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2) It is NEVER a good thing for a guy to know that you like him FIRST. Why? That means he does not have to do anything to win you. You have f**** up the balance of POWER in a relationship when he knows that you like him. He does not have to CHASE you now because all he's got to do is crook his finger ... and you would come to you. BUT subconciously, a guy NEEDS to pursue you .. this biological .. they don't even know it themselves. 3) So if you make it EASY for him to get you ... somehow (no matter how pretty etc you are) your value to him .... will start to decline. I mean .... how can a girl that's all that ... just fall into his lap like that? Nooo girls that have GOT IT are not walking up to guys (any guy) and introducing themselves (after they have been sending out signals to him) ... noooo. This is what desparate girls do that don't feel so good about themselves. That guy ALREADY sees you. You don't have to do his job for him.
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This. God, perfect what you wrote!
But I find it hard to get asked out by a shy guy or someone who thinks I am out of his league and he won't make the move. I don't hit on men but I wish some would at least try to talk to me  |
Thanks for your advice. I have thought about it and come to the realization that my crush is not into me. I wouldn't mind striking up a conversation first if he showed signs of interest. But this guy shows zero interest so I therefore refuse to take a risk and make myself vulnerable with him. Besides I want someone who is eager and excited to get to know me, not someone who avoids making eye contact or smiling when he sees me. I'm tired of dealing with the stress of the thought of initiating the approach. He should be dealing with that The last person who I dated pursued me the way a man should, so I know how it should be and I'm not going to settle for anything less! |
I love the theory of the law of attraction. I need to remember to apply it to my life more consistently. 
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I also want to add that one thing that I've learned recently is that you can train your brain to do ANYTHING.........moreso your subconscious mind which is the part of the brain that gives you dreams. If you find yourself obsessing over a man who doesn't like you or isn't pursuing you need to know that YOU HAVE THE MENTAL POWER TO REDIRECT YOUR ATTENTION ON ANOTHER MAN......I don't care if it's a stranger you may never see again that you find yourself fantasizing about........it's better to fantasize about dating or sexually being with a stranger you will possibly never see again or even a celebrity than to fantasize about a person you know and am around sometimes that will never pursue you or doesn't like you the way you like them. You can even fantasize about the men that have given you male attention and admiration in the past if you find them attractive is some way(even if it's just in a non-physical strictly characteristic way) I am training my brain right now as we speak to focus on the male attention and admiration I've gotten(even if the guys weren't necessarily my type I'm fantasizing on how good it felt to get it cuz some women struggle getting male attention and admiration) and on sexy strangers I see randomly in the streets that I know I may never see again and celebrities. Fantasizing about those 3 things(strangers, celebs, and previous male attention and admiration) will keep you SANE until a guy you want pursues you. Also IF YOU THINK THAT JUST BECAUSE ONE GUY DOESN'T LIKE YOU THAT NO OTHER GUYS YOU EVER LIKE WILL LIKE YOU YOU ARE SPEAKING THAT INTO YOUR EXISTENCE. That WILL become your reality cuz for a long time that was my reality after this one guy I wanted badly rejected me. FOCUS ON PREPARING YOURSELF TO BE A WIFE WHILE YOUR SINGLE.........NOT A GIRLFRIEND A WIFE. There are many books that teach you how to be wifey material and not girlfriend material.........besides let's keep it real most guys may not say this but they wanna girlfriend that they can eventually make their wife.......so they want wifey material for the most part unless their tryna you know........just freak every female they see. These are some books that I've been reading that have helped change my conditioning all of these are HIGHLY recommended btw: The Secret(sold instores and online), The Power of Your Subconscious Mind(sold instores and online), Chapter 11 out of the book: Think and Grow Rich(HIGHLY recommended sold instores and online), Get anyone to do anything(sold instores and online, How to make anyone fall in love with you(sold instores and online HIGHLY recommended but still use common sense with the techniques in this book) The Guide to Becoming The Sensuous Black Woman(I've read this book more than once LOVE IT HIGHLY recommended you can buy it off of Amazon.com since this book isn't sold in stores) The Power of the coochie: Get what you want from men(this book is only sold at Amazon.com beware it's blunt advice but it's exactly what alot of women need to hear) and The Power of WOW: A guide to unleashing the confident, sexy you(sold in stores and online....get this book seriously). I also bought the book that I highly recommend as well is: Make any man want you which can be found in stores and onlineAlso go on the www.thesecret.tv for inspirational stories about women(and men) finding love through using the Law of Attraction. People have also gotten their dream lives, homes, cars, etc. from using The Secret AKA the Law of Attraction. |
I love the theory of the law of attraction. I need to remember to apply it to my life more consistently.
