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I think it's a two way street. A man who wants a "higher quality" person is going to assert themselves to reach whatever is necessary to be on that person's level (if they're not already).

But at the same time, a woman who sets no standards gets exactly the image she put out - nothing.

You can't "force" a man to do what you want them to, but as a woman if you project an image of "this is what I'm about and I don't settle for less", you're going to get the man who's willing to put in the effort to show that he's not just projecting that image of quality - but IS quality.

I've seen with some of my guy friends that they do whatever they can get away with if the woman doesn't have the good sense to show that she doesn't want to take their crap. Whereas, some of my guy friends have female friends who will never give them the time of day (in a romantic sense) because they don't see anything that impresses them.
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Originally posted by newin2009 newin2009 wrote:

Idk... It kind of confused me too when I heard it, so I brought the question here. Wouldn't a man change some of his "ways" for the right woman? Don't we all make some changes to a certain degree for the person we love.
Unless manipulation, coercion or force is involved, your behaviors are your own.
If she is the reason he changed, she'll be the reason he goes back to being a fck up.
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Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Originally posted by newin2009 newin2009 wrote:

Idk... It kind of confused me too when I heard it, so I brought the question here. Wouldn't a man change some of his "ways" for the right woman? Don't we all make some changes to a certain degree for the person we love.
Unless manipulation, coercion or force is involved, your behaviors are your own.
If she is the reason he changed, she'll be the reason he goes back to being a fck up.

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I do not believe this to be true.
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No, it is up to a man's parents to raise him, not his wife.
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It's not true for me in a sense of it depends on what I'm looking for.. If you're looking for a chic to actually take serious she has to be as mature as you. If not you'll find yourself getting into fights you dont' understand.. If I'm just looking for something to smash for awhile she could be as ignorant as she wants thats her buisness
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Originally posted by Serwa Serwa wrote:

No, it is up to a man's parents to raise him, not his wife.
True but my mom taught me nothing about women.. If I used her as an example I'd be worried that any little thing could send her sprialing into a craziness bitchin scenario.. And my sperm donor wasn't around so.... 
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Originally posted by Over_all Over_all wrote:


Originally posted by Serwa Serwa wrote:

No, it is up to a man's parents to raise him, not his wife.

True but my mom taught me nothing about women.. If I used her as an example I'd be worried that any little thing could send her sprialing into a craziness bitchin scenario.. And my sperm donor wasn't around so.... 
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Originally posted by Over_all Over_all wrote:

It's not true for me in a sense of it depends on what I'm looking for.. If you're looking for a chic to actually take serious she has to be as mature as you. If not you'll find yourself getting into fights you dont' understand.. If I'm just looking for something to smash for awhile she could be as ignorant as she wants thats her buisness

IA although I also do believe plenty of people set their standards high fpr what they want in a partner yet don't live up to those same standards themselves. To me it doesn't make sense for me for some people to feel like they are deserving of someone who treats them like a queen/king when they treat that person like a peasant. 
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Originally posted by niecy niecy wrote:

Originally posted by Over_all Over_all wrote:

It's not true for me in a sense of it depends on what I'm looking for.. If you're looking for a chic to actually take serious she has to be as mature as you. If not you'll find yourself getting into fights you dont' understand.. If I'm just looking for something to smash for awhile she could be as ignorant as she wants thats her buisness

IA although I also do believe plenty of people set their standards high fpr what they want in a partner yet don't live up to those same standards themselves. To me it doesn't make sense for me for some people to feel like they are deserving of someone who treats them like a queen/king when they treat that person like a peasant. 
Very true I've ran into the princess syndrome people.. I use to always hear if he can't treat me as good as my daddy can treat me then I'm gone.. But I always thought what are you bringing to the table that makes someone want to treat you that way..
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