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eanaj5 
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 Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 8:37am |
 Quiann00 wrote:
OP,
Please do not get involved in whatever system your boyfriend and his baby momma had in place. I think you may be overstepping your boundaries. Let them figure this out.
If you're insecure about him going over to the bm house, then you need to have a discussion about trust with your bf. If he doesn't adhere to it, then leave.
If this man wants to have more control over how/when he visits his son, he can file for joint custody and go through mediation to set up so type of agreement.
But unfortunately, child support and visitation is two different processes. So if he stops paying CS because she refuses to let him see the child, he is still in the wrong.
7 months in...stay out of it.
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 here you go, this is what you were looking for OP take it or leave it
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sexibeach
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 8:50am |
he has to pay regardless to her allowing him visitation.. he should have continued to pay file a petition the court to modified his support order and prove that he isn't making the same money to lower the payments.. they have guidelines that will consider his pay scale at the present time and could more than likely could have had them modified...at the same time he can request the court to enforce his visitation rights..
its never a good idea to stop paying b/c you are flipping your nose at the court, that ordered you to pay.. so he messed up by not obeying the court order, so he is going to now have a hard time modifying his payments but he still can enforce his visitation.. he can try at a later time to modify the payments after he get's over this incident and get's caught up on his arrearage.
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zolloh
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 8:52am |
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WTF is this shat?! Did this woman really tell her bf she doesnt want him going to bm's house to see his 3yr old child?!! And the nigrum complied?!!! And its a mystery why bm wouldnt want visitation outside her sight?....lemme go make some banana pudding,this thread pissed me off
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miamiu27
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:02am |
Watermelon if you come back, hopefully he has kept evidence that he was paying. He needs to submit some paperwork along with his evidence and ask for some type of custody so he can see his son.
I understand your trying to help but you should not have asked him to stop going over there. If you don't trust him that is on you. If he is there to see his son then he will just be there to see his son regardless of the mothers intentions.
I hope things work out.
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starflower7
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:03am |
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*sigh* It's so much simpler to just use a condom...
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dreamz
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 9:24am |
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Out of respect for you, you told him to stop visiting his son at his own house.
And he did.
You two losers should be very happy together.
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Claudie
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:01am |
No one have the time to be giving you free legal advice here. Tell cheapskate to pay money and hire an Attorney. Was he concerned if his
child ate, etc.,? OP, the same knife that stick a sheep will stick a
goat. Karma is a bytch with a golf club. How would you like for
another woman to do to your child, what you did to this man's child? He was a
FOOL to allow you to intervene, with the support and relationship with
his child. What do you want to be friends with his BM for?  Are you a member of Sister Girlfriends? You are unscrupulous  In a couple months when he get tired of you, there will be another woman available for him.
Edited by Claudie - Nov 22 2012 at 10:02am
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Ms.Best
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:02am |
watermelon wrote:
I was just trying to help my boo. I thought I would get some help here but guess not  |
Why did i read this in a ratchet Brooklyn accent?
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Tbaby
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 10:03am |
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What Claudie said^^^
Karma is a b with a golf club--classic! One baby mama tryin to cheat another? The irony is so delicious
Edited by Tbaby - Nov 22 2012 at 10:05am
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Babydoll9163
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Posted: Nov 22 2012 at 11:24am |
Tbaby wrote:
One baby mama tryin to cheat another? The irony is so delicious
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It really is. I think it's strange when men are scared to go to court. What's there to be scared of?
He was dumb to just hand over money without any type of paper trail. All it would take is a fallout with babymoms before she claimed he never paid for nothing blah blah blah etc.
And you really are tripping for telling him to stay away from his kid. He couldn't take little man to the park, movies, nothing? Yall belong together 
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