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    Posted: Jun 12 2013 at 11:32pm
I need advice I recently realized I've been in love with a friend of mine since I was 16 years old I'm 22 now. We never dated though. I'm currently in a relationship with someone I've been with for 2 and half years we have a son together. Are relationship has been a crazy rocky road I'm not even sure if I want to continue. The fact of the matter is I know some where deep down I'm hoping one day me and that boy will get together which I really want to stop because I think its stupid holding out for someone I will probably never be with......does anyone have advice
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Sorry to say but .. I think that is stupid too. Confused
 
If you have been friends for all these years and he has never made play .. he is not interested in you romantically. Men are primal .. they know if their D*** gets hard when you are around and they will make a play if interested. Don't do his job for him.
 
if you make the first move - you risk ruining a good friendship/freaking him out. Do not.. I repeast DO NOT sit him down and tell him how you REALLY FEEL about him. This is not a movie.
 
He has to make a move IF he is interested.
 
My advice - get out of the bad relationship you are in .. set your sights on other men ... move on if you are not happy though. Don't wait for this friend to realize you are waiting on him.
 
It will never happen. Just my opinion - but do whatever you want. Smile


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Has he ever shown u any signs he might be interested? Have u guys ever made out or anything else u might not have mentioned?
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Also, before you guys were friends did he have a gf or no. Plus back then he probably figured u were either stuck up, he dont look at you like that, or out of his league. I dunno do you guys still talk, or do u have to go on FB to find himQuestion If you do want to reconnect, just be like oh lets hang out some time, and see how he acts, dont make no moves or say anything, he doesnt show any interest, then stop.
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Well it wasn't until las year he told me that he always like me too he just always cheats on his girlfriends and if he dated me and cheated on my he would actually feel bad because we were really good friends and he knew my and I knew his family and he couldn't risk it. I mean we were friends with benefits at a point and we use to talk almost everyday on the phone for hours and we would speak on AIM everyday hang out at school and after school so people would already say we were dating even his brother and mother would tell me he loves me but I always thought they were playing until he told me he had like me last year
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Sorry but he sounds immature to me.
 
He has already admitted that he has cheated on past gfs so why wouldn't he cheat on you?
 
I think you are trying to frame this friendship/friends with almost benifits as more than it is. Men can be dogs and at a certain age ... they cannot help it.
 
My advice .. stop trying to talk yourself into this be being a real relationship - forget it and for goodness sakes DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM!
 
He will revert to 'type' and you will be crushed.
 
I can already see this train wreck happening... be smart about men!
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Oh I'm definitely not going to sleep with him ever I have a son I'm not really trying to have any other kids but know we were good friends we were friends since we were 12/13 we didn't start having sex until we were 16/17 and were still friends but honestly I really want to know how to get over him
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And even when I was with my ex before my baby's father we stayed close and me and ex were having trouble he was always there helping me giving my ideas to make it better and talking to him so I don't think I'm making it out to be more then it was but at the same time I do t think it matters since that doesn't help the problem
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Why didn't he date you while you guys were fck buddies when you were 16/17?
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Umm so you are saying you were f buddies in high school.
You know .... sex is a big deal for a woman ... but it means absolutely NOTHING to a man.
 
How to get over him?Takes time and you have to want to get over him but talking about him like the above is not helping.
 
He's immature though - don't waste your time IMO.  
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