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 Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 4:26pm |
In the case of my ma, i think her issues stem from the lack of stability in her tumultuous childhood. I believe she is more controlling than anything but it does seem like she has like this invisible glass ceiling that she doesn't want me to break through. I think its possibly because she's afraid that I'll abandon her in old age or something.
My ma is 30 years older than me.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 4:27pm |
 Junior Jr wrote:
is your mom by any chance 11 years older than you?
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A girl I knew in high school was 10 or 11 years younger than her mom her mother came to our prom for some reason 
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 4:38pm |
maysay1 wrote:
Katrenia wrote:
I can deal with hateful females but I don't know how to handle it when she's my mother  My Mother seems to be jealous of most young women, including my daughter.Many times, I try to forgive and forget however there is no end to it. My Mother lies on me, talks behind my back, starts trouble with my kids and when I distance myself, she seems so hurt. I'm an only child and I don't want to cut her out of my life, it's just getting old. Anyone else dealing with this????
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You may be strong enough to deal with your mother's crap, but do not allow her to do the same to your children. Protect them from her, even if it means hurting her feelings.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:01pm |
Bunnyahh wrote:
GEEZ LOUISE!!! I never see this irl. My mom is the best mom ever & bends over backwards for EVERYBODY. She's so great to her grandkids that I kind of can't stand/ resent my grandparents cuz they weren't half, a fourth, an eigth the grandparent my mom is. She is so loving & supportive |
I don't understand this response. Ok so you don't "see" it in real life. I'm sure you watch enough news to make a jealous mom seem fathomable. That's why people going through dilemmas keep them a secret...folks be getting mad at THEM for telling their story. That's like if someone posted their uncle is a pedophile and saying "WTF?? My uncle is awesome and gives the best presents" *sigh*
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I'm sorry you're going through this OP. I hope she can get it together and work it out. I don't know how I would feel if I had ever found myself in that situation. Hope it all works out for you.
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your children's well being>>>>>>>>>>>>a relationship with their grandma>>>>>>>>>>her feelings
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My grandmother is jealous of her daughter (my mom). Apparently it's been like that since my mom was a child. Everything from lying on her, blaming her for everything wrong, shattering my mom's self esteem, praising her other 4 children and leaving my mom out, and just recently ...trying to drag me and my sister into the drama.
My mom and I both have her on call block.
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Yes. She's jealous of my relationships, me about to get my nursing license, looks etc.
At first I didn't think so but through the years it's proven itself, especially with my present relationship.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:30pm |
honeyb87 wrote:
My grandmother is jealous of her daughter (my mom). Apparently it's been like that since my mom was a child. Everything from lying on her, blaming her for everything wrong, shattering my mom's self esteem, praising her other 4 children and leaving my mom out, and just recently ...trying to drag me and my sister into the drama.
My mom and I both have her on call block.
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My mom did what ur grandmother did to ur mom and more to me. Half the sh*t my mom did/ the way she feels is her damn fault. No one told her to deal with the type of nicca she did to have not one but 2 kids. My brother was the apple of her eye, whereas I look exactly like the man who did u wrong and u couldn't get to stay. Dumbass decisions to me
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:30pm |
honeyb87 wrote:
My grandmother is jealous of her daughter (my mom). Apparently it's been like that since my mom was a child. Everything from lying on her, blaming her for everything wrong, shattering my mom's self esteem, praising her other 4 children and leaving my mom out, and just recently ...trying to drag me and my sister into the drama.
My mom and I both have her on call block.
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is your mom like light skinned or something? 
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