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 12:14am |
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sexyandfamous wrote:
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2) It is NEVER a good thing for a guy to know that you like him FIRST. Why? That means he does not have to do anything to win you. You have f**** up the balance of POWER in a relationship when he knows that you like him. He does not have to CHASE you now because all he's got to do is crook his finger ... and you would come to you. BUT subconciously, a guy NEEDS to pursue you .. this biological .. they don't even know it themselves. 3) So if you make it EASY for him to get you ... somehow (no matter how pretty etc you are) your value to him .... will start to decline. I mean .... how can a girl that's all that ... just fall into his lap like that? Nooo girls that have GOT IT are not walking up to guys (any guy) and introducing themselves (after they have been sending out signals to him) ... noooo. This is what desparate girls do that don't feel so good about themselves. That guy ALREADY sees you. You don't have to do his job for him.
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This. God, perfect what you wrote!
But I find it hard to get asked out by a shy guy or someone who thinks I am out of his league and he won't make the move. I don't hit on men but I wish some would at least try to talk to me |
If a guy is really too shy to ask you out because he thinks that .. you are out of his league. Well, you probably ARE out of his league.  I don't mean anything in terms of your looks (again it's not about how you look on the outside .. it who you are on the inside.) Maybe he is still too young or whatever but still .. don't waste your time. What I mean is .. you do not want a weak man. Sorry to say it like that but ... life is hard and you want a guy that has enouigh self-esteem to approach any woman - no matter how she looks etc. He HAS to grow a backbone on this basic area or when you do get together - you will have hitched your wagon to a guy that can't handle things in life ... in other ways which means ... YOU will have to carry HIM. So you are suck with a guy that is ... maladjusted. Hey, if you are walking down the street with him and a strange man gets aggressive - don't you want to know that if anything should happen .... he would know how to fight and protect you from harm? The guy has got to play .. 'the guy' so do not do his job for him ... unless you ALWAYS want to be the guy.  So if that guy is to scared to talk to you he is a weak man so .. move on. You are in the wrong company. 
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When I wrote "I am out of his league" I meant that he probably believes I am too good for him and that I would never want him! My ex did tell me that I can be pretty intimidating, and perhaps this guy thinks I'll flat out tell him no if he asks me out, but it is far from the truth.... But I have to disagree on that; some guys, when they have a huge crush on a girl, they just cannot approach her. I have met many guys who get mute and serious around a girl they like simply because they cannot act near her. They are afraid of making one silly mistake and ruining everything. yet they are smart, intelligent, etc, but they are just afraid of THAT woman. Maybe the one I am crushing o is younger than me...I think he is in his early twenties, and I am on my late twenties... Maybe he will grow a backbone tomorrow *prays*
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 6:10pm |
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What I mean is .. you do not want a weak man. Sorry to say it like that but ... life is hard and you want a guy that has enouigh self-esteem to approach any woman - no matter how she looks etc. He HAS to grow a backbone on this basic area |
Ok, I have an update and that's why I still disagree with what you wrote : today the guy I am crushing had the chance to sit right next to me in class but instead he picked another place to sit, even though he looked at me as soon as he walked in AND walked behind my seat before adjusting himself in another one. I thought that was lame and was upset. At the end of class, he left the classroom first and I remained for about 5 minutes chatting with the professor. We were in the second floor and there are two stairways on both ends of the hallway. When I left the classroom, he was standing in front of the elevator, looking at the door to see who was coming out. It was my chance to be near him, especially because it was obvious that he waited for me but instead....I turned around and went down the stairs. I was just too nervous to be near him, and I don't have low self-esteem. In fact my ex said that I think highly about myself (too highly, in his opinion). I don't want to be crushing forever, so if this guy doesn't make a move sometime in the next two weeks, I'll most likely lose interest.
