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He does not live with me. I tried to talk to him about not hurting my ex but he got upset and started saying that I am his "friend". If I threaten to call the police if he hurts my ex, he will flip out and be "sure" that I still have feelings for my ex.

That's why I am here: I don't know how to explain to him to not do it without him thinking that I am not into my ex.
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Just tell him that the guy you thought you fell in love with wasn't into senseless/payback violence, and seeing him so cold and violent turns you off, ex or no ex. Tell him you want to be with a man who can use his words to protect you, and not his fists, and thats why you left your ex.  Iownno *shrug* those were my first thoughts at an attempt 
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good idea, I will try that next time we chat! I am seeing him after thanksgiving.
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*fistpump**
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Originally posted by BaileyAlexandria BaileyAlexandria wrote:

Just tell him that the guy you thought you fell in love with wasn't into senseless/payback violence, and seeing him so cold and violent turns you off, ex or no ex. Tell him you want to be with a man who can use his words to protect you, and not his fists, and thats why you left your ex.  Iownno *shrug* those were my first thoughts at an attempt 


That was good advice
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i would side eye a man that is willing to fight my EX...a man I clearly broke up with for a reason

leave the past in the past

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update: I did say what BaileyAlexandria suggested and he told me that he won't do anything anymore, but he did throw out the "now go call your little friend" thing.

I'm not 100% sure that he did change his mind about it, but he is busy with his own life at the moment to do anything, so I will let it be for now and I won't bring up the subject again.... for a while.
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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

update: I did say what BaileyAlexandria suggested and he told me that he won't do anything anymore, but he did throw out the "now go call your little friend" thing.

I'm not 100% sure that he did change his mind about it, but he is busy with his own life at the moment to do anything, so I will let it be for now and I won't bring up the subject again.... for a while.


I'm giving your BF a complete side eye. He seems emotionally manipulative, and that can be risky business
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I agree.

He does seem emotionally manipulative. Be careful.

The thing about guys is sometimes when it goes really bad - women say, they never had a clue that he was violent or would ever hurt them when in truth .. that is just not so.

They do stuff like this but the woman doesn't think anything of it. Maybe later he will do other stuff that shows his agressive nature and that gets ignored too. Then one day ... something really bad happens.

I think the way a guy hsndles conflict with people (and in this case there isn't even any conflict!) shows his character.

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Can he only give him a slap in the face busted his lip? nothing too serious to break bones or near kill him. I would be okay with that
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