn't do it if i were not married and didn't have the legal protection. 

whatever you choose, have fun. 
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Girl go...have a fun and travel the world with him. What is the worst that can happen? You two break up and you have to go back to the 9-5? Okay...enjoy the moment. Doooooo ittttt! 
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No we aren't no where near close to being married. And he isn't traveling the world yet, just within the US. I can fly out to see him and spend a few days, but he just doesn't want me to work. Yes, there are things I can do on the side. I actually have a lil side hustle of things I do BEFORE I met him. He keeps telling me if I don't work, I can really focus on that. It doesn't bring in any real revenue though...at least not yet. 
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If I would do something like that - quit my sh*tty job because a guy wants me to - I would be smart and have plenty of money saved (maybe 20k+) just in case we break up and he leaves me stranded in the middle of nowhere. Especially because I would have to find a new apt, a new job and all those things take time, therefore, more money spent.


Sure, it sounds like a lot of fun, but you have to be careful. Do you know what he does for a living?
How long have you been dating him?
After I watched a show about a woman who was tricked by this guy into taking drugs to Cuba who ended up in prison there for six years, I would be wary of a guy that travels a lot but I dunno what's his business. You sure he's not a criminal?
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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

If I would do something like that - quit my sh*tty job because a guy wants me to - I would be smart and have plenty of money saved (maybe 20k+) just in case we break up and he leaves me stranded in the middle of nowhere. Especially because I would have to find a new apt, a new job and all those things take time, therefore, more money spent.


Sure, it sounds like a lot of fun, but you have to be careful. Do you know what he does for a living?
How long have you been dating him?
After I watched a show about a woman who was tricked by this guy into taking drugs to Cuba who ended up in prison there for six years, I would be wary of a guy that travels a lot but I dunno what's his business. You sure he's not a criminal?

NO ma'am, he is not a criminal. I'on mess with those.  He is a legit professional man. Trust me on that lol. Though I know he's not the type to leave me stranded, you really never know. But I just want to do something I've never had the chance to do before. Thanks yall for the input, I will have to think long and hard, but right now I'm leaning more on the NO than yes... 
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I wouldn't quit my job (regardless of how non-career it is) until I got married if I were you. 

Girlfriends don't qualify for spousal support.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (3) Thanks(3)   Quote Lady ICE Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 03 2013 at 4:05pm
im sure im no help but do you know i would drop EVERYTHING so that i can go travel!! LOL.  i understand your concern, but like someone posted earlier the worst that can happen is that you'd break up and go back to work. lol (in case of a break up make sure you can buy a flight back) but how many get the opportunity to just go and have fun?


im not help like i said. im only thinkin for the moment. psst, ask him if you can bring a friend (me) lmaooo

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