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 Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 12:58pm |
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I do this with every single guy that I like since...HS. Maybe b/c I got rejected so many times in elementary school. |
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Yup. This semester I will take everything at face value.
What do I do when I see this crush who has reciprocated my feelings? Just walk by and let him say hi or just act like nothing happened and say hi. If he liked me, he would have let me known by now. This crush has been going on for almost a year...It's time to let go of the fairytale 
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 2:55pm |
Jess wrote:
ummmok wrote:
Jess wrote:
I do this with every single guy that I like since...HS. Maybe b/c I got rejected so many times in elementary school. |
And it's never too late to change this. You've already recognized there is a problem...do something about it |
Yup.This semester I will take everything at face value.
What do I do when I see this crush who has reciprocated my feelings? Just walk by and let him say hi or just act like nothing happened and say hi. If he liked me, he would have let me known by now. This crush has been going on for almost a year...It's time to let go of the fairytale |
I know how you feel. Seriously. I had a year-long crush in HS lol. He would always smile, say hi, act interested; I felt like he purposely gave me mixed signals. I've learned that if a guy really is interested you wouldn't be left confused. He will def let you know. Not by mixed signals and misleading, but he say it to you. For one, because he's interested, and 2, he wants to get to you before another man does lol. I say just say hi back when he does, give him a simple, nonchalant hi and keep it moving. Don't think for a second he doesn't know you like him. Men really aren't as confusing as they pretend to be. I mean, we all know when someone likes us, even if we pretend not to know for whatever the reason, most likely, fear of rejection. Whatever the case, I'm sure he's aware and likes the ego boost but isn't interested in more than ballooning his head. You gave him almost 365 days and he didn't make a move. His loss! There will be another. And this time you won't have to second-guess as to whether he likes you or not. He'll be direct. And if he isn't, don't waste your time. It is what it is. Good luck!
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 3:21pm |
ummmok wrote:
Jess wrote:
ummmok wrote:
Jess wrote:
I do this with every single guy that I like since...HS. Maybe b/c I got rejected so many times in elementary school. |
And it's never too late to change this. You've already recognized there is a problem...do something about it |
Yup.This semester I will take everything at face value.
What do I do when I see this crush who hasn't reciprocated my feelings? Just walk by and let him say hi or just act like nothing happened and say hi. If he liked me, he would have let me known by now. This crush has been going on for almost a year...It's time to let go of the fairytale |
I know how you feel. Seriously. I had a year-long crush in HS lol. He would always smile, say hi, act interested; I felt like he purposely gave me mixed signals. I've learned that if a guy really is interested you wouldn't be left confused. He will def let you know. Not by mixed signals and misleading, but he say it to you. For one, because he's interested, and 2, he wants to get to you before another man does lol.
I say just say hi back when he does, give him a simple, nonchalant hi and keep it moving. Don't think for a second he doesn't know you like him. Men really aren't as confusing as they pretend to be. I mean, we all know when someone likes us, even if we pretend not to know for whatever the reason, most likely, fear of rejection. Whatever the case, I'm sure he's aware and likes the ego boost but isn't interested in more than ballooning his head.
You gave him almost 365 days and he didn't make a move. His loss! There will be another. And this time you won't have to second-guess as to whether he likes you or not. He'll be direct. And if he isn't, don't waste your time. It is what it is. Good luck!
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I'm a junior in college.  Ugh. Thank you. Thank you so much for typing this out. I really needed another person to tell me what I know exactly. I feel so stupid.  Socially. I'm just so embarrassed that I was like a lovesick puppy stroking his ego. Embarrassed that he knew/other people knew/etc and I got rejected. I feel so sick.
I have a headache. I'll type more later.
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LOL Jess, you have the best emotional GIFs. Don't be so hard on yourself. We've all been through this. No need to feel embarrassed. Once the new semester start you'll feel better.
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I agree with everything ummmok said.
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 6:35pm |
I dont have crushes but i've done this with ex's in the past...
and it always screwed me up because they would come back into the picture every once in a while on some passive aggressive sh*t while doing them (thinking I dont know), new girls and all and I was stuck in my heart staying to myself (lowkey hoping they'd come around) while trying to move on and it would go one for up to a year...
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 7:02pm |
Aww Jess its OK. *hugs* I read an article somewhere and it was talking about taking a man down off the pedastal. Sometimes in your head you build him up to be this big person, but in reality if he was all that he would know not to pass you by. so how smart is he, really? and at the end of the day, those guys really do teach you a lesson and prepare you for the next. sometimes you are doging a bullet and don't even know it. 
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here is parts of the article: Our thoughts are so powerful and I finally realized that if I was going to walk away from him for real then I needed to bring him back to Earth in my mind. The way to do that was to tell myself the truth about him and the situation. No more heaping compliments or making excuses for him. It was time to rip off the blinders and be honest about who I was dealing with. I was only adding to my own pain by telling myself that he was the perfect guy. Was he really perfect? Clearly not. For all my “he’s sooo smart,” he wasn’t intelligent enough to get into a relationship with me, so I guess he wasn’t such a genius after all. What I wish I’d known sooner is that no man is perfect, and too often we end up projecting perfection onto a man despite his blatant shortcomings. Once I stopped wishing things would change, and admitted nothing would change, something did change: Me. I walked away. It’s much easier to gain perspective when we’re being truthful with ourselves about what is really going on. Taking an objective look will likely result in realizing when we’ve dodged a bullet. Looking back, I know I did. Besides, he wasn’t that cute anyway. Have you ever found yourself thinking more highly of a guy then he deserved?
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Posted: Aug 14 2012 at 7:09pm |
Spokenword wrote:
here is parts of the article: Our thoughts are so powerful and I finally realized that if I was going to walk away from him for real then I needed to bring him back to Earth in my mind. The way to do that was to tell myself the truth about him and the situation. No more heaping compliments or making excuses for him. It was time to rip off the blinders and be honest about who I was dealing with. I was only adding to my own pain by telling myself that he was the perfect guy. Was he really perfect? Clearly not. For all my “he’s sooo smart,” he wasn’t intelligent enough to get into a relationship with me, so I guess he wasn’t such a genius after all. What I wish I’d known sooner is that no man is perfect, and too often we end up projecting perfection onto a man despite his blatant shortcomings. Once I stopped wishing things would change, and admitted nothing would change, something did change: Me. I walked away. It’s much easier to gain perspective when we’re being truthful with ourselves about what is really going on. Taking an objective look will likely result in realizing when we’ve dodged a bullet. Looking back, I know I did. Besides, he wasn’t that cute anyway. Have you ever found yourself thinking more highly of a guy then he deserved? |
this was me to a tee
another thing that helped was, realizing how much of a skeevy person he was because while he was in a relationship with some other woman (that he didnt know I knew about, he NEVER brought her up), there he was calling and texting me, wanting to have deep convo's and reminisce about us, and why we went wrong...
He was just so passive aggressive and I could tell he needed some type of ego boost from me
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