I am not trying be your mama but I didn't know all this stuff either - I had to learn.
And btw - you have to accept that some giys aren't gonna act you out for a lot of different reasons - some of which may have nothing to do with you - so you can't have their non attentiveness affect your self esteem!!
- I think some girls learn about men (NOT TO MAKE THEM A BIG DEAL IN THEIR LIVES) from the way their parents interact, their older sisters, auntie etc
- Some girls have kind of an instinct about men so they know how to wangle them. I would call these women the Angelina Jolie type. (They can get a bit predatory actually so they often end up in a BAD relationship to tell the truth BUT she will get the guy she wants.)
- All the rest of us (me included) had to learn this stuff from girlfriends, experiences, reading etc .. to figure out HOW TO CONDUCT YOURSELF around men.
It's hard but better to learn this stuff early .. than to blow your life chasing guys that don't want you (or will just use you and dump you).