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Originally posted by naturesgift naturesgift wrote:

I had a similar conversation with my Nigerian BF about Sudanees people! I'm like you too are in the same color family. He went out of his way to take a pic with the guy and come home and show me "see" I didnt get it??

Yes this ugly Nigerian dude  I was talking too was acting the same way. He was showing me an old picture of him saying "see I wasn't so dark, but when  I came here I got darker". I was like yes were and I like dark skinned men, the darker the better" I think he was confused after my statementLOL
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Originally posted by naturesgift naturesgift wrote:

I had a similar conversation with my Nigerian BF about Sudanees people! I'm like you too are in the same color family. He went out of his way to take a pic with the guy and come home and show me "see" I didnt get it??


These types of situations are so depressing to me. A loooong time ago, I used to think that this kind of bullsheit didn't happen in Africa, but I know better now.
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I have family members who have said prayers regarding their babies skin color Confused , and they swear my aunt who is dark married her husband to raise her percentages.

Come to think of it, there is not one person in my immediate family who I can say wears their hair in its natural state unless its silky.

The one who always brings up color is the lightest but has the kinkiest hair I have ever seen, and it irks her soul to the core. Cry I bet she has her casket wig ordered , made and stored. 


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Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by naturesgift naturesgift wrote:

I had a similar conversation with my Nigerian BF about Sudanees people! I'm like you too are in the same color family. He went out of his way to take a pic with the guy and come home and show me "see" I didnt get it??

I hate people who do shyt like that. If you're ever in a situation where you feel compelled to defend the lightness of your skin it's best you just shut up.

I usually have the opposite problem, I used to buy make up way darker than my complexion and looked a mess. I thought  I was way darker than I am. I used to get into it with people over my complexion, I tell them "yea being dark skinned......" And there like "but you're not even darkConfused
Me:bish byeSleepyLOL
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Originally posted by f8dagrate f8dagrate wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


no. im not saying there aren't any negatives, but what good does it do to walk around with the woe is me attitude?

I still don't get what your saying. Are you saying if someone was made to feel like sheit everyday, they should pretend like it is not happening? I love my complexion so I can't relate to how she was made to feel but I definitely empathize. 

Im not basing what I said off of what she said, i just made a statement in general. 

And all I said is that im tired of folks throwing pity parties for dark skin. Tis all.

eta: lol i said videoLOLDead


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I guess I feel you aren't really explaining it as well for me. But I understand the pity parties, if I see one I will try to show them that they are beautiful. Instead of being tired of them. But I see your point.Thumbs Up
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Originally posted by f8dagrate f8dagrate wrote:

I guess I feel you aren't really explaining it as well for me. But I understand the pity parties, if I see one I will try to show them that they are beautiful. Instead of being tired of them. But I see your point.Thumbs Up


its gonna take them realizing that they are beautiful for themselves and not just you showing them

nonethelessThumbs Up

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ok so im just now seeing this. this is niceHeart

Originally posted by Oladunni Oladunni wrote:

Here's a speech she gave at the Black Women  in Hollywood Luncheon


I wrote down this speech that I had no time to practice so this will be the practicing session. Thank you Alfre, for such an amazing, amazing introduction and celebration of my work. And thank you very much for inviting me to be a part of such an extraordinary community. I am surrounded by people who have inspired me, women in particular whose presence on screen made me feel a little more seen and heard and understood. That it is ESSENCE that holds this event celebrating our professional gains of the year is significant, a beauty magazine that recognizes the beauty that we not just possess but also produce.

I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, Black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: “Dear Lupita,” it reads, “I think you’re really lucky to be this Black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.”

My heart bled a little when I read those words, I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself and that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me.

I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of a mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And every day I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I was the day before. I tried to negotiate with God, I told him I would stop stealing sugar cubes at night if he gave me what I wanted, I would listen to my mother’s every word and never lose my school sweater again if he just made me a little lighter. But I guess God was unimpressed with my bargaining chips because He never listened.

And when I was a teenager my self-hate grew worse, as you can imagine happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then…Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me, as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me, when I saw Alek I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty. But around me the preference for my skin prevailed, to the courters that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.

And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master, but it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even after the beauty of her body has faded away.

And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.

There is no shame in Black beauty.”
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