I just can't grasp the notion of "The married/involved man that cheated on his wife/fiance/gf with me, is going to step up and be a stand up guy when I get pregnant by him."
Somewhere along the lines of "This dude I'm fukkin sells drugs, has multiple kids by multiple women, knocks me across my head on occassion, lives in my place, not contributing anything but dack, doesn't take care of the kids he already has, won't work, stays in and out of jail, but is going to be an excellent father to MY kid."
The fact that he's cheating with you is kinda a Red Flag to his character and selfishness.
Why the surprise?
What exactly did you expect? He's shown you who he was from jump. He's shown you he has no regard of anyone's feeling but his own and to fulfill the desire to be in some different cooch. Why do women REFUSE to accept what's being presented to them; a man that's sorry enough to cheat, that lacks values, morals and a sense of what's right and wrong. If he's not respecting his marriage and wife of 20+ years, and his kids and his reputation he's going to respect his side heaux and her struggles?
Lemme guess, he told you that you're sexier and better in bed than his woman and she doesn't "understand" him like you do and he REALLy wants to leave her for you, but for "the kids/the $/the man in the moon, Benghazi, etc.", that he can't?
No, it doesn't give him the right to not handle his responsibilities. But damn, how many struggling baby mamas do you have to witness before that lil light bulb comes on and you say "I don't want that situation for myself?"
Men SHOULD take care of their offspring, regardless of the situation in which they were conceived. But WE don't get me pregnant and can walk away, but they can do it to us. Sooooooo, knowing that simple fact, it's up to US, to be responsible for our own bodies. Give a man an option to not use a condom, how many do you think will insist on one? Why not? Because they have an option to not deal with the consequences, we don't!