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    Posted: Dec 29 2011 at 2:25pm
Okay so to all the BHM researchers I haven't been able properly research whether or not this topic has been posted before.
 
I feel like he's living a double life
 
1. He's not from the same city I am from. I'n the 6 months we've been together I have only been to his hometown once.  He has taken several trips home to see his daughter yet I was not , or it was made impossible for me to be included. The one occasion I went home with him, I had to be left in a hotel while he picked up his daughter.
 
2. He gaurds his like a watch dog. His phone follows him to the bathroom in the shower to the dinner table in the bed etc.
 
3. He and his ex wife/ baby mama never hold a conversation in my precense. We have been living together for six months I have only witnessed two phone conversations between the two of them.
 
4. He talks to her for long periods of times...(when he's not at home). 
 
5. He delete's her text messages.
 
6. He has not introduced the two of us.
 
7. The child never comes here to visit.
 
Maybe it's just chance or I dont have enough to accuse him accurately of this. But i have the feeling that he and his so called ex wife are really still together...maybe even in an  open relationships are these good enough signs to conclude he is hiding a double life.  How do I go about uncovering this or getting him to prove ?
 
Are there other things that can suggest if a man is living a double life?
 
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^^I can't figure out how to edit my original post ( I am using my android)..
He watches his phone like a watch dog is what I meant.
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Sounds like you need to hiring a private investigator
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Have you ever met any of his friends might be one of the things I would add to the list. And does he use any social media sites like Facebook? Are any of your pictures on his page? I can tell you one thing based on my  experiance when a man guards his phone like he's gurading Fort Knox then he is cheating. My ex boyfriend used to carry his phone with him everywhere and at night he would even stuff it underneath his pillow so that no one would have access to his phone without him waking up. And sure enough I found out he was cheating. He was cheating on me through Facebook, Myspace (when Myspace was big) and through text messages. I can't say for sure if YOUR man is cheating but from what you have written it sounds like he might be cheating. By the way have you ever asked him to use his phone? I would just pretend to not have your phone and ask him to use his phone and see how he reacts. Most people who aren't doing anything wrong should have no problem just handing it over for you to use, but if  he starts to act weird then I would rethink this relationship.

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How long have the two of you been together before living together?


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He might be cheating so in other words you share that man.
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If you suspect LISTEN TO YOUR GUT! 
 
Personally, do you really need proof? The fact that you are reconsidering trusting him means that there are red flags in your relationship. You can choose to talk with him about it - knowing that he may lie to your face OR you can do your snooping. Examine closely your reasoning - are you just generally untrusting due to prior disappointments or do you genuinely have cause? What will you do if your snooping turns up nothing? Before you go on I would seriously ask if this relationship can survive this dip in your trust - valid or not.
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I just found he's still married. LOL
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Wow. What a loser. Sorry, OP.
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Originally posted by Tip_loveshair Tip_loveshair wrote:

Okay so to all the BHM researchers I haven't been able properly research whether or not this topic has been posted before.
 
I feel like he's living a double life
 
1. He's not from the same city I am from. I'n the 6 months we've been together I have only been to his hometown once.  He has taken several trips home to see his daughter yet I was not , or it was made impossible for me to be included. The one occasion I went home with him, I had to be left in a hotel while he picked up his daughter.
 
2. He gaurds his like a watch dog. His phone follows him to the bathroom in the shower to the dinner table in the bed etc.
 
3. He and his ex wife/ baby mama never hold a conversation in my precense. We have been living together for six months I have only witnessed two phone conversations between the two of them.
 
4. He talks to her for long periods of times...(when he's not at home). 
 
5. He delete's her text messages.
 
6. He has not introduced the two of us.
 
7. The child never comes here to visit.
 
Maybe it's just chance or I dont have enough to accuse him accurately of this. But i have the feeling that he and his so called ex wife are really still together...maybe even in an  open relationships are these good enough signs to conclude he is hiding a double life.  How do I go about uncovering this or getting him to prove ?
 
Are there other things that can suggest if a man is living a double life?
 

I hope you ran....and ran far away and quick! These are all signs. I've been with a guy who couldn't hold a convo in front of me with his sons mother for nothing in this world but when away they chopn it for foreva, he accepted all her calls. But soon as im in his presence....IGNORED she went. I never met his sons...all but one and it wasn't planned. He did all of thee above with his ugly a**....im so glad I left him. I told him go back home to his family because I didn't want him. 


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