braidbeauty - sorry but there is NEVER
a time to be optimistic about such a situtation. Never. A grown man knows how to ask a woman out. He does not need your assistance.
Girl sees/meets guy
Girl likes guy and tries to get his attention by looking attractive
Boy approaches girl if he is attracted to her and asks her out
Girl does NOT appear to be so impressed and says no, makes him struggle to get a date with her
Girl eventually agrees to a date.. has a nice time ... but keeps it cool
Boy pressures girl for sex early on and girl says no .. for a good 3 months or so .. until she figures out what kind of guy he is and if he is relationship material
Within those 3 months ... either he will stick around - because he is really interested or ... if will dissappear because really .. all he wanted was sex and since you are not gonna be 'easy' - he is off an easier more desparete prey.
If you do anything other than the above sequence of events (more or less) you will end up getting yor heart broken.
So .. if the guy can't even figure out a way to APPROACH you then either -
- he is not interested in you at all .. maybe just likes the attention
- he is interested but is married or involved ... but can't help give you attention but will never ask you out because he is faithful
- he is married or involved, not really interested.. but is willing have sex with you AND THEN dump you
- he is single.. but he is emotionally unavailable (most single guys fall into this category!) but yes, he needs sex from you or anyonre that will give him sex. If you just want sex too - okay, enjoy yourself .. but don't fool yourself into believing that he will want a real relationship with you after you have sex with him so soon.
Men are simple creatures ... IF he is interested in you (and you cannot force him to find you atrractive)
and IF is he emotionally or legally available
and IF he wants something real
all you have to is be yourself, be sweet, and DON'T SLEEP with him ... and you have a chance of having a real relationship.
Do not pursue or obviously flirt with a guy. Do not give him attention. IGNORE HIM. He has to approch you - if not MOVE ON - WRITE HIM OFF.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Feb 09 2013 at 12:28am