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Is his last name obviously ethnic?

Is her last name ethnically ambiguous?

Do you think he has self hate issues and is trying to distance himself from his heritage?

If theses Qs have already been A & A'd, can I get pg#? TIA
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Originally posted by Ladybird0724 Ladybird0724 wrote:

have you asked your BIL his reasons for taking her last name?

do you think you would have the same reaction if the couple was a stranger?

my friend's husband took her last name b/c he hated his last name and his father, and said he wanted a fresh start.


His answer was basically "why not?"...and she made it clear she wasn't changing her name.

I think I'd have the same reaction if it were a stranger. Though I'm sure my reaction is compounded by the fact that I know her ways.
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Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Is his last name obviously ethnic?

Is her last name ethnically ambiguous?

Do you think he has self hate issues and is trying to distance himself from his heritage?

If theses Qs have already been A & A'd, can I get pg#? TIA


His last name is obviously latino. Hers is ambiguous.

I don't think he has self-hate issues...at least I don't get that vibe from him. Then again, I haven't spent a lot of time with him since his english got better so I can't say that for sure.


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maybe he dominated in the honeymoon suite and it all balanced out?
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:



His last name is obviously latino. Hers is ambiguous.

I don't think he has self-hate issues...at least I don't get that vibe from him. Then again, I haven't spent a lot of time with him since his english got better so I can't say that for sure.



Ahhhh....

And I know you didn't mean for the bold to be funny, but I cackled aloud when I read it.
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He probably think he and his offspring will have an easier time of it without having an immigrant name. Me and my bf have had the same discussion as his surname is weird... he got teased because of it and he would not want to put his kids through that
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No shade Maysay but I feel like you bring up your family is white in every thread....
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Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

No shade Maysay but I feel like you bring up your family is white in every thread....


I probably do...but that's because some of things I say don't make sense unless I also mention that my family is white. I try to only point it out when it's relevant though.


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maysay never answered my question.....
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by Junior Jr Junior Jr wrote:

Did he do it for citizenship?

jr.


I feel horrible for saying this but, yes I believe he's marrying her for citizenship.
I believe he loves her and would be in a relationship with her regardless...but I think marriage wouldn't have happened so soon. They've only been together a year. He has an engineering degree and getting married is the fastest way to be able to work legally in this country. Plus my parents are paying for the lawyers and all that.

So, I think he's being smart and taking advantage of a good situation. Maybe their marriage will last forever...I hope it does.
Shoot, I'd take her last name too.Big smile
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