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I'm in the middle of crazy baby mama and baby daddy drama that I'm seeing my way out of FAST.
I don't feel sorry for no one but the baby.
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Originally posted by Anah Anah wrote:

My BC pills, I've only tried 2 brands were 28 and 32 without insurance. With, they are free! Thank you Obama! It also only cost 25 w/insurance to have an IUD inserted as well, hormonal and non.

I'm grateful that I am privileged enough to have insurance. Amen.
Now...

We already know my girl could have handled things differently, but I want to focus on MALE ACCOUNTABILITY

For the record however, she was on BC and got off, IUD n pills. She didn't like the side effects. He was well informed of her trials, tribulations, and cessation of said BC methods.

We hardly focus on men and their lack of accountability. I really wanna delve into where the fvck that mentality comes from.
if he REALLY didn't want any kids, why didn't he get snipped?  Can you ask him and report back?Big smile


This reminds me of a Steve Harvey Strawberry Letter
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     35 and Ticking
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Dear Steve and Shirley, Less than a month after my 35th birthday, and after a night and morning of hot passionate sex, the man I have been in a relationship with for almost 6 years kisses me goodbye before heading off to work and his parting words to me are "Oh by the way you might want to get a morning after pill before you go to work." I looked at him disgusted and offended. We have been together for almost 6 years and my biological clock is ticking. We have these conversations almost daily about having a child. I was married to a man who did not tell me he didn't want children until after we were married and I wasted several years of my life. I gave my current boyfriend a deadline of age 35 to get me pregnant so what would make him think after he didnot have the sense to pull out or wear protection that the one night he slips up I would clean up his mess by getting a morning after pill. Especially when it is something that I want. I love him and some of my friends tell me daily if he does not want children and you do, move on. I know you can't control who you love. I am a living testimony of that. I am offended by what he said. I feel if I am good enough to sleep with unprotected you need to be prepared for the consequences. We are adults and neither of us have children. He claims we have too many financial issues right now to have children. Financially we are ok. It could be better, but I know many people worse off than us who have kids and make it. Sometimes I wonder if I am wrong for putting stress on him to have a child at a time when he does not want to have a child. Should I just accept that he is not ready and wait or move on. My mind tells me to leave but my heart tells me to stay. I know I am 35 and I want to have children now. I am already in a highrisk age group for having children and the longer I wait the higher the risk. He is 2 years younger and he doesn't have to carry a child. He can have children whenever. Maybe he just doesn't want to have children with me. Who knows? He thinks I am being vain to want to have children now to quickly bounce back into my body. That is one of the reasons, but not the only one. My mother is older and she had me in her late 30's. Not saying my mom is dying anytime soon, but I do want my children to experienc emy mom and for her to experience them. Please help me decide which direction to take. Sincerely, 35 and Ticking
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Teaching people to be responsible and accountable for their behaviors?  That's too logical. 
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As far as that letter, the first mistake is them being in a relationship for 6 years. If he hasn't wifed u yet why you think he want a kid.
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Originally posted by Omni Harmony Omni Harmony wrote:

if he REALLY didn't want any kids, why didn't he get snipped?  Can you ask him and report back?Big smile
This reminds me of a Steve Harvey Strawberry Letter

That strawberry letter lady is an idiot!!! 

As far as why he didnt get snipped, well I just found out that he assumed my girl would take care of it based on previous convos *sigh*
and I dont think the avg man living in America under the age of 30 is seriously considering getting their nuts cut, tho they prob should!!!!

To Sang and BB no judgment just asking, are you ok with an unplanned pregnancy?
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If he wants to bust something he has to pay (birth control,condoms,contraception and abortion,free dinner too,oh and a ring before he gets into womb ) fck that!He has to pay the full price to get into my wonderland .Ermm...btw in a virgin..
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It's true men want that nut and not being a slave to your sexual desires for many men is reaching the path to nirvana. I don't think women realize how powerful it is or it wouldn't happen so much. It a huge test for Nordic tribesman to master perserving themself and it makes them stronger in battle as well. Think about it.
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Originally posted by Anah Anah wrote:



I hear you sandra BUT most of the time the women just accept it, like melikey was saying. They have them and raise them on their own if that's what they need to do etc... but prior to that, these men are pushing abortion, mad about upcoming CS payments and you know the rest.

They seem to have the most anger and resntment when it comes to unplanned pregnancies, so why don't they do more to prevent it?

The bolded is the part I don't understand with women. Just accept it? We're talking about bringing a child into the world. Something thats going to affect your life and my life for the rest of life. Understanding that abortions take an incredible emotional toll on a woman, wouldn't raising a child for 18 years, struggling, possibly alone, be MORE of an emotional toll?

This is a serious question too. Please don't dismiss it as me being an aint sh*t n* .


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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I def think men get free passes though .

bc they can walk away from their kids
women can't
so a woman always has the evidence of her mistakes
and then there's this idea that a woman can always say no
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