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I also want to add that one thing that I've learned recently is that you can train your brain to do ANYTHING.........moreso your subconscious mind which is the part of the brain that gives you dreams. If you find yourself obsessing over a man who doesn't like you or isn't pursuing you need to know that YOU HAVE THE MENTAL POWER TO REDIRECT YOUR ATTENTION ON ANOTHER MAN......I don't care if it's a stranger you may never see again that you find yourself fantasizing about........it's better to fantasize about dating or sexually being with a stranger you will possibly never see again or even a celebrity than to fantasize about a person you know and am around sometimes that will never pursue you or doesn't like you the way you like them. You can even fantasize about the men that have given you male attention and admiration in the past if you find them attractive is some way(even if it's just in a non-physical strictly characteristic way) I am training my brain right now as we speak to focus on the male attention and admiration I've gotten(even if the guys weren't necessarily my type I'm fantasizing on how good it felt to get it cuz some women struggle getting male attention and admiration) and on sexy strangers I see randomly in the streets that I know I may never see again and celebrities. Fantasizing about those 3 things(strangers, celebs, and previous male attention and admiration) will keep you SANE until a guy you want pursues you. Also IF YOU THINK THAT JUST BECAUSE ONE GUY DOESN'T LIKE YOU THAT NO OTHER GUYS YOU EVER LIKE WILL LIKE YOU YOU ARE SPEAKING THAT INTO YOUR EXISTENCE. That WILL become your reality cuz for a long time that was my reality after this one guy I wanted badly rejected me. FOCUS ON PREPARING YOURSELF TO BE A WIFE WHILE YOUR SINGLE.........NOT A GIRLFRIEND A WIFE. There are many books that teach you how to be wifey material and not girlfriend material.........besides let's keep it real most guys may not say this but they wanna girlfriend that they can eventually make their wife.......so they want wifey material for the most part unless their tryna you know........just freak every female they see. These are some books that I've been reading that have helped change my conditioning all of these are HIGHLY recommended btw: The Secret(sold instores and online), The Power of Your Subconscious Mind(sold instores and online), Chapter 11 out of the book: Think and Grow Rich(HIGHLY recommended sold instores and online), Get anyone to do anything(sold instores and online, How to make anyone fall in love with you(sold instores and online HIGHLY recommended but still use common sense with the techniques in this book) The Guide to Becoming The Sensuous Black Woman(I've read this book more than once LOVE IT HIGHLY recommended you can buy it off of Amazon.com since this book isn't sold in stores) The Power of the coochie: Get what you want from men(this book is only sold at Amazon.com beware it's blunt advice but it's exactly what alot of women need to hear) and The Power of WOW: A guide to unleashing the confident, sexy you(sold in stores and online....get this book seriously). I also bought the book that I highly recommend as well is: Make any man want you which can be found in stores and onlineAlso go on the www.thesecret.tv for inspirational stories about women(and men) finding love through using the Law of Attraction. People have also gotten their dream lives, homes, cars, etc. from using The Secret AKA the Law of Attraction. |
You are 100% CORRECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Every woman needs to read these kinds of books instead of waiting on a guy that is never gonna be interested in you and basically just try to use you for sex ... if they give you any attention at all. A good friend of mine just got a crushing dump but months ago I tried to WARN her that this guy was full of it. Do you know what she said? She said 'I don't want to play any games' I just want to be honest and tell him the truth' as she jumps whenever he wants to see her. Me and 2 other girls told her AT THE SAME TIME. 'Girl, don't be so dam easy for him! Make him sit and wait and wonder about you. Do not be so AVAILABLE and drop everythoing every time he calls! I said, Danny .. why do you think they call it .."The Dating GAME". It is a game - you just have to learn the rules to play the game right. I am not talking about those user type females that are just tricking a guy so she can get his money or whatever .. these girls are 'damaged goods' and are no better than hookers. I am talking about recognizing when an AVAILABLE man is coming YOUR way and making him chase you so you can form a real relationshïp. That's what sparks the love. Like that old saying goes 'Chase him .. until HE catches ... YOU'. :)
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sexyandfamous wrote:
Printer_Ink wrote:
sexyandfamous wrote:
Printer_Ink wrote:
2) It is NEVER a good thing for a guy to know that you like him FIRST. Why? That means he does not have to do anything to win you. You have f**** up the balance of POWER in a relationship when he knows that you like him. He does not have to CHASE you now because all he's got to do is crook his finger ... and you would come to you. BUT subconciously, a guy NEEDS to pursue you .. this biological .. they don't even know it themselves. 3) So if you make it EASY for him to get you ... somehow (no matter how pretty etc you are) your value to him .... will start to decline. I mean .... how can a girl that's all that ... just fall into his lap like that? Nooo girls that have GOT IT are not walking up to guys (any guy) and introducing themselves (after they have been sending out signals to him) ... noooo. This is what desparate girls do that don't feel so good about themselves. That guy ALREADY sees you. You don't have to do his job for him.
