Is that a weave???

juliagulia0909 wrote: my boyfriend is white and i kinda told him about the whole weave thing and whatnot. and unfortunately he too felt it ok to straight up talk about others hair. This was the case with the guy spying for lace fronts, apparently a black male coworker told him "all black girls were lace fronts" and here we are. Before hand he and others would had never known that most black women were wearing weaves so now , yes, its kinda like a game and every girl they see they now know that more than likely shes wearing a weave and they feel special to know that they can tell the difference...to them its probably like asking someone if they are wearing makeup, its not the rudest question in the world just inappropriate. It's a little... inaccurate to think (and tell others) that more than likely every [black] girl is wearing weave. Where I work we have 14 WOC, only 4 of us wear weaves/wigs off and on. and I understand the whole black wedding thing. every culture has their own rituals and sometimes you want to know what to expect. Im african and I had no idea what jumping the broom was...on the flip side im sure some african americans would ask what to expect at an african wedding. Yeah... I have to tell you, we all don't "jump the broom." I got married in may, my sister got married in February, two friends of mine got married last October and NONE us jumped the broom. I didn't even know it was supposed to be a "black thing." I thought it was a silly questions because as an African Americans, we all follow the standard wedding script with variation depending on COUPLE. It's not like he got transported to a different country (or The Continent).

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Lol I don't know why.

Wow its that deep huh? And I've seen plenty of white women with that synthetic plastic platinum blonde barbie doll hair.

I get your point, but you kinda missed out on something important... Why do most black women wear weaves that are straight and silky and others mostly wear hair to match their own?? Because a lot of us have been brainwashed to think out natural hair was ugly or bad, or that it honestly cannot grow ( which annoys the living hell out of me). But you can't ignore that, I honestly don't care what white people think about black people's hair or what they know about it. Shot we know most of them are not brown skin or orange, but pale! Do black people walk up to them " omg is that your real skin color??" Omg do you hate yourself because your tanning? Are you like trying to be black because you want brown skin like me? It's the same thing!! Most of them already know of the woman they are about to ask is wearing a weave, they just want to be cute and or embarrass the black woman doing it. I've seen it before!! It's not about knowing of our hair naturally kinky or curly, you have some who really just want to make fun or humiliate the black woman wearing it. I'm not about to sit hear and cape for them, they ask black women/people all types of stupid and rude questions, and most of the time it is not coming from a good place.

Chris rocks's movie was one sided, it never showed black women who wore weave to match their real hair, wether relaxed or natural texture. And there are a lot of us out there, your probably can't tell because the hair looks so similar to their own. Not all us like that silky, extra long hair and so what if she does. We don't owe and explanation to anyone. Like you said it's a free country ( supposedly).
Excuse the typos I'm on my phone

I am so sick of people thinking just because you wear straight hair you are brain washed. I do not give a Damn what anyone says it is my head I wear whatever the Hell I want to when I want too it is just Hair.The beauty of being a women is that we do not have to stick to the same thing day in and day out we have makeup,push up bra's,fake eyelashes, fake hair, etc  to enhance what we look like. I love being a women I am not going let nobody tell me because I do not wear my real hair that I do not love myself that is the stupidest thing I ever heard. So because some body wear's their natural hair but they 300 lbs they love themselves more I do not think so. That is just an example I am just saying that there are more important things to worry about besides the hair that is on my head.< ="text/" id="_tmpl">