will tell a ‘dumb girlfriend’ story.
I have a
(Black) Dutch friend. Well, she not really a friend because I stopped seeing
her years ago as she was so negative and paranoid and unhappy. She is an older
woman (maybe 48 now) that has only been in a couple of relationships – in her
life - if I understood her correctly. I
don’t know her back story because she is very pretty … but from meeting her
ghettoed-up, mean acting sisters I think she will only date non-White Dutch
guys and they seem to be the poor, ghetto type of guy. This I noticed early on…
so I knew we could never be close.
avoided her for several years until one day .. I ran into her on the street. We
talked for a minute and she immediately started talking about this guy that
dumped her. She explained that he was from Egypt and was living here illegally,
so she went to the Immigration people and applied to be his SPONSOR so he could
stay here. They wre together 3 years. Then, he said he wanted to open a business selling XYZ so she helped
him get that started. After a while she notices this woman always in the shop
and he explains again and again that she is just helping him set up. She says
that she can tell this woman is acting too close to him. Time goes by (he has
strange comings and goings) and suddenly he announces that he wants to move out
… and marry this other woman .. and he’s gone.
has a TOTAL collapse and has to take off work, can’t eat, can’t do anything etc
… that's when it dawned on me how THIN she looked and how much gray hair she
had now. Then I asked her … how long ago this happened? She says … 4 years ago!
So she is still
absolutely devastated after all these years? We got together a couple or more
times after that and both times I had to hear her go on and on about this
loser illegal guy that basically USED HER to gain a Residence Permit in this
country. Duh! I tried to tell her this .. but she refuses to see him for the
USER that he was.
of people live here illegally and would love to get some FOOL to sponsor them
to stay here!!!!!!!!!!!! (Who does not know this?)
is she living with a man outside of marriage to begin with? This is only a way of ‘auditioning’
for the part of wife. DUH! IMO the only way a live-in relationship leads to
marriage .. is when the guy wants marriage but the girl is not sure. Basically,
HE is still pursuing her in this case. But if it’s the other way around then SHE
is chasing him and it falls apart once the going gets though. With a commitment
.. it stays together when things get though – because he is committed. DUH! (of
course, people do get divorced)
said a lot about what she did with him but once she said ‘I don’t know why he left … I
DID EVERYTHING FOR HIM’. I thought – WHY did you do all that stuff for that
nobody guy? WOMEN CAN’T DO THINGS FOR MEN. Duh! Men have gotta DO THINGS for
women … but only after a commitment or else it becomes veiled form of Prostitution.
Let the man do his flipping job! Now she
took that away from him.
But hey, now that she helped him build this business he DOES have
something to offer that new woman (that probably needs his help!)
Secondly, a poor, illegal guy like this with nothing to offer
a woman but his ‘good
looking’ company … can never come to anything substantial anyway! So he never
could have done his job with her.
see her from time to time … she looks worse and worse .. but I keep my