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This. God, perfect what you wrote!
But I find it hard to get asked out by a shy guy or someone who thinks I am out of his league and he won't make the move. I don't hit on men but I wish some would at least try to talk to me |
If a guy is really too shy to ask you out because he thinks that .. you are out of his league. Well, you probably ARE out of his league. I don't mean anything in terms of your looks (again it's not about how you look on the outside .. it who you are on the inside.) Maybe he is still too young or whatever but still .. don't waste your time. What I mean is .. you do not want a weak man. Sorry to say it like that but ... life is hard and you want a guy that has enouigh self-esteem to approach any woman - no matter how she looks etc. He HAS to grow a backbone on this basic area or when you do get together - you will have hitched your wagon to a guy that can't handle things in life ... in other ways which means ... YOU will have to carry HIM. So you are suck with a guy that is ... maladjusted. Hey, if you are walking down the street with him and a strange man gets aggressive - don't you want to know that if anything should happen .... he would know how to fight and protect you from harm? The guy has got to play .. 'the guy' so do not do his job for him ... unless you ALWAYS want to be the guy. So if that guy is to scared to talk to you he is a weak man so .. move on. You are in the wrong company.
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When I wrote "I am out of his league" I meant that he probably believes I am too good for him and that I would never want him! My ex did tell me that I can be pretty intimidating, and perhaps this guy thinks I'll flat out tell him no if he asks me out, but it is far from the truth....
But I have to disagree on that; some guys, when they have a huge crush on a girl, they just cannot approach her. I have met many guys who get mute and serious around a girl they like simply because they cannot act near her. They are afraid of making one silly mistake and ruining everything. yet they are smart, intelligent, etc, but they are just afraid of THAT woman.
Maybe the one I am crushing o is younger than me...I think he is in his early twenties, and I am on my late twenties...aybe he will grow a backbone tomorrow
*prays*
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Printer_Ink wrote:
sexyandfamous wrote:
Printer_Ink wrote:
sexyandfamous wrote:
Printer_Ink wrote:
2) It is NEVER a good thing for a guy to know that you like him FIRST. Why? That means he does not have to do anything to win you. You have f**** up the balance of POWER in a relationship when he knows that you like him. He does not have to CHASE you now because all he's got to do is crook his finger ... and you would come to you. BUT subconciously, a guy NEEDS to pursue you .. this biological .. they don't even know it themselves. 3) So if you make it EASY for him to get you ... somehow (no matter how pretty etc you are) your value to him .... will start to decline. I mean .... how can a girl that's all that ... just fall into his lap like that? Nooo girls that have GOT IT are not walking up to guys (any guy) and introducing themselves (after they have been sending out signals to him) ... noooo. This is what desparate girls do that don't feel so good about themselves. That guy ALREADY sees you. You don't have to do his job for him.
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This. God, perfect what you wrote!
But I find it hard to get asked out by a shy guy or someone who thinks I am out of his league and he won't make the move. I don't hit on men but I wish some would at least try to talk to me |
If a guy is really too shy to ask you out because he thinks that .. you are out of his league. Well, you probably ARE out of his league. I don't mean anything in terms of your looks (again it's not about how you look on the outside .. it who you are on the inside.) Maybe he is still too young or whatever but still .. don't waste your time. What I mean is .. you do not want a weak man. Sorry to say it like that but ... life is hard and you want a guy that has enouigh self-esteem to approach any woman - no matter how she looks etc. He HAS to grow a backbone on this basic area or when you do get together - you will have hitched your wagon to a guy that can't handle things in life ... in other ways which means ... YOU will have to carry HIM. So you are suck with a guy that is ... maladjusted. Hey, if you are walking down the street with him and a strange man gets aggressive - don't you want to know that if anything should happen .... he would know how to fight and protect you from harm? The guy has got to play .. 'the guy' so do not do his job for him ... unless you ALWAYS want to be the guy. So if that guy is to scared to talk to you he is a weak man so .. move on. You are in the wrong company.
