I think all the above are reasons she might lie about having kids. I was thinking that she was denying her children because she didn't want them ... them later she resurrects them at her lesure etc. You know ... some womem try to hide their kids because of a man or something else quite selfish.
I think if I had to lie about not having kids for any of those reasons ... I just would have kept that lie going - period.
I wouldn't have pics laying around or casually blurt out some story about my child .. if it was a secret. I mean don't we all have secrets tht we don't blurt out? Could be that she was just a bad liar though.
Now, after time goes by and we get close .. that's when I would have sat her down and told her the whole story etc because yes, there could be a valid reason to keep the children a secret - because yes, mental illness, trauma, a bad divorce, trying to get a job etc ... would all be valid reasons to keep that secret. I don't have kids ... but surely this sort of secret would cut the heart out of me.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Aug 16 2013 at 8:27am