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glamrock 
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 Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 8:39pm |
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i haven't had that experience,I like to be pined for and pursued and not the other way around, but i know someone that I would love to send this article to. She is about 34-35 yrs old and still talking about some man she dated 15 yrs ago when they were in college that aint studdin her at all. My point is that a person doesnt grow out of this, they have to consciously break the pattern and make themselves let go.
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Jess
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 9:45pm |
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here is parts of the article: Our thoughts are so powerful and I finally realized that if I was going to walk away from him for real then I needed to bring him back to Earth in my mind. The way to do that was to tell myself the truth about him and the situation. No more heaping compliments or making excuses for him. It was time to rip off the blinders and be honest about who I was dealing with. I was only adding to my own pain by telling myself that he was the perfect guy. Was he really perfect? Clearly not. For all my “he’s sooo smart,” he wasn’t intelligent enough to get into a relationship with me, so I guess he wasn’t such a genius after all. What I wish I’d known sooner is that no man is perfect, and too often we end up projecting perfection onto a man despite his blatant shortcomings. Once I stopped wishing things would change, and admitted nothing would change, something did change: Me. I walked away. It’s much easier to gain perspective when we’re being truthful with ourselves about what is really going on. Taking an objective look will likely result in realizing when we’ve dodged a bullet. Looking back, I know I did. Besides, he wasn’t that cute anyway. Have you ever found yourself thinking more highly of a guy then he deserved? |
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I am an amazing catch. I have the total package. Brains, beauty, and body.  Ah! I feel so much better. I just needed to get this off of my mind.
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 10:07pm |
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Lol Jess ur gifs always crack me up....
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Jess
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 10:20pm |
cvzx wrote:
Lol Jess ur gifs always crack me up.... |
Aww thanks.
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Posted: Aug 22 2012 at 4:18pm |
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Amen.. Just the confirmation that I needed. I'm so thankful I dont get what I "think" I want.
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Posted: Aug 22 2012 at 4:39pm |
My thing is...I know what it is & I feel like even if he wanted me I reeeeeeally dont want to be in a relationship with him for real...but at the same time I still put him on a pedestal... it doesnt make sense at all....... 
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Posted: Aug 24 2012 at 11:23am |
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Great article!! I'm guilty of almost the opposite. In the past and when it came down to dealing with friends with benefits, I was in denial of my true feelings. I would act like I wasn't phased by the supposedly meaningless sex and if he would show some type of emotion/connection for me otherthan the friendship, i would dismiss it because I was too afraid to reveal my true feelings for the risk of getting hurt down the road. It took two years to reveal my true feelings to my hubby (a fka FWB) and I was lucky that he stuck around long enough for me to reveal it.
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Posted: Sep 06 2012 at 9:28pm |
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Guilty as charged. It will NEVER happen again. NEVER!
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Posted: Sep 07 2012 at 9:19am |
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THIS ARTICLE IS THE TRUTH!!!!!!!
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Jess
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