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When I wrote "I am out of his league" I meant that he probably believes I am too good for him and that I would never want him! My ex did tell me that I can be pretty intimidating, and perhaps this guy thinks I'll flat out tell him no if he asks me out, but it is far from the truth....
But I have to disagree on that; some guys, when they have a huge crush on a girl, they just cannot approach her. I have met many guys who get mute and serious around a girl they like simply because they cannot act near her. They are afraid of making one silly mistake and ruining everything. yet they are smart, intelligent, etc, but they are just afraid of THAT woman.
Maybe the one I am crushing o is younger than me...I think he is in his early twenties, and I am on my late twenties...aybe he will grow a backbone tomorrow
*prays*
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Yes, I knew what you meant. I am not a bit confused. Out of his league meaning .. you are too flipping good for him. You are not intimidating though unless you look like some big Dike with a big fake c*** between your legs. Nooo. That's what men say that are themselves weak willed and want a submissive female that knows her 'place' and does anything he says. HAAAA HAAA! I always laugh at those foolish females! F him. There is nothing wrong with you. Again, if these guys are crushing on a girl but can't find a why to approach her .. he is too young and insecure OR he is your age and insecure so he ... still will not make a good partner. You want an Apha Male ..not some weakling that will fail under the pressure of a relationship, kids, bills etc. They just have to grow a backbone. Period. It can't work otherwise. You will just be married and miserable! I know a lot of girls that are in that position. Chose wisely
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Posted: Feb 21 2013 at 4:20pm |
sexyandfamous wrote:
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What I mean is .. you do not want a weak man. Sorry to say it like that but ... life is hard and you want a guy that has enouigh self-esteem to approach any woman - no matter how she looks etc. He HAS to grow a backbone on this basic area |
Ok, I have an update and that's why I still disagree with what you wrote : today the guy I am crushing had the chance to sit right next to me in class but instead he picked another place to sit, even though he looked at me as soon as he walked in AND walked behind my seat before adjusting himself in another one.
I thought that was lame and was upset. At the end of class, he left the classroom first and I remained for about 5 minutes chatting with the professor. We were in the second floor and there are two stairways on both ends of the hallway. When I left the classroom, he was standing in front of the elevator, looking at the door to see who was coming out.
It was my chance to be near him, especially because it was obvious that he waited for me but instead....I turned around and went down the stairs.
I was just too nervous to be near him, and I don't have low self-esteem. In fact my ex said that I think highly about myself (too highly, in his opinion).
I don't want to be crushing forever, so if this guy doesn't make a move sometime in the next two weeks, I'll most likely lose interest.
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Geesh, why oh why are your micromanaging that tiny bit of interaction with little nobody kind of guy. What for. Forget about what your ex says. He is your EX so why is he even in your head. Besides THIS GUY ALREADY KNOWS YOU LIKE HIM SO GAME OVER .. YOU LOSE. Women who have GOT IT and know IT NEVVVVVER conduct themselves in this manner. NEVER! YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY WASTING YOUR TIME. Move on! You can disagree all you want ..but really you are just setting up bad patterns with men that you will continue all your life ... and then you will wonder how com things don´t work out. Get online and start reading about MEN and the way they THINK!
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Posted: Feb 21 2013 at 6:10pm |
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Geesh, why oh why are your micromanaging that tiny bit of interaction with little nobody kind of guy. What for. Forget about what your ex says. He is your EX so why is he even in your head. Besides THIS GUY ALREADY KNOWS YOU LIKE HIM SO GAME OVER .. YOU LOSE. Women who have GOT IT and know IT NEVVVVVER conduct themselves in this manner. NEVER! YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY WASTING YOUR TIME. Move on! You can disagree all you want ..but really you are just setting up bad patterns with men that you will continue all your life ... and then you will wonder how com things don´t work out. Get online and start reading about MEN and the way they THINK!
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I soooooo micromanage everything. But what are you talking about when you wrote "NEVVVVVER conduct themselves in this manner" what manner? to micromanage everything? because I am not being desperate and throwing myself at him.
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