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MizzAmirah View Drop Down

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Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 10:52pm

_leah wrote:

literally all of my friends are engaged and/or have babies

This, made a post recently about it on FB.

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gabi03

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 1:42am

_leah wrote:

literally all of my friends are engaged and/or have babies

Same here, it kicked into overdrive the past year. Some friends had already started with babies in college but once everyone hit 24, my fb newsfeed got cluttered with engagements and more baby photos...it only gets worse after 26, people start looking at you wondering when you're going to find someone and have some kids...it's like backoff I got stuff to do LOL

afrokock

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 2:51am

yeah guys go through this as well..

i was honestly ready to get married when i was26/7 but my s.o at the time was like 22 and it would have been unfair for me to as her to make such a commitment when she was still on her journey of establishing her identity and only just started living life. im happy i was able to see things the way i did then because down the line sh*t got real and it was the best decision i ever made. my friends say maybe if i had proposed things would have turned out diff between us possibly but i'll never know.

the only thing missing in my life i feel is kids, but, i tend to be a bit anal about a lot of things so the timing has to be right and within marriage..

we are working towards that..

i dont envy my married friends.

o/t i do find the married people vs single people arguments frigging hilarious. i know married people who act like they are single and single (unmarried) who act like they are married. and the whole freedom vs ball and chain arguments are the most funny though

did we ever have a thread on married people should only be friends with married people? im having a brain fart and cant remember if we did

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 2:58am

i feel the same

all my 'friends' have kids and we just have much in common no more cause they have their own family, life.

but yea made me want a baby then shyt happened & now i want a puppy lol
im still young. got my life to live before i wanna settle down

let it be beautiful

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 3:18am

@Afro. yes I believe we have. Most said married folks need only have married friends. Some said due to single friends not understanding the change in the friendship dynamics so it's drama. Others said something along the lines of they didn't trust their single friends around their man. If I remember correctly.

bebe88

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 6:23am

90% of my friends have babies & are not married or engaged....

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 12:09pm

csungrl09 wrote:

petiteone29 wrote:

i feel like the oddball in my group of friends. im the only one married and the only one with kids. they arent even seriously dating anyone right now.

really? interesting. i'm sure that could be isolating, but i'm sure your friends don't think its odd.

no i think i just feel different i guess. like i am in a chapter of life that they havent even started yet. they love my husband and kids alot. sometimes they just dont understand when i cant just up and do things without planning them out first like they can.

bubblyboo

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 12:12pm

Sang Froid wrote:

Most of the people I went to school with had kids in HS or right after.

So that doesn't make me feel any type of way.

THis!

petiteone29 View Drop Down

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 12:13pm

nala52808 wrote:

I remember when my friend got married when we were 18 to some 32 year old guy. I looked at her and thought, "damn, you just ruined your life." flash forward 2 years and I still feel the same. I just can't get with the married life right now. Theres too many things I have to do, and I honestly don't feel like catering to some nicca right now.

he would be catering to you too. or atleast he should. marriage isnt about just serving your man.

but 22 is really young so i understand why you wouldnt want to get married right now.

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Posted: Dec 07 2012 at 1:47pm

Positive K wrote:

The dating world is wack right now that's for sure. Too many people playing games, not knowing what they want or even who they are. When you find somebody good, hold on to them. I don't understand dudes and women who break up with their S/O for no good reason thinking they gonna find something better out here.

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With me it's all or nothing, I'm either really into you or I'm really not... casual dating can be a fun way to occupy my time but I can tell if a guy's right for me or not fairly early on. If they're not, I lose interest right away and see no point in keeping them around (unless like I said, I just want to occupy my spare time with dates).